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Dear Dish-It,

I finally got the GF I wanted and I like her so, so much. She's nice, sweet, understanding - everything a guy could want. But, I never talk to her! When we weren't GF and BF we talked but not now. Don't say break up, it's NOT going to happen! I need advice on how I can get words to come out of my mouth. Please help me!
Alpha(Sniper)


Dear Alpha(Sniper),

Relax! I am not going to tell you to break up. It sounds like you really like this lil' hottie and that she probably really likes you too. The prob here is that sometimes, when you move from buddies to BF and GF, things seem a little strange at first. You knew exactly how to act around her - and what to say to her - when you were just crushin', now what you've gotta realize is nothing much has changed. She's still the same person, you're still the same person and you can still talk about whatever you talked about before you were going out. Remember, it's what you said and did to begin with that got her to like you. So just relax, take a deep breath and be yourself. It sounds lame, but it works. Good luck!


Dear Dish-It,

I dated this guy and I french kissed him. I broke up with him like a month later. It's the end of the school year, he still likes me and he keeps pestering me about me dating his best friend. I keep telling him no and to go away but he won't. I like being single but the guy I like likes me and this other girl who is very flashy. She shows everything and none of the guys like her but she thinks he likes her but he doesn't! He likes me, which makes her jealous and she tries to make me look bad. Now she is trying to get my ex-boyfriend to go out with me so she can go out with the guy I like. What should I do to get her away from me and to snag the guy I like? How can I get him to like me even more than now? Write soon!!!
DGYDiva


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