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Dear Dish-It, I Want to Change My Image!

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Dear Dish-It,

Ok, I have been kinda, well, preppy, wearing labels like Abercrombie and all. I just went to my first punk rock concert though, and I want to change, clothes-wise. Like, I'd rather be more punkish - as in, wearing more black and more studded things. But I am afraid my mom and my sister won't like me and will laugh at the idea. I'm afraid of being shot down. What do I do?
goodcharlottefan123


Dear goodcharlottefan123,

There's nothing wrong with wanting to change your image. In fact, it's a pretty big part of being a teen. It's important to try new things and explore new ways of expressing yourself (without putting yourself in harms way, of course). The road to self-discovery isn't always a smooth one though and chances are, not everyone is going to approve of the new you. So, you need to stay focused on the things that make you happy. If wearing some extra studs on your belt makes you happy, then don't let anyone's opinion stop you. It's hard when your family doesn't understand what you are going through, so if your mom and sis start raggin' on you for your new look, just sit down with 'em and explain why you've taken on this new punky image. Hopefully they'll respect your decisions and keep their negativity to themselves. Good luck!


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    abby-nicole

    abby-nicole wrote:

    I need my own image. Idk who I am anymore tbh :/
    commented: Thu Jan 02, 2014

    ImTooCuteDoe

    ImTooCuteDoe wrote:

    im fine with who i am and i am cute for me not anyone else
    commented: Thu Jan 02, 2014

    KyleSucks

    KyleSucks wrote:

    I do want to change my image I comfortable with quicksilver shorts and a tank top
    commented: Thu Jan 02, 2014

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    Boysrock50
    Boysrock50 posted in Friends:
    Yeah I had a friend in the same situation as you, he was too scared to say anything so we spoke for him. Now the 'friend' has changed and hes our mate. Just tell her straight and firmly, its the only way
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    kaykay2002 posted in Friends:
    "Boysrock50" wrote:She is obviously NOT your best friend.I wouldn't even call her a friendShe is a bully who thinks she can have her own wayShe thinks she can control you like you're her follower because she the truth is she needs youBe smart and leave her because she's only going to keep you down and then one day she will find  friends just like her and she will just ignore you forever, thinking shes too cool for you.I would either:Tell her straight that she needs to make her own friends because you don't want to be friends anymoreor:Tell her that you don't like what she does and either she changes her ways and acts more like a friend, or you cant be friends anymore.I'm not trying to be harsh, I'm being wise and you should be wise too. Thanks I actually might try that but she is really stubborn and will not take no for an answer I have tried just ignoring her but he will kick, hit, or punch me to get attention. my parents also don't like her bcuz she is bossy. I also have to go to summer camp with her for the next 2 weeks and w have to be buddies for it so i think i might die
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    Boysrock50
    Boysrock50 posted in Friends:
    She is obviously NOT your best friend. I wouldn't even call her a friend She is a bully who thinks she can have her own way She thinks she can control you like you're her follower because she the truth is she needs you Be smart and leave her because she's only going to keep you down and then one day she will find  friends just like her and she will just ignore you forever, thinking shes too cool for you. I would either: Tell her straight that she needs to make her own friends because you don't want to be friends anymore or: Tell her that you don't like what she does and either she changes her ways and acts more like a friend, or you cant be friends anymore. I'm not trying to be harsh, I'm being wise and you should be wise too.
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    -Allie- posted in Friends:
    I would drop her for two main reasons. One - guilt by association. Meaning people might be afraid to be your friend because they think you might bully them too like she does.  Two - Losing her "only friend" as you say may make her realize she needs to make a change on how she treats people. In any case, do it nicely if you do! HTH! 
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    jordand08
    jordand08 posted in Friends:
    She's not a very good friend.
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