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Dear Dish-It, Why Hasn't He Asked Me Out?


Dear Dish-It, is here to whisper "ttyl after I've thought about this some more".


Dear Dish-It,

I like this boy and he acts like he likes me back, but he won't ask me out. We have known each other since second grade and our friendship keeps growing. He just broke up with his girlfriend about three or four weeks ago. Has he not asked me because he just isn't ready to date again? Please help.
Whutdoido


Dear Whutdoido,

There are a few possible reasons why he isn't asking you out.
One, he isn't ready to date, like you already guessed. It's only been a few weeks since the relationship ended, so I think he needs more time to work out his feelings and get over his ex.
Two, he wants to be single. After getting out of a relationship, he may not want another girlfriend right away and probably just wants to be single and have fun with his friends.
Three, you mentioned that you've known each other since the second grade, so it's possible that he only sees you as a friend.


Whatever the reason is, you should just let things be for now. Don't push him for answers about whether he likes you or why he's not asking you out. Continue hanging out with him and being his friend. Like you said, the friendship keeps growing, so you're obviously important to him. In time, you'll have your answers and things will fall into place, whether it's getting together to date or remaining good friends.


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