Dear Dish-It, I'm Scared of What I'm Becoming

Advice for teens about death, grief and how to deal with losing someone you love.
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Dear Dish-It,

I'm scared of what life is. I'm scared of what I'm becoming. I need your help! I'm getting into a lot trouble. I'm swearing all the time, I'm smoking all the time and I started drinking occasionally, too. My grades are slipping. I was an A-B student, now I'm getting Es. I know how stupid I'm acting, I just feel so alone. My parents died about a month ago in a car accident, my boyfriend broke up with me, and I'm staying with my stupid, idiotic grandma who's planning on becoming my "legal guardian." I know what I'm doing is wrong and I need direction but it's so hard. Please, please help me!
imscared


Dear imscared,

I'm sorry to hear about your mom and dad. Losing your 'rents is never easy, especially at a time when you're already dealing with so many conflicting emotions. I think it's important for you to get involved with a support group with other teens who have lost someone close to them. Talking to other people, who are struggling with the same issues, will help you to realize that what you are going through is totally normal. It will also help you to find better ways to deal with your grief and anger than flunking out of school and endangering your health by smoking and drinking. While you may not be able to control everything that is happening to you right now, you can take control of how you deal with things. I suggest you talk to a school counselor or even a doctor about hooking you up with a group or therapist to talk to.


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    evangeline bella
    well life is full of miseries bt lift up ur soul... be strong...
    commented: Tue May 22, 2012

    cayla346

    cayla346 wrote:

    Dude you need to get your confidence level up, stop smoking,stop drinking and lower th...
    commented: Fri Apr 13, 2012

    J-peezee

    J-peezee wrote:

    What I suggest is go to a phyciatrist. When I was 5 my grandma died and i was REALLY sa...
    commented: Fri Jan 27, 2012

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