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Dear Dish-It, Should I Switch Schools?


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Dear Dish-It,

I have a problem. My friend is going out with this really popular guy and she's acting really stuck-up and she never hangs with us anymore. Her boyfriend talks bad about us and she doesn't even stick up for us. I'm going out with this guy that my friend's boyfriend doesn't like and it's a total disaster. What should I do?
chicalarena88


Dear chicalarena88,

Sounds like your friend is letting her boyfriend's popularity go to her head. It also sounds like her boyfriend is a real jerk. Talk to your friend when she's not with her BF. Tell her that she's not being cool to you and that putting a guy before friends never works out. It may sound like a cliche but the fact is, boys come and go but friends are forever. If your pal still has any sense left, she'll smarten up and start treatin' ya better. If she doesn't, she'll keep acting like a tool until the boyfriend dumps her. I'm sure she'll want some friends then. The question is, will ya still want to be her friend?


Dear Dish-It,

I just started high school this year. My junior high was split up into two different high schools. My "best friends" go to my school. They've been mean and are ignoring me lately and not talking to me. I have so many friends at the other school. I am not allowed to switch schools, even though they are in the same district. Should I try to be friends with the people at my school, even though they hate me, or should I just stick with my better friends at the other school? Help!!! (Next year I can transfer schools if I want.)
skittles123


Dear skittles123,

Well, this one is a tough one. If I were you, I'd definitely be spending a lot of time with the friends from the other school. However, I wouldn't totally rule out the peeps at the school you're currently attending. Try meeting some new peeps there, but don't bother with the losers who blew you off. They aren't worth your time - but maybe there are other people there who are. Try joining a club, sports team or activity at school, as a way to meet peeps. If, at the end of the year, you still aren't happy, then maybe changing schools would be best.


Dear Dish-It,

I'm totally depressed. I think my boyfriend is gonna dump me. I'm not sure though cuz he won't call me and won't pick up the phone when I call him - which is about every hour. We haven't seen each other for six days and he hasn't spoken to me for three days. I have no clue why he won't talk to me either. The last day he talked to me, he was happy and he said he loved me, etc. That night though, he turned all mean and said he needed to think about us. I'm really scared and it's all I can think about. I think about it so hard my head feels like it's gonna explode. I've cried every day and my eyes are all dry and gross cuz there's no more moisture. I really love him and I wouldn't be able to live normally without him. What should I do?
kellyblue15


Dear kellyblue15,

You need to give yourself a break. Take a deep breath and try to relax. Your boyfriend is having a crisis. It may end with a break-up, it may not. I wish I could see the future for ya and tell you how this will go down, but I don't know. Chances are your BF doesn't know. Sometimes, especially when you're a teenager, you can get overwhelmed by feelings and stuff. This seems like one of those times for your BF. The best thing you can do is stop calling him, give him some space and take care of you. Get the girlfriends together and do something fun, like watch movies or go to a concert. If you're not up to a big group thing, call your BFF and just cruise the mall, buy some new togs or have an ice cream pig-out session. I know it'll still suck - and it'll still hurt, but getting your mind off of the situation is the best bet. He'll come around when he is ready. Hang in there.


So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .


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