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Dear Dish-It, Am I Just a Hello Kitty?


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Dear Dish-It,

Okay so there's this guy named Ed, and he (way back in seventh grade) gave me my first dance. He was okay. Now in ninth grade, he is at the same school, and he said hello to me a couple of times around periods... but not much. Now my friend is squeezing in the idea that I like him. Suddenly, I developed a crush on him, but how do I get him to talk to me if he thinks I'm just a hello kitty?

Anon


Dear Anon,

Ed sounds like a sweetheart, but he'll never be your sweetheart if you don't do something fast! Did this guy ask you to dance in the seventh grade? If he did - he liked you. If he says hi to you at school - he still likes you. Sounds like your friend is picking up his vibe, so why aren't you? Don't sell yourself short, you're not just a Hello Kitty. Go for it, but take it slow (if you're unsure.) Start by saying hi back, and give him a chance to talk to you. That means ditch your backup when your paths cross. I'm not saying dump your girls; I'm just saying there is nothing scarier than a pack of girls cruisin' the halls. Make conversation with this guy and I bet he asks you out before you get the chance to ask him. Besides it's the new millenium - grrrl power and all that, so get with the program. Here's the thing - even if he does think of you as a Hello Kitty, he sounds like a good guy to have as a friend.


Dear Dish-It,

Hi, I just wanna know will you answer the e-mails? OK, I have a problem, there is this boy I like but my friend likes him too... He asked me out but he doesn't like my friend. Now she is saying that she will not be my friend if I go out with him. I like him and I don't know if should I go out with him or keep a friendship. What makes it so bad is I just broke up with my b/f about a month ago and she went out with him, I don't call her a best friend anymore because of what she did. And now I come across someone I like, and he likes me, but she's talking about not being my friend. To tell you the truth I don't really care now, because she has done a lot of stuff that has hurt me and I'm still her friend. That shows you that I am a true friend. But now I don't think I should worry about us being friends, because I don't think she deserves a friend like me. So what should I do?
JOL


Dear JOL,

WOW! That was like listening to someone's therapy. There is little left for me to say. What I hear is you being a super friend, while your friend is being a selfish friend... and that's no friend at all. And yet, it sounds like you still like her and what you really want is a supportive friend, who wants the best for you and gives you the green light to hook up with your boy. Well, that's what we all want, but I don't know if you're going to get that now. So here's what you do: Ask yourself which is more important - hooking up with this boy or keeping your friend. If the boy comes first then go for it, but tell your friend. Be totally straight up with her. Don't look for a fight but lay it out for her, girl. Maybe she can't see past herself to realize how she is treating you. If she still won't back you up, then ditch the chick! Friends are suppose to be there for you, not hate you for what you've got. But flip it over - if your girl's more important than this boy... then leave him out of it. But you still need to talk it out with your friend.


Dear Dish-It,

I like this boy named Kenny and we always play around saying we are going out. I do want to go out with him what should I do?
Ice


Dear Ice,

If this boy is playing at liking you and acting like you are going out - he likes you. Trust me, no one pretends to like someone unless they like someone. Would you? So what do you do? Hmmm, tell him already. I means that's what both of you are doing! You're playing at telling each other that you like each other and want to go out with each other, but neither of you will be straight up. If it's really so hard to say "Hey let's really go out," then send him an email with the link to this page. Maybe he'll get the message when he reads his name in a Dear Dish-It letter!


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    drowning posted in Style:
      "imtcutiie" wrote: DONT DO IT JUST PLEASE #### #### #### ......... CHANGING EYE COLOR  JUST WRONG   Changing eye color isn't wrong. :^) But, you can't simply change it with "spells" or videos. To change your eye color, you will need to either wear contacts during the day to appear that you have different colored eyes than you truly have, or medically having a doctor perform surgical iris correction.
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    drowning posted in Family Issues:
    I hope you texted back if you felt that it would be the right thing to do for yourself. I did not have a good childhood due to my birthmother and father. But, in recent time, I have come to enjoy talking to my birthfather and completely cannot stand my birthmother or her new husband anymore. I plan to actually meet him for the first time in 16 years if I can join my fiancé's family vacation.  Point of the matter, do what you feel is right. If you want to talk to him; talk to him. If you don't, don't reply if you don't feel comfortable too. It is purely your choice who you allow in your life, even when it comes down to blood and family.
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    drowning posted in Family Issues:
    It isn't pathetic in the slightest to seek help. I don't think it is right for your mother and siblings to completely disown you over your choice of living arrangements. If they have pushed you away, remember that it is not your fault and it is purely theirs. You made a choice that you felt would benefit you, and judging from their behavior, it was a good choice. As for your father, I don't fight with my own very much, but when I do it tends to be pretty bad. My mother on the other hand, I fight with constantly so I understand where you're coming from. You shouldn't have to do anything. From the sound of it, it seems more like a personal issue going on with himself, especially a sense of shame or regret with his previous exes so he uses you as an outlet because you're the closest thing he has.  I say find an outlet, a healthy one. Sometimes it is best to let them ramble on until they wear themselves out, but remember that self-defense and "talking back" is not always a bad thing just because they are your guardian. It is important to take a stand for yourself. Be respectful, don't sink to their level.
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    drowning posted in Family Issues:
    I think it is very important to find a healthy outlet and someone to talk to whether it's a doctor, friend, family member, ect. You can even find a journal to write in, if it will help you. I promise you, it isn't worth it to let families opinions and views affect you. I let the same thing happen to me and I still struggle over things that I wish I didn't.
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    drowning posted in Friends:
    Personally, given your age, the idea of a crush is a bit cute, but you're a little young for anything serious. I would recommend waiting until you truly know what you're doing. (And, believe me, you may not see it now, but you will when you're older.) But, if you really do want to find out, you need to remember that boys and girls both feel things. Boys aren't aliens, they aren't emotionless, and they aren't always just  dumbieheads.  You'll find it funny later on in life from how nervous you had gotten over a crush So honestly, just be straight forward. If you need a topic starter to bring it up, joke about old rumors that used to spread about you both.
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