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Dear Dish-It: My Worst Enemy Asked Out My Crush

Dear Dish-It,


I like this boy and I think he likes me. I got my BFF to ask him out for me and he said yes. But then my worst enemy asked him out and he said yes, too! What do I do? I’m freaking out!


Girl You Don’t Know


Dear GYDK,


Well, the thing is, this guy isn’t your boyfriend so really he can do whatever he likes, even if that means going on dates with both you and this other girl. You need to accept that and deal with it.


As for the girl you call your “worst enemy,” I understand that what she did made you upset. But why does it make you upset? Did she know you liked this guy and asked him out just to bug you? Or did she ask him out because she likes him, too, without knowing that he had already agreed to go out on a date with you? The two situations are very different, so you need to find out exactly what happened before you get so mad.


My final advice is to stop worrying about everyone else (your BFF, the boy you like and your worst enemy) and start directing your energy back toward yourself. The guy you like has agreed to go out with you, so concentrate on that. If you two find out you get along well and really like each other, then maybe you can take the relationship further. The more time you spend obsessing over other people the less likely the things you want to happen in your own life will come true.


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