Dear Dish-It, My Cheating Ex Is Dating My Best Friend

Dear Dish-It, is here to whisper "ttyl after I've thought about this some more".

Dear Dish-It,

My ex-boyfriend cheated on me so we broke up. After four months of trying to get back with me, he gave up and is now dating my best friend. My best friend knows that he's a player, but the one thing that she doesn't know is that he's only dating her to get back at me. I'm afraid if I tell her, she'll say I just want to make her mad (and I don't.) Should I tell her?

Dear NYdiva4life,

So your cheating ex-boyfriend pursued you for months after you two broke up, but now he's dating your BFF? And your BFF is aware of what a jerk he was to you, but still decided to hook up with him? Sounds to me like you should just sit back, relax and let your best friend figure out for herself that your ex is a slime ball. There's no use telling her that he's only dating her to get back at you cuz by the sounds of it, you don't know that for sure. You're just assuming that he's still crazy about you, when he more than likely just got tired of chasing you around. Who knows, maybe the two of 'em are meant for each other? If that's the case, then you're much better off without either of them in your life.

That's really good advice. GO FOR IT. Just forget about them both!!
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Just tell them how you feel. Then they might break up.
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I just read your ad and I was in the same place you are in. Soon enough he will probably just break up with your BFF.
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Deal with it and somehow do something you know he likes right in front of him and that will make him want you more.
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Wow. Your BFF is dating your player boyfriend? Sounds like you've got a big problem on your hands - especially now that your BFF and you are gonna see him a lot. Ok, the help. Um... all you can do is basically drop 'em. If your "best friend" is dating a player, and she KNOWS that he cheated on YOU, you should never speak to her again. Really. What kind of friend is that? My other advice is to just let it go. Get a new guy. You know, whatever makes you comfy again. And if you think it's too hard to dump her, just think: would YOU go out with YOUR best friend's boyfriend, especially if he was a PLAYER?
Username: Anonymous

Well if you know this guy is bad news, then inform your friend and if she doesn't believe, then try to keep an eye to see whether he changed or not because chances are he hasn't and when you or if you find out anything, try to get your friend to believe so that way she doesn't get hurt and you two continue to stay friends.
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If your friend is aware of it, then why is she going out with him... all you need to do is to find a boy that you like, not to make your ex jealous... but you need to feel happy for you and your friend... so find a guy that you can trust and try and see what is going to happen?
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