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Dear Dish-It, Why Do Guys Think They Have to Look Good?

Dear Dish-It, is here to whisper "ttyl after I've thought about this some more".

Dear Dish-It,

I love my boyfriend. I also love the Jonas Brothers - but that doesn't mean my boyfriend has to dress like them! He spends so much money on clothes and takes longer to get ready than I do! So my question is, why do guys think they have to look good everywhere they go? I feel that all they care about are their looks.
Darkstar

Dear Darkstar,

Sounds like you know some male divas, Darkstar. Yeah, it's true some guys spend more time mussin' and fussin' in the mirror before they hit the school hallways than girls. But saying all guys obsess about their looks is like saying all blondes are airheads. It's stereotyping and it's not cool.

Now to all you guy (and girl) image maniacs out there, remember this - caring about your appearance is cool cuz you should want to look and feel good, but it isn't the end-all and be-all. Intelligence, kindness, a sense of humor and being a well-rounded person is also right up there on the list.

As for your boyfriend dressin' up like he's the fourth member of the Jonas Brothers, well give him some credit! He's probably just trying to impress you with his sense of fashion cuz he knows how crazy you are about 'em. So reassure him that you like him for who he is, not for how he dresses.

So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to Dish-It here. Send all of your questions to deardish@kidzworld.com. But 'member, if ya hang out in Chat with other Kidzworld members who know ya by your 'username', ya might wanna use a secret nickname when ya write in. That way no one'll ever know it's you. And, just in case ya don't know, Dish-It gets a lotta letters everyday, and she can't answer 'em all. So keep checkin' the column cuz she's prob'ly answerin' somethin' very similar to your question while you're out doin' somethin' else. K? And Thanks! Ya keep her outta trouble. Oh! And if ya've got words of wisdom you wanna share,We'll dish 'em up, too.

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"sparkly_chick" wrote: I keep saying stupid things and messing up with my friends and now they hate me. /.\ Don't say "they don't deserve you" or something, because I don't deserve them. They're great friends and I'm just... stupid. I'm sorry dear but things do get better and its not your fault. Everyone messes up, its just a part a life. If you need to talk and explain to me with more info you can, I'm here. :)    ^^This. You're not stupid either. Everybody makes mistakes and messes things up.
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Kirsteeeeen
Don't make your mom get irritated or she might start abusing you too. Talk to a counselor at school or something and figure out a way, like living with a relative or something. A counsellor is a good idea but talking to your mom is more important. She's your guardian. Don't worry about irritating her, tell her how you feel. Communication is important and the fear of getting abused should never ever get in between your relationship unless it's a previous factor in that relationship (not one with someone else). You have a right to tell her how you feel and have a discussion with her about it. I'm sure you can come to some sort of understanding. And if not, then maybe talk to someone outside the family. But don't go behind her back and talk to someone else about it unless it's 100% necessary for your family. She needs to know how you feel.
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Kirsteeeeen
I know it must feel awful. But you have to remember that your parents still love you, they just don't have time to show it sometimes. Autism requires a lot of work, attention, and support. Unfortunately that's a sacrifice you make for family. Sometimes you have to take a step back and look at the bigger picture. They're doing this for the family.
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Kirsteeeeen
Kirsteeeeen posted in Style:
Just go to hottopic get too many band t-shirts and a homestuck t-shirt put on black pants and cardigan and anime character shoes and the end  My life.
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Kirsteeeeen
Kirsteeeeen posted in Style:
Why not both? :p
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