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Dear Dish-It, My BF Wants to Do Drugs


Dear Dish-It, is here to whisper "ttyl after I've thought about this some more".


Dear Dish-It,

My problem is that I like this boy! He is 19 and I am 15! But my friend also likes him! The thing is, she is 19 too. But he also has a girlfriend! Even so, I still want to be with him but I am trying to hook him and my friend up. She has been acting immature but he likes older girls anyway. The thing is, I don't care if he likes older girls, I still want to talk to him! So what should I do?
Tee-Tee

Dear Tee-Tee,

I think you knew the answer to your own question before you even asked it. Although some of your friends may be older than you, that doesn't mean it's a good idea to date a guy that's four years older than you are. It may not seem like a big difference, and it wouldn't be a big deal if you were a few years older, but the fact remains that you two are living in two entirely separate worlds right now. Whether your friend is acting immature or not, let her have this guy for now and keep your eyes peeled for some one a little closer to your own age. Believe me, there are cool guys your age out there!

Dear Dish-It,

My boyfriend wants to do some drugs. I don't like the word drug or anything or anyone that has anything to do with them, and I told him this. We've been dating since May and I have lots of feelings for him. I don't want to try and change anyone but I think that if he does this stuff, I would want to break up with him. The only problem is that it would be hard because my feelings for him have grown these past 7 months. Should he be respectful of my concerns or am I just being a nagging girlfriend?
katie

Dear katie,

You have every reason to feel uncomfortable about your boyfriend wanting to experiment with drugs and you should definitely voice your concerns. Tell him that not only are you uncomfortable hanging with people who use, you are also worried about his safety. The fact remains that drug experimentation is just that - experimentation. Everyone's body reacts totally differently to each and every drug and you can never predict what's going to happen. Although it'll be tough letting your guy go, you've gotta stand up for what you believe in and talk to your guy about his hasty decision. Have your boyfriend check out www.dare.com. It's a great resource on drugs, especially for teens, that may give your boyfriend something to stop and think about.


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SmartSunnyShadow
I feel like that too. My best friend will always hang out with her 'new friends' that I have a really bad opinion about. My friend will treat me rudely all the time and sometimes make fun of me with her friends. But, when I needed her the most in my life, she was there for me, and I told her how I felt. She says that she just wants to hang out with more people and apologized, people can be a little teasy at times.  Also, after seeing each other for a long time, people make new friends and start hanging out with them more, it doesn't mean that she doesn't like you.  This may be different for you, but just tell her about it, she will have to know you feelings at one point.  Hope I helped you. 
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country_girl19
country_girl19 posted in Friends:
Nothing happened between us. I just feel like I'm not important to her.
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drowning
drowning posted in Friends:
Did something happen between you two in the past? If so, I feel like she might have some unresolved issues with you that you need to discuss with her. And, time doesn't always mean a lot. I've gotten closer to someone before compared to someone whom I had known for 8 years.
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country_girl19
country_girl19 posted in Friends:
Dear Dish-it,                          Me and my friend just started talking again, and it seems like she regrets it. She'll leave me for the people she has only known for a couple of months, when I've been friends with her for a year. Also, she gets annoyed with me, and I don't know what to do.
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drowning
drowning posted in Family Issues:
I'll be honest, I don't think that it's very fair that you're placing so much blame on your mother. Cancer is very hard to heal in any animal or person. She may of been able to help one spot, but that doesn't mean that she was going to be able to heal the rest. There's a slim chance that they could of made it through, but it's probably for the best that she put him down. Cancer is a painful thing to go through for dogs and humans alike. It would of been worse to push it. As for the depression, I understand where you're coming from with it. It's a difficult thing to go through and it makes things hard to do. I've struggled with things in the past and sometimes still do, so take my word on this: Eat. What. You. Can. Don't starve yourself. Don't binge. Don't do anything. Keep eating. Your health matters too. You need to find things to do, like hobbies (drawing, reading, writing, ect.) and spend time with friends when you can. At least talk to your friends, don't push them away. They're there for you, even when they might not know how to be. Don't be ashamed to cry, it's perfectly fine too. It's a better alternative of getting things out than a lot of things you could be doing. Do not, under any circumstances, start cutting. Take it from someone who's dealt with it on a personal level in several ways, do not start it. It is not something you "won't get addicted too" and it will not be a "one time thing." Do not try it. Do not start it. Do not try to find "softer" alternatives to cutting. Self-harm is not a fixer, it does not help anything. It isn't something to be ashamed of. It's a personal issue along with mental illness. But it is a very big deal. "And to go and kill him like that instead of getting him help?" There isn't always a place to help. Sometimes it won't do the things we wish it would.
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