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Dear Dish-It, My BF Wants to Do Drugs

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Dear Dish-It,

My problem is that I like this boy! He is 19 and I am 15! But my friend also likes him! The thing is, she is 19 too. But he also has a girlfriend! Even so, I still want to be with him but I am trying to hook him and my friend up. She has been acting immature but he likes older girls anyway. The thing is, I don't care if he likes older girls, I still want to talk to him! So what should I do?
Tee-Tee

Dear Tee-Tee,

I think you knew the answer to your own question before you even asked it. Although some of your friends may be older than you, that doesn't mean it's a good idea to date a guy that's four years older than you are. It may not seem like a big difference, and it wouldn't be a big deal if you were a few years older, but the fact remains that you two are living in two entirely separate worlds right now. Whether your friend is acting immature or not, let her have this guy for now and keep your eyes peeled for some one a little closer to your own age. Believe me, there are cool guys your age out there!

Dear Dish-It,

My boyfriend wants to do some drugs. I don't like the word drug or anything or anyone that has anything to do with them, and I told him this. We've been dating since May and I have lots of feelings for him. I don't want to try and change anyone but I think that if he does this stuff, I would want to break up with him. The only problem is that it would be hard because my feelings for him have grown these past 7 months. Should he be respectful of my concerns or am I just being a nagging girlfriend?
katie

Dear katie,

You have every reason to feel uncomfortable about your boyfriend wanting to experiment with drugs and you should definitely voice your concerns. Tell him that not only are you uncomfortable hanging with people who use, you are also worried about his safety. The fact remains that drug experimentation is just that - experimentation. Everyone's body reacts totally differently to each and every drug and you can never predict what's going to happen. Although it'll be tough letting your guy go, you've gotta stand up for what you believe in and talk to your guy about his hasty decision. Have your boyfriend check out www.dare.com. It's a great resource on drugs, especially for teens, that may give your boyfriend something to stop and think about.


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I think you can not be sure he likes you. take me as an example theres this girl in my class who i talk to everyday. Now i see her as a sister and i have and will go to lengths just to make sure shes okay and her boyfriend doesnt hurt her. This might be what is happening in your situation so i advice that you wait a bit longer because him loooking at you may mean that he likes you and is waiting for the right time to tell you. Meanwhile you can get closer to him and flirt once in a while to asure that him you also like him (that is if he isnt sure). And dont worry if he doesnt like you back its better to have a friend who cares about you than a boyfriend who doesnt like you that much and is dreaming about someone else.
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What part of it are you scared of? Is it eating in public and around other people, or just eating in general?  What it might be, if it's eating in public you don't like, is social anxiety, or social phobia. You should ask your doctor to check, because if it is, they can offer you ways to help. For instance, they might recommend therapists or group sessions to help ease your fear.  Even if it's just a phobia or, in unlikelier circumstances, an eating disorder, you should still go to your doctor or a therapist so you can try to overcome it. Try doing things that calm you down before these situations as well, like exercise, reading or listening to music (I'm not sure what relaxes you but sometimes these help). Also, you should try to slowly get used to the situations. So don't force yourself to eat straight away when you're out, but slowly start doing so whenever your comfortable with doing so. Unlike your mum wants, you can't just "stop" being scared because that's not how it works.  But right now, please don't force yourself into any of these situations. It's not good for your mental health to be forced to face a phobia of yours often. 
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