Dear Dish-It, How Young Is Too Young?

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Dear Dish-It,

This guy, who I like and likes me back, won't ask me out because I'm too young. That really threw me off because we're only 1 and a half years apart. What am I suppose to do now? Do I still continue to like him or what?

Dear j-13,

That stings. Nothin' worse than havin' feelings for somebody a bit older. The truth is you will still like him, cuz it's hard to turn your feelings off and on. And honestly, I think it's a fair comment on his part. The thing is, a year and a half is a big age spread at 13. The good news is when you're 15, he'll be 16 and some... Suddenly, those numbers will work for him. I think you should take heart that he likes you but is honest 'bout the age thing. Hey, you never know, a couple more years and he may be followin' you all over the place. True love is like that.

Dear Dish-It,

Hey, I got something to ask you. Me and my BF have been going out two years and now he wants to have sex. Should I do it or not?

Dear E,

NO! Do not have sex with your boyfriend! Listen carefully girl - having sex is really serious stuff. It's not something you do cuz you've been with someone for two years. And you definitely do not have sex cuz you're scared your boy will leave you if you don't hook up. If you have to ask me whether you should have sex with the boy, you're not ready. You'll know when you're ready... but you're not ready when you question it or feel pressured.

When the time is right you gotta get a lot of stuff nailed down first. You gotta use condoms cuz you do not want to get a sexually transmitted disease. You need to practice birth control cuz you do not wanna have a baby. And for real, you need to talk to an adult. If you're cool with your mom, she's the best peron to talk to, but I know that most kids do not want to talk to mom about sex. So do yourself a hug fave and talk to your doctor, your school nurse or your teacher. And if these peeps still scare you off, go to a clinic and talk to a doctor who doesn't know you. It's the cool thing to do.

Dear Dish-It,

I have a problem. My biggest crush left to Atlanta, Georgia and I asked his mother if she could tell him how much I really liked him. He is coming back to visit on Spring Break, but I don't know how he is going to react to this situation and if he would talk to me at all. I really need help because I think about him all the time. His brother used to be or still might be my best friend's boyfriend. So if you have advice, which I know you will, please respond as soon as possible. Thanx!

Dear Biggy,

So your crush is coming back for Spring Break. That's cool. So see if you can get together. It seems to me, you gotta call this boy. As for his bro - how close are you to this friend of yours? If you're friends, shouldn't you know whether they're still together. If they are together, see if you can hang with them, that would probably provide some face time with the crush (an excellent opportunity to snag that date.) He'll either say yes or no. It's all good if he says yes. If you crash and burn (cuz he's not interested) no big. He'll be leaving for school again and you'll just have to focus your attention on the talent closer to home. So go after what you want girl, cuz if you don't you'll regret it.

So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .

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