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Dear Dish-It, How Do I Know if He Likes Me?

Dear Dish-It,

I am crushing on this boy but I don’t know if he likes me back. What should I do to find out if he likes me back?

Crushing

Dear Crushing,

Guys are funny creatures. Unlike girls, who give out clear-cut signals of interest, boys have a tendency to mix them all up. There are so many games and so many tactics they try before they will actually admit to a girl that they like her. Furthermore, the signs they give usually don't seem like signs of attraction at all! The following signs that are a dead-giveaway that he likes you:

His body speaks volumes about his feelings.

He might start talking differently around you - either acting louder in your presence to attract your attention or suddenly getting all shy and quiet. Watch him carefully when you're around. Does he move closer to you whenever he can? When you chat, does he look you right in the eye?

Actions speak louder than words.

Guys find it hard to say, straight-up, "I like you." Instead he might start treating you like one of the guys - picking on you and teasing you. It sounds bizarre but he'll do anything to get your attention. If he's got it really bad, he'll stick up for you in any situation, even if he knows you're in the wrong.

By your side.

On the other hand, he could act like a real Casanova, praising you for no apparent reason. Is he super-friendly toward you? Is he always around you during class, at recess or when you're walking home from school?

You make him nervous.

Does he get edgy when you're around? Of course, he could be a jittery kinda guy but unless you're a really scary chick, chances are he likes you and is worried about making a fool of himself when you're around. If he blushes when you talk to him he might as well be wearing a huge neon sign over his head that says, "I love you!"

You're under surveillance.

You're the favourite topic of conversation. He's talking to his friends and your friends about you. Asking questions about you, recounting times you spent together and getting up the courage to speak to you. When you are around it's a constant blitz of calls and texts to your cell and half the time he says he's called you by mistake... yeah, right! The truth is he just wants to get to know you better and probably to check out whether he's got any competition.

What to do about it?

If your crush has three or more of these symptoms, it's almost certain he really likes you. What are you going to do about it? Maybe it's time to trust your gut and take action. He will certainly be grateful if you make the first move. Crushes are very complicated! There's never any right or wrong way to go about your situation. Here are some ideas:

  • Talk to his friends (especially guy friends) about him if you want to find out if he likes you or if he's asked about you. Ask them how they think he feels about you.
  • Of course, the best thing to do is to tell him how you feel. You can call him, write him a letter/e-mail or have a friend tell him, but the best way is to tell him in person.
  • Ask him if he would like to hang out with you and a group of friends somewhere. Show him some attention by talking to him a lot and flirting with him in a friendly easy-going way. In the end, you'll know where the two of you stand (if he likes you or not, and in what way). If it doesn't work out, then it wasn't meant to be.

So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to Dish-It here. Send all of your questions to deardish@kidzworld.com But 'member, if ya hang out in Chat with other Kidzworld members who know ya by your 'username', ya might wanna use a secret nickname when ya write in. That way no one'll ever know it's you. And, just in case ya don't know, Dish-It gets a lotta letters everyday, and she can't answer 'em all. So keep checkin' the column cuz she's prob'ly answerin' somethin' very similar to your question while you're out doin' somethin' else. K? And Thanks! Ya keep her outta trouble. Oh! And if ya've got words of wisdom you wanna share,We'll dish 'em up, too.

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moongemowl
moongemowl posted in Friends:
Okay, I've NEVER posted anything about my friends before, so bear with me. I've known that me and my BFF have the same crush since we met in 5th grade. But it always seems that my BFF is closer to him than I'll ever be. They went to 2 school dances together while I'm still in the friend zone with my crush. I pretend to not care but I really do care. I've never been in this situation before and don't know what to do about it. Should I tell my BFF how I feel or wait this whole thing out? Or even forget my crush being my crush and find a new crush? HELP!!!!!   :love :confused
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jordand08
Maybe that's the only line that needs to be said? You don't have to write down a whole paragraph explaining about how you feel. Sometimes, one word or one sentence can be enough. :p but I don't know. Maybe I have no clue what I'm talking about. :p
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jordand08
You'll have to remember, your parents love you, with that being said. If you feel like you can talk to them and they're reasonable, go ahead. But if you feel like waiting it's up to you. I think your family will support you, because they do love you. Maybe they'll be upset at first, but they'll come around, everyone does eventually. Is there anyone in your family that knows, like a cousin? Maybe you can ask for their opinion if you should tell your parents, and family. However, it's up to you. and remember, your parents care and love you.
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hugebear
hugebear posted in Family Issues:
You doesnt have to come out to your family until your ready and until they is ready too.  If you blurt it out it could be the shock.  You says that you think your Mums side of the family will be more supportive.  Has you got an Aunty or Uncle what you could discuss this with?  An adult member of your family what is most likely supportive  could probably give the best advises on how to tell your family and when and how and prepares you for how they will react. Good luck mate and takes your time :angel
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Mrawsomegamer
I think my mothers side of the family would be fine with it. It's my dad's side I'm most concerned about. My dad says some dreadfully terrible remarks about homosexual people. I think I'm not gunna tell him at all. Ever...  Either way. Thanks for the advice!
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