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Dear Dish-It, I'm Scared of What I'm Becoming


Dear Dish-It, is here to whisper "ttyl after I've thought about this some more".


Dear Dish-It,

I'm scared of what life is. I'm scared of what I'm becoming. I need your help! I'm getting into a lot trouble. I'm swearing all the time, I'm smoking all the time and I started drinking occasionally, too. My grades are slipping. I was an A-B student, now I'm getting Es. I know how stupid I'm acting, I just feel so alone. My parents died about a month ago in a car accident, my boyfriend broke up with me, and I'm staying with my stupid, idiotic grandma who's planning on becoming my "legal guardian." I know what I'm doing is wrong and I need direction but it's so hard. Please, please help me!
imscared


Dear imscared,

I'm sorry to hear about your mom and dad. Losing your 'rents is never easy, especially at a time when you're already dealing with so many conflicting emotions. I think it's important for you to get involved with a support group with other teens who have lost someone close to them. Talking to other people, who are struggling with the same issues, will help you to realize that what you are going through is totally normal. It will also help you to find better ways to deal with your grief and anger than flunking out of school and endangering your health by smoking and drinking. While you may not be able to control everything that is happening to you right now, you can take control of how you deal with things. I suggest you talk to a school counselor or even a doctor about hooking you up with a group or therapist to talk to.


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So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .


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hugebear
hugebear posted in Friends:
Congratulations on being gifted and getting all the opportunties what your getting :) You knows your friends better than any of us and how does you think they will react if you tell them?  Thinks about if one of your friends told you and how you would feel.  Be proud and enjoy your learning and you will meet other gifted people too in your classes and ask them their experiences too of how/if they told friends. If it was me then I probably wouldnt but thats just me personality. I wouldnt ever get in the gifted group anyway so I doesnt really have to think about this :)
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__dischic3__
__dischic3__ posted in Style:
today I got my hair down...chillin'
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Teh_Skittlez
Teh_Skittlez posted in Friends:
Don't go out of your way to talk about it. A lot of people are off put by people who talk about their intelligence a lot. If it comes up in a conversation, you can talk about it, but you probably won't need to tell them. Usually with people who are genuinely intelligent, they don't need to talk about their intelligence, it's obvious to everyone around you, and therefore people who are not as intelligent might feel like you're rubbing it in. 
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jordand08
jordand08 posted in Friends:
Maybe you should wait until you feel a little bit more comfy talking to them, and then tell them!  :D
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totalgeek
totalgeek posted in Friends:
There is a slight issue with that. I am rarely comfortable talking with children my own age.
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