Dear Dish-It, Does He Like Me?
There is this kid named Cory in my class and I think he is a total HOTTIE!!! And my friends told him that I like him but he never listens. I sit near him in every class, and I always find him looking at me and he tries to talk to me but we always get interrupted. I like him but I don't know if he likes me back? Does he like me?!
I have good news for you: your hottie, Cory, sounds like a typical guy! What I mean by that is, in my experience, you can tell a guy likes you when he pays little to no attention to you at all! Also, the fact that your friends told him about your crush and he didn’t respond in a totally negative way (I mean, he’s still trying to talk to you and, like you say, you’re always catching him staring at you) is really positive.
So, now that we’ve established that there’s a good chance Cory does like you – a lot – what should your next step be? In this case, you have two choices. You can either continue doing what you’re doing – that is, having your friends give him messages for you and stealing glimpses of him in class – and hope that one day he’s brave enough to make the first move and ask you out. Or, you can be a strong, modern woman and do something about Cory yourself!
The decision is really up to you, and it requires you to sit down for a moment and think hard about what it is you really want from and with Cory at this point. If you want to go on a date with him and maybe have that lead to something more serious, and you want that to happen sooner rather than later, then in my opinion you’re going to have to make the first move – and soon! Sounds like Cory is too shy to do the deed himself, so if this is something you want – and HE is something you want – then I suggest you approach him after class one day (don’t bring your friends along – make sure it’s just the two of you) and casually ask him if he’d be interested in hanging out with you sometime or going to see a movie or something.
Or, like I said, you can be just as shy as the object of your desire and wait for him to make the first move. But, from the sounds of it, choosing that option may mean you’ll be waiting longer than you want to, Jane.
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