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Dear Dish-It, My Sister's Driving Me Crazy


Dear Dish-It, is here to whisper "ttyl after I've thought about this some more".


Dear Dish-It,

My little sister (who's 9,) is a total brat! She won't give me personal space or anything. To top it all off, once I invited my friends, who are boys, over and she took my bra and ran around the front room swinging it and threw it at one of them. I can't hurt her without getting in trouble and I can't ignore her - HELP!
sailorsun12


Dear sailorsun12,

Yeah, that sucks. You've got a couple of options... have you told your 'rents that she's making your life miserable? Rat her out everytime she does something annoying - hopefully she'll at least get in a little trouble. This tactic can backfire though, and all your whining could make your 'rents get ticked at you, so be careful. Then, if ya can't ignore her, fight fire with fire. If she pulls your bra out again, hang her undies from the tree in the front yard. You could also pull the heads off her Barbies or pants her in front of her friends, or in a public place. Of course, although there is instant satisfaction with these methods, you're bound to get in trouble. Afterall, you're the older sister and you should be "more mature" and "know better" - at least that's probably what your 'rents will say. Are you sure you just can't ignore her?


Dear Dish-It,

I think my BF is cheating on me. He asked his cousin for condoms and when his cousin asked if they were for me, he said no, she's not sexually active. My BF also likes this other girl. What should I do? Break up with him or not?
luvhurts


Dear luvhurts,

I can't believe you even need to ask what to do about this loser. Come on, luvhurts, grab a little self-respect. I hate to be harsh, but this dude is not worth your time or effort. Forget the whole cheating issue that the request for condoms brings up - you said he likes another girl. That alone should be enough to kick this boy to the curb. I mean, don't ya want a guy who's totally into you - not just using you while he works on snagging another girl. Dump him and don't look back.


Dear Dish-It,

I really like this guy but he is ten years older than me. I think he likes me. But how can a big man like him even bother with a young girl?
Elves


Dear Elves,

There is no way for a "big man like him" to bother with a young girl like you - at least not without risking a possible jail sentence (depending on the state you live in.) Your info in your email says you're 15 - that means this dude is 25. A relationship between a 25 year-old man and a 15 year-old girl isn't exactly a good idea. In fact, sticking your tongue to a frozen metal pipe is probably a better idea - and may cause you less pain and trouble in the long run. Even though it may not feel like it, you and your crush are miles apart emotionally. It's not the end of the world to have a crush on this dude, but you'd be better off finding someone closer to your age to get involved with.


So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .


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