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I am at my wits end. I recently got a new foster sister in May. She's 17 and she comes from a very different part of the country. I'm from a small town, she's from one too but she's used to city life now. Anyways, she's driving me nuts! We got along perfectly at first but now not so much... she dresses really inappropriately, she hangs out with all the kids who've relentlessly bullied me for the past five years, she's messy and doesn't follow rules or do her chores, she eats all of the special foods my mom buys me for health reasons, she does bad stuff giving me a bad rep, and she dropped out of school! I've confronted her about it a bunch of times and she's just rude about it. She doesn't care about my feelings. All she cares about is herself! She doesn't even listen to my parents about it!  I don't know what to do anymore. The bullies I've been trying to push out of my life so hard are coming back in, and a little too close for comfort. There are days I can't eat lunch because there's nothing left there for me. The house smells terrible because she doesn't do her chores. My rep is completely ruined. Anyone have any ideas on what I could do? 

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Most of the rudeness and stuff might be to do with previous upbringing? When did she go into foster care?
I'm not that sure you could do a lot.
Try to be nice. It's SO hard. Trust me, I get where your coming from. (My annoying lazy cousins and stuff), but it worked. They were less rude and did stuff for me by being nicer.
I know it's probably gross, but don't do her chores. Once the house becomes REALLY filthy she'll actually realize she needs to work and do something.
I really can't think of anything else, but I'll try and think of advice soon on other stuff.


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Try to be nice. If that doesn't work when she is out lock the door and don't let her in tell she promises to do her chores and stuff.m And if THAT doesn't work try acting like her maybe she will she how bad she is being.

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It's really not on you to parent her. Her "foster parents" are the ones that are supposed to do that, not you. In less than two months I think she's established her true nature. No school, wrong crowd, inappropriate dress, lack of caring. The only suggestion for you is to hide your 'special" foods in your room. Because short of your folks doing their jobs, not much you can do because she really doesn't care.

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Hmm, thats bad! Well for the start, eating your food is easy, get all the food that can stand it outside the fridge and put them in your room, lock your room whenever you go out, yes its sort of hard, but maybve she will eventually grow out of the habbit, and then you can go back to normal. About dropping school, who cares what she does, you study well and show all of them out there what YOU can do  , not your sister.

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Just try to ignore her. If that dosent work, when your mum and dad are out, Say that there is a present in the attic for her. Make her go up the shut the little opening. Leave her in there for a while then get her down.
I have a really annoying 6 year old sis and she hogs the TV and just cares about her self.
Don't worry about your sister. If she dosent care about you, don't care about her.
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"-Allie-" wrote:

It's really not on you to parent her. Her "foster parents" are the ones that are supposed to do that, not you. In less than two months I think she's established her true nature. No school, wrong crowd, inappropriate dress, lack of caring. The only suggestion for you is to hide your 'special" foods in your room. Because short of your folks doing their jobs, not much you can do because she really doesn't care.

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i think u should still be nice to her
if that doesnt work, ignore her
if she gets nicer to you or if she doesnt, annoy her too
she'll probably ask u r u mad? say im doing what u do
if she asks u to do anything say make me
then if that doesnt work, start telling everyone in school about what she does
yell in her  face
sorry i know it sounds mean but it could work
tell ur parents about it
hope it helps! 


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i thought of something else for u
ur sisters mean right?
soo, try to think of yourself as mean as your sis
if she was being bullied by someone else like her, what would she do to shut her up?
i kow thats mean too but it is actually a good idea!


hope it helps!


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You have to understand that we cannot control or change other people's behavior. We can however change our own. If you let things bother you, then they will. It's a state of mind. Try not to allow your sister's shortcomings ruin your life. If she dresses and eats inappropriately, there is nothing much you can do. You need to stop ruining your life. There are many people like her who care only about themselves and nothing else. You have to learn to deal with them and realize that they will not change, Your attitude towards them needs to change. Stop letting her habits bother you. Keep as much away from her possible. You have tried to tell her not to ruin her life. But if she is insisting, let her. Live your life, don't ruin it because she is doing so. Don't let things bother you. Pursue what you want to do, the things that give you joy. It might be hard at first, but keep trying and ultimately you will find it easier and easier to ignore her and one day you will be like I cannot believe I let her effect me so much. Good Luck!


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