Dear Dish-It, Why Hasn't He Asked Me Out?

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Dear Dish-It,

I like this boy and he acts like he likes me back, but he won't ask me out. We have known each other since second grade and our friendship keeps growing. He just broke up with his girlfriend about three or four weeks ago. Has he not asked me because he just isn't ready to date again? Please help.

Dear Whutdoido,

There are a few possible reasons why he isn't asking you out.
One, he isn't ready to date, like you already guessed. It's only been a few weeks since the relationship ended, so I think he needs more time to work out his feelings and get over his ex.
Two, he wants to be single. After getting out of a relationship, he may not want another girlfriend right away and probably just wants to be single and have fun with his friends.
Three, you mentioned that you've known each other since the second grade, so it's possible that he only sees you as a friend.

Whatever the reason is, you should just let things be for now. Don't push him for answers about whether he likes you or why he's not asking you out. Continue hanging out with him and being his friend. Like you said, the friendship keeps growing, so you're obviously important to him. In time, you'll have your answers and things will fall into place, whether it's getting together to date or remaining good friends.

So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to Dish-It here. Send all of your questions to But 'member, if ya hang out in Chat with other Kidzworld members who know ya by your 'username', ya might wanna use a secret nickname when ya write in. That way no one'll ever know it's you. And, just in case ya don't know, Dish-It gets a lotta letters everyday, and she can't answer 'em all. So keep checkin' the column cuz she's prob'ly answerin' somethin' very similar to your question while you're out doin' somethin' else. K? And Thanks! Ya keep her outta trouble. Oh! And if ya've got words of wisdom you wanna share,We'll dish 'em up, too.

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"donteatcarrots" wrote:they're not your friends if they want you to be something that you're not.^^^^^ this
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Tbh, your mom is kinda, you know, right about it. I mean, net is not as safe as we think it is. All I can tell you is that don't talk about her in front of your mom and don't give your friend any personal details about you. 
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I am sorry for what you are going through. I feel that it is time for you to find new friends - true friends. Try finding friends with same interests as you. You'll have more things to talk about that way. I hope things get better with you and your friends.
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