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Dear Dish-It, My BF Wants to Do Drugs


Dear Dish-It, is here to whisper "ttyl after I've thought about this some more".


Dear Dish-It,

My problem is that I like this boy! He is 19 and I am 15! But my friend also likes him! The thing is, she is 19 too. But he also has a girlfriend! Even so, I still want to be with him but I am trying to hook him and my friend up. She has been acting immature but he likes older girls anyway. The thing is, I don't care if he likes older girls, I still want to talk to him! So what should I do?
Tee-Tee

Dear Tee-Tee,

I think you knew the answer to your own question before you even asked it. Although some of your friends may be older than you, that doesn't mean it's a good idea to date a guy that's four years older than you are. It may not seem like a big difference, and it wouldn't be a big deal if you were a few years older, but the fact remains that you two are living in two entirely separate worlds right now. Whether your friend is acting immature or not, let her have this guy for now and keep your eyes peeled for some one a little closer to your own age. Believe me, there are cool guys your age out there!

Dear Dish-It,

My boyfriend wants to do some drugs. I don't like the word drug or anything or anyone that has anything to do with them, and I told him this. We've been dating since May and I have lots of feelings for him. I don't want to try and change anyone but I think that if he does this stuff, I would want to break up with him. The only problem is that it would be hard because my feelings for him have grown these past 7 months. Should he be respectful of my concerns or am I just being a nagging girlfriend?
katie

Dear katie,

You have every reason to feel uncomfortable about your boyfriend wanting to experiment with drugs and you should definitely voice your concerns. Tell him that not only are you uncomfortable hanging with people who use, you are also worried about his safety. The fact remains that drug experimentation is just that - experimentation. Everyone's body reacts totally differently to each and every drug and you can never predict what's going to happen. Although it'll be tough letting your guy go, you've gotta stand up for what you believe in and talk to your guy about his hasty decision. Have your boyfriend check out www.dare.com. It's a great resource on drugs, especially for teens, that may give your boyfriend something to stop and think about.


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