Kw-logo-smaller

Dear Dish-It, I Think My BF Cheated

Advice for teens on issues such as cheating, dating, boyfriends and best friends.
Teen Advice on Dating

Dear Dish-It, is here to whisper "ttyl after I've thought about this some more".


Dear Dish-It,

My best friend died in a wreck with a bus. I don't know what to do because at school I just break down in tears. I've gone to the counselor but all she did was make me cry more. What can I do?
AmandaGurl


Dear AmandaGurl,

First off, I'm really sorry to hear about your friend. It doesn't matter how old you are when you lose a loved one - it's always going to hurt. You were wise to go and see your school counselor and you'd be smart to go back and see her again. There is no magical cure for getting over something like this - everyone heals in different ways and at different rates of time. Don't feel bad for crying because it's an important part of the healing process. The best thing is to just take it one day at a time and try to remember all the great things about your friendship. If you don't think that talking to your school counselor is doing any good, you should look into seeing a professional outside of school. Just remember that this is not something you are going to just instantly get over, ok? Surround yourself with people you care about and you'll be sure to get through this, even if it feels like that that's impossible right now.


Dear Dish-It,

My boyfriend just left for Australia and he gave me his email password, so that I could see how his friends in Toronto are doing (we live in another province.) So, I went to check his email and there was one from a girl in Toronto saying that she's sorry about what happened between them before he left but she doesn't regret it. She does, however, regret the circumstances in which it happened, (meaning that he was going out with me.) What do I do? I can't even talk to him.
erin


Dear erin,

Unfortunately for you, your boyfriend is a big, insensitive jerk. He knew he gave you his email password and therefore knew that you would probably find the email from the girl he cheated with. That's a pretty lousy thing to do. You're right to feel angry but you're gonna have to talk to him sooner or later. Of course you don't want to freak out and jump to conclusions but you've gotta tell him what you found and how upset it made you. Let him explain himself but if his explanation isn't something that you're happy with, dump him. You deserve to be treated with respect and not to be cheated on. There's plenty of time in your life to deal with complicated relationships, right now you should focus on being with someone that you can have a good time with and who treats you well. Good Luck!


Well, first of all tell him that if he's cheatin' with someone and if he looks like he did cheat, then dump him cuz he's not your guy!

Kidz Submit by:

Nickname: AgCienia
Age: 11

I know how you feel. I lost a friend recently in a car crash. I know that it is very tough. Remember, at the end of every tough thing, there is always a beacon shining bright.

Kidz Submit by:

Nickname: Redhdangelkay
Age: 14

So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .


Related Stories:

  • Dear Dish-It - My BF Wants to Do Drugs
  • Dear Dish-It - Are All Guys Cheaters?
  • Dear Dish-It - Sometimes I Wish I Wasn't Me
  • More Great Advice from Dish-It!
  • >
    >

    readers voted!

    Comments

    XxCryXx

    XxCryXx wrote:

    Has happened alot...
    commented: Thu Mar 06, 2014

    kenzangel

    kenzangel wrote:

    Dump him hes a jerk
    commented: Thu Aug 29, 2013

    JennyD

    JennyD wrote:

    Don't like cheating
    commented: Mon Aug 26, 2013

    there are 159 more comments

    Please login or register to add comments

    share with your friends


    Twitter Facebook Myspace Digg


    like this article?
    Sign up now to get more just like!

    latest videos

    F1118178551734

    Are You a Cheater?

    • No way! I could never be!
    • I have once or twice
    • I've thought of it, but never done it.
    • All the time, I'm a playa.

    related stories

    I liked this guy for a really long time. He finally asked me out but told me he was going away fo...

    Dear Dish-It in the forums

    XxIHateMathxX
    XxIHateMathxX posted in Friends:
    I like Harry Potter too.  :)
    reply about 5 hours
    young fee
    young fee posted in Friends:
    I think you can not be sure he likes you. take me as an example theres this girl in my class who i talk to everyday. Now i see her as a sister and i have and will go to lengths just to make sure shes okay and her boyfriend doesnt hurt her. This might be what is happening in your situation so i advice that you wait a bit longer because him loooking at you may mean that he likes you and is waiting for the right time to tell you. Meanwhile you can get closer to him and flirt once in a while to asure that him you also like him (that is if he isnt sure). And dont worry if he doesnt like you back its better to have a friend who cares about you than a boyfriend who doesnt like you that much and is dreaming about someone else.
    reply about 5 hours
    heyitsangel
    heyitsangel posted in Style:
    Both
    reply about 13 hours
    InternetOwl
    What part of it are you scared of? Is it eating in public and around other people, or just eating in general?  What it might be, if it's eating in public you don't like, is social anxiety, or social phobia. You should ask your doctor to check, because if it is, they can offer you ways to help. For instance, they might recommend therapists or group sessions to help ease your fear.  Even if it's just a phobia or, in unlikelier circumstances, an eating disorder, you should still go to your doctor or a therapist so you can try to overcome it. Try doing things that calm you down before these situations as well, like exercise, reading or listening to music (I'm not sure what relaxes you but sometimes these help). Also, you should try to slowly get used to the situations. So don't force yourself to eat straight away when you're out, but slowly start doing so whenever your comfortable with doing so. Unlike your mum wants, you can't just "stop" being scared because that's not how it works.  But right now, please don't force yourself into any of these situations. It's not good for your mental health to be forced to face a phobia of yours often. 
    reply about 14 hours
    ElfyKathy
    Dear Dish-It, Within the last few years I have felt a bit sick and shaky when we go out to eat. It's not so bad when it's a carvery lunch or something at a pub, but settling down for a chocolate brownie and a milkshake shakes me up. Don't get me wrong, I love going out with Mum, but it's just sitting down and taking a bite. I want to chuck it in the bin. I love eating brownies and stuff at home and I'm pretty healthy. But I refuse to go to the town before lunch in fear. Mum told me I got to stop this or I'm going to develop a terrible phobia.  Please help! ElfyKathy, worried
    reply about 14 hours

    play online games

    Candy-100

    A great online version of the famous Candy Crush. This is the best game launched...

    1515_gl_kidzworld_100x100_jpg_fz

    Intriguing planets, weird and wonderful characters; challenge friends and find a...

    157262_(2)

    When you go back to Candyland, you’ll wonder why you ever left in the first plac...

    100x100_ra_logo_girl

    Uncle George has left you his farm, but unfortunately it’s in pretty bad shape. ...

    _thumb_100x100

    Shoot blobs with different properies to merge yellow blobs. Your blobs can be re...