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Dear Dish-It, He Denied It... They Always Do


Dear Dish-It, is here to whisper "ttyl when I've thought about this some more".


Dear Dish-It,

There is this boy in my class... he is like a brother to me. I have liked him since the 6th grade. He says he likes me to. Should I ask him out or just keep my feelings inside?
T1102J


Dear T1102J,

Yuck! What's up with this, gurl? This boy is like your brother, but you wannna know if you should ask him out? Again with the "yuck." My brother is many things, including a friend, but dating material? I don't think so. I hear this a lot from you gurls... writin' in and sayin' your boy is like a bro... and askin' what's your next move. And my answer is always the same - nuttin'. Maybe you need to think about your feelin's a bit more. Are we talkin' 'bout a hottie you're crushin' on? And it always feels totally easy when you're with him? No game playin'? No shy gurl or shy guy? Cuz if this is what you mean, you need to say it. And whatever you do, don't tell him you think he's like a brother. You'll be sending the wrong message. Just step up and tell him how you feel.


Dear Dish-It,

Well, there is this new guy at our school and I thought nothing of him because he wasn't all that. But then I started passing by him more and more, and talking to him here and there. He started looking kinda cute so I told my best friend and she said ewwww! Well, sure enough we got together and we were together 4 about a month. In the meantime, I was talking to his best friend (on the cools) from his old school. I ask all my boy friends the same question - "have you ever been in love?" My boyfriend told me once with his X chick. Then I was talking to his best friend. He told me my boyfriend was still with that other girl, but I kinda thought he was just trying to break us up because he kept trying to get with me. N-E wayz, I got so mad and hurt I couldn't believe it and the weird part was I was actually falling in love. I told my boyfriend and he denied it... (but they always do.) He was staying with his aunt and we were talking for awhile, but we had to go cause it was getting late. I admitted I loved him and he said he loved me too. Now, 2 months later, I haven't heard from him since then. And his grandma and his brother still live in the same apartment, but everytime I call or knock on their door they don't answer and I know they're there cause their car is there, the lights are on and you can hear the TV. Well, I called him from my cousin's house and his grandma answered the phone and told me he's been on vacation and should be coming back soon. So I called and they're not answering. What should I do?
LilTeez100


Dear LilTeez100,

Let it go gurl. You're sounding like a total wack job. Hello, stalker much? I mean you sound so paranoid "I can hear the TV," that this guy is costing you all the marbles. Like, the marbles in your head. My advice is back off before the brain damage is permanent. Either this guy doesn't deserve the freak session you're about to unload or he's damaged goods himself. Maybe your behavior is reasonable given this boy's behaviour. But do you want everyone to think you're a fatal attraction? I'll say it again, back off. Don't give this guy another thought. Don't even mention his name. When you start to feel that you've got it under control, find someone new. Someone nice and reliable. If you can't back off, you might need help loosening that choke hold. Talk to a friend... maybe they can lend some objectivity here.


Dear Dish-It,

I have a boyfriend but we don't talk a lot. I want to break up with him because we are going to have to break up soon. Should I do it now or later?
A.F.


Dear A.F.,

What are ya on, some sort of schedule? You have to break up with him soon... did this boy come with an expiry date? Best before... This sounds weirdly arbitrary, but there is no denying a lack of words. I mean how do you have a thing with someone when you don't talk to each other. News flash peeps - it's all about the talkin', the hangin', the understandin' and the supportin'. Havin' that special somebody in your life, is like being tight with a good friend (someone you share everything with.) It's not about bein' able to say you have a boyfriend or a girlfriend. Where's the value in that? If it ain't real, it ain't worth it.


So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .


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    Dear Dish-It,   There is this girl named Jozelyn. But let me start at the beginning. The very beginning. One day, I was born. Well, maybe not that much at the beginning. Okay, so I am part of this homeschool group, and I have been since I was around 6. I am 12 now. So there was this one girl in it named Rebecca. I liked her since I joined, and when I was around 8, since my sister is friends with Rebecca's sister, we were invited to her birthday party. Oh, and I had told my sister about how I liked Rebecca. So, we were going to go on a hay-ride, when my sister asked Rebecca, right in front of me, "So do you like Dean? Like like like Dean" (I'm Dean). Well, I was mortified, and it looked like Rebecca was too.    Fast forward.    I no longer like Rebecca. Now, I like this one girl named Jozelyn who is in my Sunday School class. I've liked her since I stopped liking Rebecca, which was about after that incident. So, I have been in the same Sunday School class with her since I joined this church. They have Kindergarten, 1st and 2nd grade, 3rd and 4th, 5th and 6th, and 7th and 8th. Even though I am in 7th grade, since last fall, I was in 5th and 6th. So is Jozelyn. So, in February, I decided to be brave. (I am normally an introvert) I made a beautiful origami rose, bought a small box of chocolates, and wrote a note the was signed, 'Your secret admirer'. I had an adult that I trusted give it to her with the clue, "The person who this is from shares his name with the first man to walk on the moon's brother". So, it wouldn't take long to find out, as well as the fact that she knows that I make origami. Oh, and luckily, at that time, instead of doing my Sunday School, I helped to teach the 3rd and 4th with my mom.   So, I kind of avoided her, except for times that we would catch eye contact, and we would both look away. (She's normally outgoing, but with this she's shy also) So it was like that for awhile, until, one time the 5th and 6th class were doing a bible trivia game. Due to my vast biblical knowledge, I was a lifeline. So, the one time, her team came into the 3rd and 4th classroom, and asked me a question. I kept my eyes on the floor the whole time. I accidentally got the answer wrong, and they left. Oh, and I decided to tell my sister all about it, because I needed to tell a kid around my age. But I made her promise not to tell anyone.   So meanwhile, it was now June. I still liked her just as much, if not more. So there is this thing that comes to our town twice every year. It's called Missoula Children's Theatre, and two tour actor/directors come to Thrasher Opera House (A place for plays in our town), and hold auditions on a Monday for a play, and perform on a Saturday. So I auditioned for Assistant Director. (They help get people ready backstage). You'll never guess who else was auditioning. Jozelyn. I tried to keep calm, and I did get to be one of the assistant directors. The play was Rumpelstiltskin, and she got villager.   Since she was part of a large group, I didn't have really any interaction with her. But sometimes, the girl next to her would look at me, and whisper to Jozelyn. So, other than awkward times when we would catch each other's eyes, it was mostly uneventful. Oh, and I should mention that the rehearsals were from 3:00 to 6:00, then there was a 30 minute dinner break, and then another practice from 6:30 to 8:30. The dinner break was when we would go downstairs, eat, and socialize. I do not socialize. So I just go into my tiny corner, and eat, and sit there. Oh, and on Thursday, and did a short magic show during dinner.    But on Friday, everything changed. I had some nerve again, and I made an origami tulip, and wrote a note that said, "I think that you did a great job this week! Good luck for tomorrow, and break a leg!", and then I signed it in calligraphy. I actually signed my name. No more secret admirer. I put it in a brown lunch bag that said, "To: Jozelyn" on it. Then I secretly put it on the chair that she normally sits at, and waited. Well, some people noticed that I looked very nervous, some said I was shaking, and they crowded around me. Well, Jozelyn came in, and she saw the bag. I missed part of it because of all of the people, but I saw her looking very happy, and running downstairs. Well, eventually, the people went away from me, and I continued to act like a statue. So rehearsal went well for the day, and I continued to avoid her.   On Saturday,  everybody comes at 11:00 AM, and we do a dress rehearsal. Well, I couldn't much avoid her then, so I acted like a statue. Oh, and my sister has this one friend, Iris, who I was also currently writing and directing a movie with, and we would often drive her there. So, we did the dress rehearsal without a hitch, and then had lunch. And at lunch, Iris was hiring people for our movie. Well, I suggested Jozelyn, and Iris asked her, and she said yes. Then we got ready for the first performance. So, it was going good, but then I needed to get Rumpelstiltskin ready, and there was a bunch of people in the way.   Jozelyn saw me struggling, and (Cue angel music :angel ), she asked, "Do you need help Dean?".THIS WAS THE FIRST TIME THAT WE HAD SPOKEN SINCE FEBRUARY! Okay, so I said. "Yes please, I need Rumpelstiltskin". And then she quickly got him for me!  So, then we finished, and went for dinner. We went to a place called goose blind, and I got gluten free pizza (dietary restriction). Oh, and Iris came with us. So, then my sister and Iris went to this place called Guth's that was a candy shop/cafe. I stayed outside. I thought that I heard Iris calling me in, but didn't think much of it.    So, we went inside, and did the second performance. At the end, everyone poses for photos in groups, while the other actors went to change into their clothes. So, the villagers were one of the first ones, and they went downstairs. Well, it was almost time for the assistant directors to go, when Jozelyn came up. She asked me, "Could I sign your shirt?" (It was a tradition for all of the cast members to sign each other's shirts from the play). Well, I had wanted her to sign it all week, then the shirt would be priceless, but of course, I didn't ask her to. Well, I was surprised, and said yes. I ran to grab my sharpies, but then we were called on for pictures. Well, when I returned, she was waiting for me. I gave her the sharpie, and tried to not tremble while she signed it.   Fast forward.   We were in the car going home, and I told my mom and sister about what happened. My mom remarked, "It's nice that she wanted to after what happened". "After what happened?" I asked. 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