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Dear Dish-It, Why Do Guys Think They Have to Look Good?

Dear Dish-It, is here to whisper "ttyl after I've thought about this some more".

Dear Dish-It,

I love my boyfriend. I also love the Jonas Brothers - but that doesn't mean my boyfriend has to dress like them! He spends so much money on clothes and takes longer to get ready than I do! So my question is, why do guys think they have to look good everywhere they go? I feel that all they care about are their looks.
Darkstar

Dear Darkstar,

Sounds like you know some male divas, Darkstar. Yeah, it's true some guys spend more time mussin' and fussin' in the mirror before they hit the school hallways than girls. But saying all guys obsess about their looks is like saying all blondes are airheads. It's stereotyping and it's not cool.

Now to all you guy (and girl) image maniacs out there, remember this - caring about your appearance is cool cuz you should want to look and feel good, but it isn't the end-all and be-all. Intelligence, kindness, a sense of humor and being a well-rounded person is also right up there on the list.

As for your boyfriend dressin' up like he's the fourth member of the Jonas Brothers, well give him some credit! He's probably just trying to impress you with his sense of fashion cuz he knows how crazy you are about 'em. So reassure him that you like him for who he is, not for how he dresses.

So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to Dish-It here. Send all of your questions to deardish@kidzworld.com. But 'member, if ya hang out in Chat with other Kidzworld members who know ya by your 'username', ya might wanna use a secret nickname when ya write in. That way no one'll ever know it's you. And, just in case ya don't know, Dish-It gets a lotta letters everyday, and she can't answer 'em all. So keep checkin' the column cuz she's prob'ly answerin' somethin' very similar to your question while you're out doin' somethin' else. K? And Thanks! Ya keep her outta trouble. Oh! And if ya've got words of wisdom you wanna share,We'll dish 'em up, too.

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HannahG
HannahG posted in Style:
Well to the people above, I shop at stores like Hollister, Forever 21, and H&M, but it's still a continuing problem because I have no way of telling if it's too kiddish. 
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glitterbomb911
glitterbomb911 posted in Style:
I think they should be aloud to wear make up when ever they want and if the parents allow them to because its not just the child's choice it's also the parents xxx
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jamie56
jamie56 posted in Style:
my ears are pierced but i don't wear earrings anymore but i wanna get a septum piercing but idk if its gonna work with my face lol  [s:p/10f2]
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The_Toxic_YOYO
Your parents clearly hate you... Just kidding but maybe its time to talk to them and see if they understand where you are coming from.
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Lynx_The_Lynx
Lynx_The_Lynx posted in Friends:
Okay, since I'm a girl and have helped many of my guy friends with this (even though I think they r too young for this but meh whatever), I can give you some advice.  1) Don't be mean or nice. You have to be yourself. Don't be nasty to her to get her to like you (it won't work), nor should you be Mr Nice Guy. Don't be there to carry her bag for her just yet.  2) If you want her attention, be creative. Writing a song is a good idea, but don't dedicate it to her. Just pretend you're aiming it at the general female population of your class. You can tell her that it's for her later, when she's into you. 3) Find out what she likes. Does she play instruments? Does she do sports? Does she fangirl over stuff? Does she play video games? Find out and DISCREETLY get her to know that you like it too, if you do of course. This is what worked for one of my friends: 1) Stay low until the perfect moment. If she falls over, come over and help her up, smile at her and blow her away with your charms, and then proceed to say hi and ask for her name as if you don't know her. It is creepy when a random guy knows your name and says it to you.... it just is idk. Walk away without looking back. This will make her curious for this stranger who helped her up. Do this for whatever situation. BUT JUST ONCE. DO NOT REPEAT. 2) If this happens again (she falls over etc), be sure to be really obvious that you're not going to help her up. Walk by without sparing a single glance. She will be reminded of you and wonder why didn't you help her. This is good - you want her to think of you. 3) Do something sweet for her. For example, if she likes a particular drink or cheap snack, buy it for her and walk up to her. Give it to her, but say something like "Hey _________! Here you go. I accidentally bought the wrong flavour and didn't want to throw it away. Don't worry - I didn't open it. Do you want it?" She should say yes, and ask for your name to say thank you. That's when you tell her. 4) Start to wave to her in the hallways and say hi sometimes. Don't do this too much though. Sometimes, if she waves first, ignore her. This should make her want your attention more. 5) Do something sweet again (like the song), but aim it not directly towards her (like I already said before - aim it towards girls in general). If you want some more, tell me! I hope this helped, but it might not - depends on what kind of girl she is.
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