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Dear Dish-It: He Hates Being Asked Out

Dear Dish-It,

I have a crush on this boy but he gets annoyed with girls asking him out. Should I do it anyway?

Pinkie


Dear Pinkie,

Interesting question! Whether or not you ask him out – knowing that he doesn’t really respond well to that kind of thing – is totally up to you. If you feel like doing it, do it. If you’re worried about what his reaction or answer might be, don’t. If you don’t care what his reaction or answer might be and you like him enough that you want to find out if he feels the same way about you, then definitely do it! If your feelings get hurt easily and this guy is notorious for turning girls down, well then, don’t.


There’s actually a good life lesson in all of this. No other person besides yourself can make you feel any way at all. Only you are the cause of your own feelings and emotions. What I’m trying to say is, it’s up to you whether this guy makes you feel bad or not when you ask him out. And, if you know yourself well enough to know that it will make you feel bad if he rejects you (like he has done to other girls) then save yourself some pain and grief and move on to the next crush! Just remember: you’ll never know if you don’t ask.


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    -Gwen9-- posted in Friends:
    "jordand08" wrote:Thank you.You're welcome. :)
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    donteatcarrots
    talk to the person you're closest too. yes, you said you don't get close with people, but there's probably one person who you speak to more often than others- talk to that person.
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    donteatcarrots posted in Friends:
    Don't worry too much- it's only your first relationship- but I'd sit down with him at one point, and discuss what makes you uncomfortable, eg; if you know what I mean...
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    donteatcarrots posted in Friends:
    Probably sound a little stereotypical, but the majority of boys don't really act like that... Ask him :p
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    kittenkid
    First: WHATEVER YOU DO, DON'T KILL YOUSELF! When you get past this you'll be glad. Well, this is just my opinion, but I think you should first find someone, anyone, even if you don't trust them, if there're your parents talk to them about it. I bet a bunch of people have already told you this but there're right. Before you walk up to them, write down what you're going to say and then think of a few questions they might ask and write down the answers to them. Remember to tell them that it might take you a minute to think of an answer. Before you answer, think of the exact words you will say  before you say anything, and think in your mind about it. Think about wether it is a lie or not before you say it. If it gets out of you mouth before you realize it is a lie, don't be afraid to say so and just say the truth. Also, just try to find something you like to do that will take your mind off everything. If you really can't think of anything, try just practicing saying your feelings to yourself, or a pillow or something.  Hope this helps!
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