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Dear Dish-It, Why Do Guys Think They Have to Look Good?

Dear Dish-It, is here to whisper "ttyl after I've thought about this some more".

Dear Dish-It,

I love my boyfriend. I also love the Jonas Brothers - but that doesn't mean my boyfriend has to dress like them! He spends so much money on clothes and takes longer to get ready than I do! So my question is, why do guys think they have to look good everywhere they go? I feel that all they care about are their looks.
Darkstar

Dear Darkstar,

Sounds like you know some male divas, Darkstar. Yeah, it's true some guys spend more time mussin' and fussin' in the mirror before they hit the school hallways than girls. But saying all guys obsess about their looks is like saying all blondes are airheads. It's stereotyping and it's not cool.

Now to all you guy (and girl) image maniacs out there, remember this - caring about your appearance is cool cuz you should want to look and feel good, but it isn't the end-all and be-all. Intelligence, kindness, a sense of humor and being a well-rounded person is also right up there on the list.

As for your boyfriend dressin' up like he's the fourth member of the Jonas Brothers, well give him some credit! He's probably just trying to impress you with his sense of fashion cuz he knows how crazy you are about 'em. So reassure him that you like him for who he is, not for how he dresses.

So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to Dish-It here. Send all of your questions to deardish@kidzworld.com. But 'member, if ya hang out in Chat with other Kidzworld members who know ya by your 'username', ya might wanna use a secret nickname when ya write in. That way no one'll ever know it's you. And, just in case ya don't know, Dish-It gets a lotta letters everyday, and she can't answer 'em all. So keep checkin' the column cuz she's prob'ly answerin' somethin' very similar to your question while you're out doin' somethin' else. K? And Thanks! Ya keep her outta trouble. Oh! And if ya've got words of wisdom you wanna share,We'll dish 'em up, too.

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