Dear Dish-It: He Hates Being Asked Out

Dear Dish-It,

I have a crush on this boy but he gets annoyed with girls asking him out. Should I do it anyway?


Dear Pinkie,

Interesting question! Whether or not you ask him out – knowing that he doesn’t really respond well to that kind of thing – is totally up to you. If you feel like doing it, do it. If you’re worried about what his reaction or answer might be, don’t. If you don’t care what his reaction or answer might be and you like him enough that you want to find out if he feels the same way about you, then definitely do it! If your feelings get hurt easily and this guy is notorious for turning girls down, well then, don’t.

There’s actually a good life lesson in all of this. No other person besides yourself can make you feel any way at all. Only you are the cause of your own feelings and emotions. What I’m trying to say is, it’s up to you whether this guy makes you feel bad or not when you ask him out. And, if you know yourself well enough to know that it will make you feel bad if he rejects you (like he has done to other girls) then save yourself some pain and grief and move on to the next crush! Just remember: you’ll never know if you don’t ask.

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