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Dear Dish-It, My BF Wants to Do Drugs

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Dear Dish-It,

My problem is that I like this boy! He is 19 and I am 15! But my friend also likes him! The thing is, she is 19 too. But he also has a girlfriend! Even so, I still want to be with him but I am trying to hook him and my friend up. She has been acting immature but he likes older girls anyway. The thing is, I don't care if he likes older girls, I still want to talk to him! So what should I do?
Tee-Tee

Dear Tee-Tee,

I think you knew the answer to your own question before you even asked it. Although some of your friends may be older than you, that doesn't mean it's a good idea to date a guy that's four years older than you are. It may not seem like a big difference, and it wouldn't be a big deal if you were a few years older, but the fact remains that you two are living in two entirely separate worlds right now. Whether your friend is acting immature or not, let her have this guy for now and keep your eyes peeled for some one a little closer to your own age. Believe me, there are cool guys your age out there!

Dear Dish-It,

My boyfriend wants to do some drugs. I don't like the word drug or anything or anyone that has anything to do with them, and I told him this. We've been dating since May and I have lots of feelings for him. I don't want to try and change anyone but I think that if he does this stuff, I would want to break up with him. The only problem is that it would be hard because my feelings for him have grown these past 7 months. Should he be respectful of my concerns or am I just being a nagging girlfriend?
katie

Dear katie,

You have every reason to feel uncomfortable about your boyfriend wanting to experiment with drugs and you should definitely voice your concerns. Tell him that not only are you uncomfortable hanging with people who use, you are also worried about his safety. The fact remains that drug experimentation is just that - experimentation. Everyone's body reacts totally differently to each and every drug and you can never predict what's going to happen. Although it'll be tough letting your guy go, you've gotta stand up for what you believe in and talk to your guy about his hasty decision. Have your boyfriend check out www.dare.com. It's a great resource on drugs, especially for teens, that may give your boyfriend something to stop and think about.


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jordand08 posted in Friends:
"-Karpov-" wrote:I think jealousy would be if she were angry at you for being considered better than her. It sounds more like she's just disappointed, but it's impossible for you to know if you don't ask.  I agree here.
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I think jealousy would be if she were angry at you for being considered better than her. It sounds more like she's just disappointed, but it's impossible for you to know if you don't ask. 
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My best friend and I were really close before and hung out all the time, we were both in musicals and both got smaller parts, and if one of us got a bigger part, it was her. Then she took voice lessons with an amazing voice teacher and got a little better, she took lessons for about two weeks and then I decided to take lessons too. After about three weeks people were saying that I was an amazing singer and all of the sudden my maybe-best-friend hardly talks to me. She always seems really sad. (Keep in mind that my friend can't sing well) I don't know if she is jealous or what, and please don't think that i'm conceited by thinking she might be jealous I am just wondering. Please help!
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kaykay2002
"CocoC01" wrote: Sometimes things are n`t fair in life. Maybe you can try to find your cousin`s weakness or try your best to get along with her. After all, your cousin is still young. Grandparents tend to show more love to the younger ones because they are young and innocent.You`re 11 now, your grandmother might think that you`re more mature than your cousin: able to do whatever you want, able to make the right decision. Try to impress your grandmother with something that you`re good at ( I mean in the positive way) like joining debate/dancing/singing competitions--> try your best to achieve something and make them proud of you.   thanks but even when I was 5 6 and 7 she played favorites. I almost always get along with my cousin but sometimes I burst. my grandma always somehow finds out what I want and gives it my cousin and if my parents are around she treats us equally and that is another thing that makes me mad is she acts like the best grandma in front of my parents but the second they are gone she is a different person
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CocoC01
CocoC01 posted in Family Issues:
Sometimes things are n`t fair in life. Maybe you can try to find your cousin`s weakness or try your best to get along with her. After all, your cousin is still young. Grandparents tend to show more love to the younger ones because they are young and innocent.You`re 11 now, your grandmother might think that you`re more mature than your cousin: able to do whatever you want, able to make the right decision. Try to impress your grandmother with something that you`re good at ( I mean in the positive way) like joining debate/dancing/singing competitions--> try your best to achieve something and make them proud of you.
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