"JanetDoe" wrote:Everyone knows that bullying is terrible, whether they've experienced it or not. It hurts others. But why do so many stand back and watch? Why support it? Why?
We have seen just so much terrible things happening to kids who are bullied. But the problem is nobody really takes a stand. Well, maybe some will, but never everyone. WWYD(What Would You Do?, the TV show) experimented this. They took a couple of girls to the park, and had them stage an act where 1 girl was bullied and the other girls bullied her. 1 against 4. What they noticed was that most of the people that were walking by but saw the act and stood up to them were women.
I'm not saying that men aren't bullied, that men generally don't help bullied kids.... I'm saying that, well, the group consisted of girls. Notice this. Now these women that stopped them MAY OR MAY NOT have been bullied in the same circumstances-with a group of girls teaming up and bullying one girl who can't defend herself, or these women might have seen it happen before and had noticed and stood up to those girls because they felt sorry and may have known how the victim felt because of previous experience. The problem in this is that no men really stood up for that girl being bullied. They may not have experienced it themselves as the women standing up had. But that should never mean that they still shouldn't have stood up for her. She was bullied! Why can you not help her? That's what I think is wrong with bullying-the only ones standing up for it are the ones who had it happen to them too.
Agree or disagree?
Well, it's pretty obvious that bullying is bad, but childhood bullying isn't the problem in many cases. You have to consider the bully's point of view as well. Think about it: if you were raised in a nice family with no problems at all, you'd be all giddy and most likely pretty nice, unless you get spoiled by them. This is my point, bullying is caused by what the bully is succumbed to, like you stated, but there is another thing that is wrong with that little "experiment." I've seen that show, and the bullying setup was obviously staged, there's little doubt about it. Sure, you could say that only women helped, but the men could've just seen right through that sketch of their's and ignored it. Again, you really have to look in specific detail. Not all data is correct.
Here's another thing: the only "support" bullying has ever gotten is corporal punishment based parenting. I've lived through that, and honestly, it wasn't that bad. Strict, and painful if I'm mistaken about something. Yeah, I've been bullied for being immersed in my computer all day programming, but I couldn't care less. The bully's life is obviously much worse than the victim's, seeing as he/she's taking his/her anger out on him/her.
Also, the bystanders that sit back and watch most of the time know that they're helpless in saving the victim. I'm weak, and I could never stand up to someone, so really, they have excuses.