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Dear Dish-It, My Boyfriend Acts Shady at School


Dear Dish-It, is here to whisper "ttyl after I've thought about this some more".


Dear Dish-It,

Ok herez my problem, in school every one turns to me when they wanna get hooked up with someone, but now that everyone is either hooked up, or is asking me if I can hook them up, I have NO time for a crush or a b/f. Plus there are like no more guyz that I can have a crush on. For instance, last year this really nice girl wanted to get hooked up with my crush, she was one of my bff so of course I told her I would hook her up, but that was before I knew it was my crush. Anywayz, I ended hooking them up, and ended up having a broken heart. Now I'm all confused, what should I do? I mean, I'm so "INVOLVED" with everyone's relationships I cant have one of my own!! I NEED advice and quick!! Thanx.
unloved&confused


Dear unloved&confused,

Sounds like you have a big heart - being all nice-nice and settin' up everyone and their dog. But you're forgettin' one thing - you need to take care of you. I'm not talkin' getting all selfish and wearin' T shirts with the "It's all about me" logo - just keep in mind, you deserve something good too. Stop being Miss Matchmaker and start pursuing your own crushes. You've got it wrong when you sign your e "unloved&confused" - it sounds like you're loved by everyone. People only ask for advice or help (especially in love matters) from someone they trust and like. I have a feelin' that there are probably a lot of guys out there that would love your helpful, friendly attitude. You just gotta give yourself (and your love interests) some attention.


Dear Dish-It,

I am in 6th grade and I like this boy who is also in 6th grade. He knows I like him but he doesn't like me. I'm sooo... sad. Every time I see his face I get butterflies in my stomach.He drives me sooo.... crazy. I really want to go with him. What should I do?
Trinni


Dear Trinni,

Unfortunately, there is really zero you can do about this situation. The fact is, sometimes you're gonna crush on someone who just doesn't crush back. That's life. What you need to realize in this kinda situation is this: there is nothing wrong with ya. It's easy to think that it must be your fault that someone isn't into you, but it really isn't. You're just as fun, smart and pretty as you always were - this dude just wants something different. The reverse will happen one day too - where someone is diggin' you and you ain't diggin' them. When it does, remember how it felt in your case and try to let 'em down easy. As for the butterflies and stuff... find a new guy to get all queasy over. That's all you can do.


Dear Dish-It,

My boyfriend, that is in the 7th grade, calls me but acts shady at school. He won't talk to me at school but on the phone he tells me how much he admires me and all. Will you tell me what to do about this situation?
Roma


Dear Roma,

Tell your boy to grow up. Any dude who can't let on that he digs ya in front of his peeps, or in public at all, is being a baby. He isn't ready for a relationship and he's so not worthy of your time - let alone your love. You deserve better and you know it.


So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .


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Autonomy
Autonomy posted in Family Issues:
"StarrChild" wrote: Two years ago my parents broke up. I was never really the same after that point. My mother she began to just not care about anything. She would go out clubbing every Friday and would yell at me for my attitude towards it. Why would I be okay with her doing that??? I didn't really realise it but I began feeling kind of depressed. Of course we didn't fight all the time but when we did I would always end up crying alone in my room. And it would be really painful. One time I cried every night for a week because of her. A week ago, I felt really sick at school so I went to the sick bay but my Mum refused to believe I was sick. She thought I was lying and being over dramatic as usual. I felt really horrible after that, that the teacher sent me to the guidance councellor and almost immediately I burst into tears. I didn't even know why I did but the councellor did a little test on me and came to the conclusion I was slightly depressed and had anxiety. It wasn't really surprising but hearing it out loud just felt really weird. Even after knowing that fact my mother doesn't really act any different. She's not a bad person I swear but she can just be really horrible at times. Anyways, that's technically whats been happening in my life lol. Nothing really interesting Oh dear, that sounds like a dreadful situation. I've lived through similar difficulties in my own life, and my heart goes out to you, truly. May I offer you some advice? I don't have the cure to your problems or a magic wand that can make them disappear, but I do believe that some good can come out of your living situation. The first thing I'd like to make note of, is that everyone makes mistakes. As human beings, we have to make mistakes. There's no way around it; it's how we learn and grow. And as we get older, we don't stop making mistakes. Your parents are no exception. Although we look to our parents for guidance, and direction, and support, we have to understand that they aren't perfect people, and they make mistakes. They may not always lead us in the right direction. They may not always set a good example. They may not always be there for us, to encourage us and support us when we need them most. And that's okay. Everyone makes mistakes, and we have to accept that. But we can't let allow other people's mistakes to hurt us, my dear. And I know it hurts. Your mum might not understand how her actions make you feel. You said you haven't been the same since your parents divorced, and I know how challenging that can be to go through. But you know, some of the brightest, wisest, and happiest people I've met, are people who have dealt with difficult problems in their lives, and used them to grow as people. You can let your parents' mistakes get to you, and make you upset and depressed; or, you can accept that they aren't perfect people, accept that they make mistakes, and accept that their mistakes don't have anything to do with you. So here's what you do, friend: you can't stop your mum from going clubbing, and that's okay. Don't try to. Don't fight with her about it. You can let her know how it makes you feel, but don't get into an argument. Accept the situation for what it is. Your mother is her own person, and she is accountable for what she does; you aren't. Next time you start to get in a fight or an argument with her, just step back, and withdraw yourself. Try it, see what happens. Once you decide not to let other peoples' failings affect you--and you do have the power to do this--then you'll find a sense of peace you probably haven't felt before. And you'll learn from your mistakes, and the mistakes of your parents, and everyone around you, and you'll be a better person. Press on.
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Dounuts posted in Family Issues:
Go to your neighbor's house and ask him/her to call to police.Everything will be just fine.
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my ex is going through the same thing. Call the police now. Things will get out of hand. My brothers friend has been living with us for about 2 weeks becuz his dad punched him in the face. Call 911 now. They will help you. Just say you have been abused by your family member and they will take it from there. If you want, add me and we can talk
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XxRuby_PhoenixxX
If you are getting abused to the point where you bleed, call the police immediately. This isn't acceptable behavior.
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