Dear Dish-It, Why Hasn't He Asked Me Out?

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Dear Dish-It,

I like this boy and he acts like he likes me back, but he won't ask me out. We have known each other since second grade and our friendship keeps growing. He just broke up with his girlfriend about three or four weeks ago. Has he not asked me because he just isn't ready to date again? Please help.

Dear Whutdoido,

There are a few possible reasons why he isn't asking you out.
One, he isn't ready to date, like you already guessed. It's only been a few weeks since the relationship ended, so I think he needs more time to work out his feelings and get over his ex.
Two, he wants to be single. After getting out of a relationship, he may not want another girlfriend right away and probably just wants to be single and have fun with his friends.
Three, you mentioned that you've known each other since the second grade, so it's possible that he only sees you as a friend.

Whatever the reason is, you should just let things be for now. Don't push him for answers about whether he likes you or why he's not asking you out. Continue hanging out with him and being his friend. Like you said, the friendship keeps growing, so you're obviously important to him. In time, you'll have your answers and things will fall into place, whether it's getting together to date or remaining good friends.

So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to Dish-It here. Send all of your questions to But 'member, if ya hang out in Chat with other Kidzworld members who know ya by your 'username', ya might wanna use a secret nickname when ya write in. That way no one'll ever know it's you. And, just in case ya don't know, Dish-It gets a lotta letters everyday, and she can't answer 'em all. So keep checkin' the column cuz she's prob'ly answerin' somethin' very similar to your question while you're out doin' somethin' else. K? And Thanks! Ya keep her outta trouble. Oh! And if ya've got words of wisdom you wanna share,We'll dish 'em up, too.

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EndlessDream posted in Friends:
Hmmm....Then she mustn't be necessarily "using" you, if she is not getting something in return ( As far as we know of). However, It does sound like she is being extremely unfair. That just might be how she is. Not exactly loyal to anyone. Well, try to talk to her about it and tell her how you feel. And, if it doesn't work out, then she might not be a great friend to hang around with, and maybe you will find someone else who enjoys your company. I hope this helps, and good luck :)
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No not really. Like I said, one minute she's all smiley and then she doesn't even look at me. Most of the time I see her with Daniela and Andrea. Today she was asking me if I was going to hang out with her, Daniela, Andrea and Luisa during recess. When I told her that I was 'going to have to think' she was like, "Whatever." and ran off to catch up with the Threesome. Thanks. :)
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