Dear Dish-It, I Think My BF Cheated

Advice for teens on issues such as cheating, dating, boyfriends and best friends.
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Dear Dish-It,
My best friend died in a wreck with a bus. I don't know what to do because at school I just break down in tears. I've gone to the counselor but all she did was make me cry more. What can I do?
AmandaGurl

Dear AmandaGurl,
First off, I'm really sorry to hear about your friend. It doesn't matter how old you are when you lose a loved one - it's always going to hurt. You were wise to go and see your school counselor and you'd be smart to go back and see her again. There is no magical cure for getting over something like this - everyone heals in different ways and at different rates of time. Don't feel bad for crying because it's an important part of the healing process. The best thing is to just take it one day at a time and try to remember all the great things about your friendship. If you don't think that talking to your school counselor is doing any good, you should look into seeing a professional outside of school. Just remember that this is not something you are going to just instantly get over, ok? Surround yourself with people you care about and you'll be sure to get through this, even if it feels like that that's impossible right now.

Dear Dish-It,
My boyfriend just left for Australia and he gave me his email password, so that I could see how his friends in Toronto are doing (we live in another province.) So, I went to check his email and there was one from a girl in Toronto saying that she's sorry about what happened between them before he left but she doesn't regret it. She does, however, regret the circumstances in which it happened, (meaning that he was going out with me.) What do I do? I can't even talk to him.
erin

Dear erin,
Unfortunately for you, your boyfriend is a big, insensitive jerk. He knew he gave you his email password and therefore knew that you would probably find the email from the girl he cheated with. That's a pretty lousy thing to do. You're right to feel angry but you're gonna have to talk to him sooner or later. Of course you don't want to freak out and jump to conclusions but you've gotta tell him what you found and how upset it made you. Let him explain himself but if his explanation isn't something that you're happy with, dump him. You deserve to be treated with respect and not to be cheated on. There's plenty of time in your life to deal with complicated relationships, right now you should focus on being with someone that you can have a good time with and who treats you well. Good Luck!

Well, first of all tell him that if he's cheatin' with someone and if he looks like he did cheat, then dump him cuz he's not your guy!
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I know how you feel. I lost a friend recently in a car crash. I know that it is very tough. Remember, at the end of every tough thing, there is always a beacon shining bright.
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Age: 14

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