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Dear Dish-It, I'm Scared of What I'm Becoming

Advice for teens about death, grief and how to deal with losing someone you love.
Advice For Teens About Death

Dear Dish-It, is here to whisper "ttyl after I've thought about this some more".


Dear Dish-It,

I'm scared of what life is. I'm scared of what I'm becoming. I need your help! I'm getting into a lot trouble. I'm swearing all the time, I'm smoking all the time and I started drinking occasionally, too. My grades are slipping. I was an A-B student, now I'm getting Es. I know how stupid I'm acting, I just feel so alone. My parents died about a month ago in a car accident, my boyfriend broke up with me, and I'm staying with my stupid, idiotic grandma who's planning on becoming my "legal guardian." I know what I'm doing is wrong and I need direction but it's so hard. Please, please help me!
imscared


Dear imscared,

I'm sorry to hear about your mom and dad. Losing your 'rents is never easy, especially at a time when you're already dealing with so many conflicting emotions. I think it's important for you to get involved with a support group with other teens who have lost someone close to them. Talking to other people, who are struggling with the same issues, will help you to realize that what you are going through is totally normal. It will also help you to find better ways to deal with your grief and anger than flunking out of school and endangering your health by smoking and drinking. While you may not be able to control everything that is happening to you right now, you can take control of how you deal with things. I suggest you talk to a school counselor or even a doctor about hooking you up with a group or therapist to talk to.


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So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .


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JesseWesse

JesseWesse wrote:

samethang wut happend to me ahahah
commented: Sun Aug 17, 2014

CuteMoo2

CuteMoo2 wrote:

Grade E? and awwwe thts sad doe u need a big hug Sad
commented: Thu Feb 06, 2014

Queen_Milah

Queen_Milah wrote:

I didnt know there was such grade as an E.
commented: Fri Jan 17, 2014

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I think you need to talk to your mom- to be honest, I don't see anything wrong with a B grade, but it seems clear that she thinks otherwise. Or maybe give each other a bit of space, and then discuss the situation with her.
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Sighs My mom is getting mad at me when my dad gets mad and starts griping about how bad my grades are when i have B's in all classes then she gets mad and says i never talk to her well i don't wonder why i don't talk to her She just gets mad and blames it on me she dosn't hit but she calls me a S and a B u know all those words I'm sitting in one room watching tv and she comes in and says she was in a good mood and blames me and says its my fault I really don't blame my brother for not liking her i know it sounds harsh but i don't blame him please just help I'm about ready to get the razer out again and i've quitted that for like 4 months
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