Dear Dish-It, He Says a Girl Punked Me Out

Dear Dish-It,

My (X) boyfriend broke up with me because (he says) that a girl punked me out. We were friends, but now I have funny feelings being around her because I don't like her 4 what she did. Anyways he dumped me and I wanted 2 cry cuz I was going 2 dump him that very same day, but I got scared & he got 2 it first. He also said we are in the same class at the same school & I was getting him into 2 much trouble & he was tired of it. But the part that really hurt me was that he told my friends before me. Then, worst of all, at the school lunchtable, he told me the bad news. My best friend knew and didn't tell me.

Dear Sweet,

Okay, where should I begin. You're hurt. Even if you were going to dump your boy first, it still sucks to be the dumpee... particularly when you wanted to be the dumper. I know it doesn't sound too cool but the truth is everyone gets all "hey you can't dump me cuz I was going to dump you first." What's really funny is everybody feels like that, no matter how old. As for the girl who punked you out - walk away. Don't give her another thought. You and your boy are none of her business (unless she's his sister and she was giving him the heads-up on your dumping plan. Then, who can blame her.)But I figure the real pain is the betrayal - your friend was no friend when she didn't keep watch for you. What's that all about? I'm not suggesting you have it out with her, but call that girl up and tell her you're choked. Ask her wassup? Honestly, I can't think of a good excuse but she might have one. So let her tell you. You're already down a boy, you don't wanna be down a girl too... do ya?

Dear Dish-It,

Me and my boyfriend broke up, too. I was hoping to get him back, because of my looks (which is why he liked me in the first place) and my trendy style, but it didn't work. After 6 weeks in school he came back and asked me to go out with him. I said no and walked away. He ran toward me and said "listen, me and you go good together because, as they say, ugly meaning me and beautiful you, go together." I was so suprised he had said that. I smiled at him and said "...NO!" and walked away. I turned around and said "You should've stayed with me and not gone with anyone else!" and turned right back around. Lookin' mad at himself, he went to his 5th period class. I'm sorry, but I got a boyfriend and you should have listened... I thought.


It's great to hear that you take so much pride in yourself. Everyone should have your confidence. But ease up girl, cuz you sound about as deep as a puddle. It's nice to look good and know your own style - but that ain't what I'm hearing from you. Being trending isn't knowning your own style it's buying into everyone else's. Personally, I don't want to show up to a gig - be it school or a party - dressed like the rest. More up - it's all about the filling... who you are as person, not how your package is labelled. That said, you definitely put your X in his place and it sounds like he deserved it. Love yourself and the rest of them will come runnin'.

So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .

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