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Dear Dish-It, I'm Scared of What I'm Becoming


Dear Dish-It, is here to whisper "ttyl after I've thought about this some more".


Dear Dish-It,

I'm scared of what life is. I'm scared of what I'm becoming. I need your help! I'm getting into a lot trouble. I'm swearing all the time, I'm smoking all the time and I started drinking occasionally, too. My grades are slipping. I was an A-B student, now I'm getting Es. I know how stupid I'm acting, I just feel so alone. My parents died about a month ago in a car accident, my boyfriend broke up with me, and I'm staying with my stupid, idiotic grandma who's planning on becoming my "legal guardian." I know what I'm doing is wrong and I need direction but it's so hard. Please, please help me!
imscared


Dear imscared,

I'm sorry to hear about your mom and dad. Losing your 'rents is never easy, especially at a time when you're already dealing with so many conflicting emotions. I think it's important for you to get involved with a support group with other teens who have lost someone close to them. Talking to other people, who are struggling with the same issues, will help you to realize that what you are going through is totally normal. It will also help you to find better ways to deal with your grief and anger than flunking out of school and endangering your health by smoking and drinking. While you may not be able to control everything that is happening to you right now, you can take control of how you deal with things. I suggest you talk to a school counselor or even a doctor about hooking you up with a group or therapist to talk to.


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So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .


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carolyna_03
carolyna_03 posted in Friends:
Dear dish it, plz help my friends treat me like a third wheel everyday I'm happy but then I'm ether getting left out pushed to the curb or something like that. I want to ditch them but I don't have anyone else to talk to or hang with, I was lonely at school because they weren't there help! Wat do I do
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Flamesword15
Flamesword15 posted in Friends:
Friends are hard to find, I will say that, but it's easy to make new friends:)<3
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Colorpaw
Colorpaw posted in Family Issues:
  "Colorpaw" wrote: God yes! My mom would kill me if she found me on this site! -.- It gets annoying sometimes. My dad is strict too, but maybe not as much. I have to keep sites where I have any kind of interaction with people I haven't met face to face a secret, and it gets hard sometimes because I'm on quite a few roleplay sites which obviously involve chatting/interacting with people. I trust everybody on those sites though, but try telling my mom that.     My parents have gotten a lot better since then, but they're still strict about the chat sites and all. My mom is still very strict, but not nearly as much as then. I guess it's because I've gotten older. I'll be 13 in a few days. c: ALSO. If any of you saw my other post, pretend you didn't xD For some reason I thought I'd posted the original forum post. xDD I guess that's what happens when you haven't been on a site in a couple of years, you start forgetting things.  
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tweenblogger
Thanks so much.  :love
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Shannyboo3
I know exactly how you feel.  I'm going through the same thing. The thing to know is none of it's your fault.  And you can visit your mom or your dad.  You can try to get your mind of it by hanging out with your friends at school.  I feel your pain.   And I feel bad that this kind of stuff happens in life.  But god will make everything better. :)
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