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Dear Dish-It, I'm a Chronic Dater


Dear Dish-It, is here to whisper "ttyl after I've thought about this some more".


Dear Dish-It,

What do boyfriends and girlfriends talk about over the phone?
korean4life


Dear korean4life,

You know... that's a great question. When you first get a GF/BF it can be really hard to figure out what to say to each other. You both know ya dig each other, but neither of you are used to chattin' it up with the opposite sex. I know peeps who call up their GF or BF and just listen to each other breathe cuz they can't think of one single thing to say other than "Hi." Here are some tips: If ya have some classes together, chat about that. Ask him/her if they thought the test was hard, if they hate the teach as much as you do, if they did the homework, etc. If you have mutual friends, gossip about them. Nothing evil, of course. You don't want your BF/GF to think they're dating a witch. It'll take a while but eventually you guys will be chattin' up a storm.


Dear Dish-It,

I have a really hard time hooking up with a guy and staying with him!!! I don't mean I can't get a boyfriend, but I just can't stand a guy for more than two weeks!!! All my friends are either in long-term relationships or they have a new guy every week. I am the only one who isn't in love with one guy or in love with two or three different guys each week. I never seem to find a guy I really like and when I do find a guy I think I like I try to find a way they are imperfect. My mom keeps saying it's because of previous probs with my dad and I am afraid of being hurt again, so I stay distant from guys. If what my mom said is true, how do I keep my problems with my dad from interfering with my social life? PLEASE GIVE ME SOME ADVICE!
GymRat


Dear GymRat,

Well, it sounds like you and your mom have made a dent in your probs already. That's good. She's got some pretty good theories. Relationships with other guys in your life - like your dad - could totally effect the way you are with BFs. The key to stopping that, is being aware of it. Next time you've got a BF, and you catch yourself lookin' for problems (with him and the relationship,) talk yourself out of it. Start reminding yourself of all the good things about the dude that made you wanna go out with him in the first place (he's cute, good at sports, funny, etc.) instead of dwelling on the lil' issues (he burps, he's bad at math, he's got dorky shoes, etc.) Remember, everyone has faults.


Then again, the reason you're a chronic dater could be that you haven't found someone who is truly compatible with ya. You shouldn't settle for someone you aren't totally comfortable or in sync with. And, you don't have to date everyone that asks you out. Take your time and really get to know the person.


So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .


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    I like this guy and he never tells you if he likes you back or not. He told me that he doesn't want to do long distance but flirts with me 
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    XDragonicKingX
    I'll try to be as simple as possible. You should really keep an eye him.I'm not telling you to stalk him in a weird creepy way,I'm just telling you to watch him so you can learn and do things he would like people to do.Act nice towards him,and try not to make it awkward.Remember,you should always learn his interests.If so,you can talk about them,thus making it easy what to speak about.If you don't feel comfortable with just telling him you have a crush on him,or feel nervous,don't do it.Wait.People with patience always get the best fruit.If you feel like your friend might be better for him,let it be.You might get another person instead. I know it's not that easy to just let go of your feelings,so there is another way.A way kinda using force,you might say.You'll have to convince your crush to let go of your friend somehow WITHOUT letting her know that you were the cause of all of this,or you can convince your friend to let your crush go.It's hard to do so,but I guess there might be no other choice,if you would look from the perspective I'm looking from.
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    Error44
    Go for him, make a nice situation to understand what he feels about you, if he loves you and you are sure about him so go for him and dont lose him . Though I think such a friendship for you is too soon and it will be broken but it is worth trying .Soory, if I speak frankly , it is just my opinion nothing more.
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