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Dear Dish-It, I'm Scared of What I'm Becoming

Advice for teens about death, grief and how to deal with losing someone you love.
Advice For Teens About Death

Dear Dish-It, is here to whisper "ttyl after I've thought about this some more".


Dear Dish-It,

I'm scared of what life is. I'm scared of what I'm becoming. I need your help! I'm getting into a lot trouble. I'm swearing all the time, I'm smoking all the time and I started drinking occasionally, too. My grades are slipping. I was an A-B student, now I'm getting Es. I know how stupid I'm acting, I just feel so alone. My parents died about a month ago in a car accident, my boyfriend broke up with me, and I'm staying with my stupid, idiotic grandma who's planning on becoming my "legal guardian." I know what I'm doing is wrong and I need direction but it's so hard. Please, please help me!
imscared


Dear imscared,

I'm sorry to hear about your mom and dad. Losing your 'rents is never easy, especially at a time when you're already dealing with so many conflicting emotions. I think it's important for you to get involved with a support group with other teens who have lost someone close to them. Talking to other people, who are struggling with the same issues, will help you to realize that what you are going through is totally normal. It will also help you to find better ways to deal with your grief and anger than flunking out of school and endangering your health by smoking and drinking. While you may not be able to control everything that is happening to you right now, you can take control of how you deal with things. I suggest you talk to a school counselor or even a doctor about hooking you up with a group or therapist to talk to.


  • For the rest of Dish-It's answer to imscared's question, click here!

So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .


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Future_Forever_Boo
Maybe it would be good to try to speak with your counselor and try to know them better ...
commented: Fri Oct 26, 2012

SamWolfchick

SamWolfchick wrote:

hmm....
commented: Sun Oct 21, 2012

sweetjaja21

sweetjaja21 wrote:

i know how you feel dude.
commented: Sun Oct 21, 2012

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Dear Dish-It in the forums

SillyRabbit123
SillyRabbit123 posted in Friends:
Ummm say your taken.
reply about 2 hours
Kimim8
Kimim8 posted in Friends:
:/ I think that I flirt with a lot of guys by accident :/
reply about 2 hours
bannabelle
bannabelle posted in Friends:
delete her as a friend
reply about 2 hours
blinkie
blinkie posted in Family Issues:
Just lock the doors and watch some TV and relax c:
reply about 3 hours
-systemofabreakd0wn
There's no need to be scared of being home alone. Just lock the doors, and raid the fridge for food or something. If it really worries you that much, you should make him listen to you. If he really wants to spend that much time with his girlfriend then they should both babysit you. 
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