-
x

Meet New Friends!

Recommended friends are based on your interests. Make sure they are up to date.

Friends ff8c072dd79a91c1300f032d674241a8d64367100ffb1f25fa3f9bec4a05319f
Kidzworld Logo

Dear Dish-It, I'm Scared I Will Be Rejected

Dear Dish-It,

I like this boy named Alex - he is really cute! He shows off for my friends and me. But my friends say he's really showing off for me alone. I like him and all but I'm scared I will be rejected if I ask him out. My one friend went out with him - I was really down and I wanted to just pass out. But the next day he dumped her. I was so happy! I know that sounds really harsh but if you were in my position you would say the same thing. I was going to ask this boy to the dance and she ruined my plans. Me and her have made up but our friendship will never be the same. I need help, should I ask him out or not? I need help quick!
Ebony


Dear Ebony,

Sorry girl, I know this answer is a long time comin'. It's just that I get so many peeps writin' in. Here's the thing - your girl shouldn't be crushin' on your crush... let alone move in like that. Did she know you were crushin' on him? Cuz if she did - her bad and your green light. In other words, you're free to ask this boy out, without any thought to her feelings. If she didn't know your feelings, then cut your girl some slack. Maybe you share the same good taste in hotties.


As for your fear of rejection - everyone feels that way. It's just that some of us ignore the fear and boldly do our thing no matter what. Don't be one those peeps who miss all the good stuff cuz they're scared of rejection or fear failure. Bottom line is, everyone has failures and rejections but that's cool cuz it means you're out there livin' and bein' the best you. You know, if you think about someone totally fine like Jennifer Lopez or Jessica Simpson or Brad Pitt, they've all had failures and rejections, but they just shake it off and keep on tryin'. They've all gotten what they want in life cuz they just keep tryin' until they win. So ask him out... if he says no, it's his bad not yours.


So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .


Related Stories:
22 Comments

Related Stories

Micro deardish lovetriangle micro
Love Triangle asks: A boy asked me out, but I'm already going out with someone else. The new boy ...
Micro deardish ihatethewayilook micro
Overweight asks: I'm only 11-years-old and I weigh 155 pounds. I know I'm fat, but I want to lose...
Micro deardish amicool micro
Questionably Cool asks: I don't think I'm cool. I have lots of friends, and even a girlfriend. Do...
I have a crush on this boy but he gets annoyed with girls asking him out. Should I do it anyway?
F1014254098765

What Do You Do When Crushes Crush You?

  • I blow it off - his loss, not mine.
  • I cry and cry and eat lots of chocolate.
  • I get a lil' depressed and move on. There are other hotties to crush on!
  • I complain to my friends and cut him up in front of his boys. No one disses me and gets away with it!

Dear Dish-It In The Forums

GirLovesPiggy
GirLovesPiggy posted in Style:
This thread has been moved. Click here to see the new thread.
reply 2 days
drowning
drowning posted in Family Issues:
@rainbowpoptart  When I originally talked to my father, I was given the opportunity of good timing to bring it up. Luckily, there was no anger like I was partially expecting and I remained calm, which I definitely wasn't expecting. My fathers main concern was just worry and having seen other teens run away from something later getting themselves in trouble. He even brought up how he had run off at 18 and joined the Air Force, which I already knew. But, with this round, there is no perfect time to bring it up and he's always busy or we're having to do something so it's just very frustrating to find at least alright timing to bring it up, if that makes sense.
reply 6 days
rainbowpoptart
My advice on this may not be the best because I haven't personally dealt with this yet, but... Parents, or guardians, get used to having their children around. You're [usually] with them for 18 years, which is a long time, so of course they - or in this case, your father - is going to feel like he's lost something very dear to him once you move out. To me it seems like he does truly understand that you're growing up. He just doesn't want it to happen. He knows that you're leaving soon - he just doesn't want it to be soon. Parents/guardians who are close to the children usually feel that way. If you're really so concerned, talk to him about it again, in a similar way you have done already. Or perhaps just a "Wow, my birthday is just around the corner". Once you do move out, visit him as frequently as you're able to and feel like. I'm sure he'll appreciate it, and it'll help you maintain a close relationship with him.
reply 7 days
drowning
drowning posted in Family Issues:
Usually I wouldn't come here for advice, but I am really needing it. To sum it up, my birthday is in 21 days. Not only will I be leaving KW, but home as well. My mother has made it to where I have had plans to leave since I was around 11 or 12; so about 7 to 8 years. I won't get into everything, but we'll just say that my mother and I do not have a good relationship at all. My father on the other hand, I am very attached too and always scared of upsetting him. Things are not always very good between us at times, but we rarely fight. When we do, it is always bad nor ends well. So, having plans to move out are very scary to me and causes me plenty of anxiety that fights are going to break out when I have my help to get my belongings out.   For the record, I have talked to my father about leaving, why I want too, etc. But, more in the sense of that I want too, not that I am. Which, in a way, my parents understand I'm moving out as well as already pretty much know where I'm going without my mention. But, I don't think they, my father especially, understands how soon that is despite my saying of I want too when I'm 18 or when I say, "Soon." It doesn't help that my father told another that his "little girl is growing up" on him and that he is scared of the day I go because he will be alone. Which makes me feel guilty despite the fact I won't even be that far away. How should I talk to him once more and go about this or even when? I really want him to understand that I have thought everything through and that I will be in safe hands.
reply 7 days
-Oracle-
-Oracle- posted in Friends:
Preferably non human.
reply 7 days