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Dear Dish-It, Am I Just a Hello Kitty?


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Dear Dish-It,

Okay so there's this guy named Ed, and he (way back in seventh grade) gave me my first dance. He was okay. Now in ninth grade, he is at the same school, and he said hello to me a couple of times around periods... but not much. Now my friend is squeezing in the idea that I like him. Suddenly, I developed a crush on him, but how do I get him to talk to me if he thinks I'm just a hello kitty?

Anon


Dear Anon,

Ed sounds like a sweetheart, but he'll never be your sweetheart if you don't do something fast! Did this guy ask you to dance in the seventh grade? If he did - he liked you. If he says hi to you at school - he still likes you. Sounds like your friend is picking up his vibe, so why aren't you? Don't sell yourself short, you're not just a Hello Kitty. Go for it, but take it slow (if you're unsure.) Start by saying hi back, and give him a chance to talk to you. That means ditch your backup when your paths cross. I'm not saying dump your girls; I'm just saying there is nothing scarier than a pack of girls cruisin' the halls. Make conversation with this guy and I bet he asks you out before you get the chance to ask him. Besides it's the new millenium - grrrl power and all that, so get with the program. Here's the thing - even if he does think of you as a Hello Kitty, he sounds like a good guy to have as a friend.


Dear Dish-It,

Hi, I just wanna know will you answer the e-mails? OK, I have a problem, there is this boy I like but my friend likes him too... He asked me out but he doesn't like my friend. Now she is saying that she will not be my friend if I go out with him. I like him and I don't know if should I go out with him or keep a friendship. What makes it so bad is I just broke up with my b/f about a month ago and she went out with him, I don't call her a best friend anymore because of what she did. And now I come across someone I like, and he likes me, but she's talking about not being my friend. To tell you the truth I don't really care now, because she has done a lot of stuff that has hurt me and I'm still her friend. That shows you that I am a true friend. But now I don't think I should worry about us being friends, because I don't think she deserves a friend like me. So what should I do?
JOL


Dear JOL,

WOW! That was like listening to someone's therapy. There is little left for me to say. What I hear is you being a super friend, while your friend is being a selfish friend... and that's no friend at all. And yet, it sounds like you still like her and what you really want is a supportive friend, who wants the best for you and gives you the green light to hook up with your boy. Well, that's what we all want, but I don't know if you're going to get that now. So here's what you do: Ask yourself which is more important - hooking up with this boy or keeping your friend. If the boy comes first then go for it, but tell your friend. Be totally straight up with her. Don't look for a fight but lay it out for her, girl. Maybe she can't see past herself to realize how she is treating you. If she still won't back you up, then ditch the chick! Friends are suppose to be there for you, not hate you for what you've got. But flip it over - if your girl's more important than this boy... then leave him out of it. But you still need to talk it out with your friend.


Dear Dish-It,

I like this boy named Kenny and we always play around saying we are going out. I do want to go out with him what should I do?
Ice


Dear Ice,

If this boy is playing at liking you and acting like you are going out - he likes you. Trust me, no one pretends to like someone unless they like someone. Would you? So what do you do? Hmmm, tell him already. I means that's what both of you are doing! You're playing at telling each other that you like each other and want to go out with each other, but neither of you will be straight up. If it's really so hard to say "Hey let's really go out," then send him an email with the link to this page. Maybe he'll get the message when he reads his name in a Dear Dish-It letter!


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