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Dear Dish-It, I'm Scared I Will Be Rejected

Dear Dish-It,

I like this boy named Alex - he is really cute! He shows off for my friends and me. But my friends say he's really showing off for me alone. I like him and all but I'm scared I will be rejected if I ask him out. My one friend went out with him - I was really down and I wanted to just pass out. But the next day he dumped her. I was so happy! I know that sounds really harsh but if you were in my position you would say the same thing. I was going to ask this boy to the dance and she ruined my plans. Me and her have made up but our friendship will never be the same. I need help, should I ask him out or not? I need help quick!
Ebony


Dear Ebony,

Sorry girl, I know this answer is a long time comin'. It's just that I get so many peeps writin' in. Here's the thing - your girl shouldn't be crushin' on your crush... let alone move in like that. Did she know you were crushin' on him? Cuz if she did - her bad and your green light. In other words, you're free to ask this boy out, without any thought to her feelings. If she didn't know your feelings, then cut your girl some slack. Maybe you share the same good taste in hotties.


As for your fear of rejection - everyone feels that way. It's just that some of us ignore the fear and boldly do our thing no matter what. Don't be one those peeps who miss all the good stuff cuz they're scared of rejection or fear failure. Bottom line is, everyone has failures and rejections but that's cool cuz it means you're out there livin' and bein' the best you. You know, if you think about someone totally fine like Jennifer Lopez or Jessica Simpson or Brad Pitt, they've all had failures and rejections, but they just shake it off and keep on tryin'. They've all gotten what they want in life cuz they just keep tryin' until they win. So ask him out... if he says no, it's his bad not yours.


So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .


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-Gwen9--
-Gwen9-- posted in Friends:
"jordand08" wrote:Thank you.You're welcome. :)
reply about 8 hours
donteatcarrots
talk to the person you're closest too. yes, you said you don't get close with people, but there's probably one person who you speak to more often than others- talk to that person.
reply about 10 hours
donteatcarrots
donteatcarrots posted in Friends:
Don't worry too much- it's only your first relationship- but I'd sit down with him at one point, and discuss what makes you uncomfortable, eg; if you know what I mean...
reply about 10 hours
donteatcarrots
donteatcarrots posted in Friends:
Probably sound a little stereotypical, but the majority of boys don't really act like that... Ask him :p
reply about 10 hours
kittenkid
First: WHATEVER YOU DO, DON'T KILL YOUSELF! When you get past this you'll be glad. Well, this is just my opinion, but I think you should first find someone, anyone, even if you don't trust them, if there're your parents talk to them about it. I bet a bunch of people have already told you this but there're right. Before you walk up to them, write down what you're going to say and then think of a few questions they might ask and write down the answers to them. Remember to tell them that it might take you a minute to think of an answer. Before you answer, think of the exact words you will say  before you say anything, and think in your mind about it. Think about wether it is a lie or not before you say it. If it gets out of you mouth before you realize it is a lie, don't be afraid to say so and just say the truth. Also, just try to find something you like to do that will take your mind off everything. If you really can't think of anything, try just practicing saying your feelings to yourself, or a pillow or something.  Hope this helps!
reply about 12 hours

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