Dear Dish-It, I Can't Get Over My Ex

Dear Dish-It,

I dated this girl for almost a year. I was deeply in love with her and she always told me she loved me. She ended up cheating on me. She has told me she regrets it and is sorry but has told friends of ours how she is happy that she did cheat, because she never thought she could be anything but innocent. I have moved on, slightly. I have been dating a girl now for 16 months and am totally in love with her but sometimes I still think about my ex. We have tried not being friends anymore but we always end up being friends again. She talks to me about guys she likes and I get so hurt and jealous. She knows how I feel about her. How do I move on completely?

Dear RedMan,

By the sound of your letter, you haven't really gotten over your ex-girlfriend at all. You were mad and hurt that she cheated on you but would probably take her back in a heartbeat if she were still interested. While it's not wrong for you to still care about your ex, it is wrong to lead your current GF on. It makes you miserable when your ex talks about other guys - how do you think your current girlfriend would feel to know that you're secretly pining away for your ex? I think you should take a break from your GF and really make an effort to stay away from the ex until you can sort out your feelings. Good Luck!

Dear Dish-It,

Thank you for the advice. It really has helped!!


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