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Dear Dish-It, Do I Play Them All?


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Dear Dish-It,

Well, the problem is about three cute boys at my school. Everbody likes them. So one day I kissed one of them while his ex-wannnabe-wifey was around. She sat up there and said, "Why'd you do that? I still got feelings for him." I told her the truth - he was only using her. Now I like him but I know for sure he don't think that about me. Or does he? Well, his boys are so fine, I'm starting to love them too. Should I play them all?
doozy


Dear doozy,

Are you serious? Do you really need me to tell ya whether playing three guys is cool or not? Come on, girlfriend, rent a clue! No you shouldn't play them all. And you shouldn't have dissed that ex the way you did. Maybe the dude was using her, or whatever, but who are you to rub salt in someone's wound? So not cool. You don't think the guy likes you, huh? Well, I wouldn't like ya either if you were bein' cruel to my ex and tellin' them I'm a user. Girlfriend, no disrepect, but you gotta work on being nicer to people before you get involved with any guy.


Dear Dish-It,

Alright. I met this girl at a concert and I got the hint that she liked me. I asked her out and we have gone on two dates. I'm a shy guy and she is my first "date." I want to "go out" with her, but there is a problem with school. We both take heavy classes and she lives 25 minutes away. We go to different schools. I can drive and it is summer, but how can I carry a serious relationship past summer into the school year and keep things going? This is really tearing me up inside because I really like this girl. I would appreciate any advice. I can drive and I do, but time is really crunched.
quadplayerjs


Dear quadplayerjs,

This isn't as tough as it seems. You're thinking this out too much. If I were you I would go for it. It sounds like she's a really, really great chick - and those can be few and far between. Since your summer isn't very busy, and you can drive out and see her, I would keep seeing her. You really never know what'll happen by the time school starts up again and I don't believe there is any point stopping a good thing now because of what might or could happen in the fall. Just enjoy this girl and your relationship with her. Everything else will work itself out one way or another. Remember, "Carpe Diem" (it means "Seize the Day" in Latin.)


So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .


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    astucieuse331
    astucieuse331 posted in Friends:
    I've always felt the same way. My one best friend gossiped behind my back, used me, all that girl stuff. She took me for advantage and we had a bunch of fights because of her finding a new friend and completely acting as if I didn't exist, and I told her to give me at least some attention every once in a while if she can't even continue to talk to me daily. And.. I lost her. Well, she lost me. We both lost each other. But then I realized.. it's the people that you least expect to be nice to you you'll find kindness in. Why? Based on personal experience, and I'll tell you the story: For my gym class, me and my peers were supposed to make a group for a dance. This was when my best friend had found a new friend already, and the time at which we had a few fights because of that. Of course, I relied on my best friend to count me in her dance group. At lunchtime, I sat together with my best friend, and we ate our lunches in silence. All of a sudden, I brought up the dance groups and asked her straightforwardly: "Can I join your group?" No reply. "Kelly, can I join your group?" No reply. "I mean, since our class is uneven, I found it fair that there'd be a group of five, you know?" None at all. Kelly ignored me straight off the bat, leaving me speechless. My mind raced with thoughts, and I thought, maybe it's not worth having Kelly as a friend. A few days later, we were playing Dodgeball for gym. I was on Kelly's team, and overheard her talking with her new friends about who to pick for the dance group. One of her friends mentioned me, and Kelly said: "Oh no, we shouldn't pick her because _____ (I don't know what she said then)." I was shocked, but was anticipating it, so when the time came to choose groups, I saw my friend, Luke, ask two girls, Cher and Bridgette, to join their group. Surprisingly, Cher and Bridgette actually accepted him, and so I thought, "Wow, if they accepted Luke, they might accept me aswell!" and so built up the courage to ask them if I could join. Even though Cher and Bridgette were mean to me sometimes, I knew that I had to risk it and see what'd happen. Afterall, rejection is just another opportunity to find a better group. Little did I know, it'd be the best choice of my life. They were so happy, and even thanked me for joining them! I was speechless once more; I never knew that the peers that I thought I would never be friends with would actually be my friends!  So yeah, that's what I learnt, and I never regretted learning that fact. Ever since then, though, I've learnt not to trust people as much as I used to anymore. I learnt that independency is what works for me, what I was meant for in terms of socializing or working. But, other things may work for you. If you still want a friend, you can be independent and wait for the right person. However, if you still want a real friend, you can wait, but still mingle (hang out) with other people! I I'm not going to make fun of you because I know how you've felt, just as I stated in my past problem before. But you can move on from those friends, they're not worth your time and certainly don't deserve you as a friend. Trust me, if it's meant to be, you'll definitely find a true friend. But if it's not, you may become like me, finding happiness in my own way. I want to remind you though-- you don't need someone to stay happy, or keep you company. This may sound silly, but you can even have your own invisible friends! I've had one, but that's very rarely for me. It's not silly though if you see the general idea; usually these friends are made from different dimensions of your personality or just because of will. There's a lot more fish in the sea, though, so I'm sure you'll find a true friend that's meant for you  :) Take care, and I hope you'll find a true friend soon!
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    ts01
    ts01 posted in Friends:
    im so sorry you girls feel that way.true friends are there, its just easier to find users because they are more plentiful. dont give up, you will find real friends eventually
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    lolflowergirl
    lolflowergirl posted in Friends:
    i feel alone too
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    kayme123
    kayme123 posted in Friends:
    i know the feeling. but i got taken off a website instead of my friends. i can assure you they probably feel the same and are missing you, BUT its not worth dwelling over it. friends come and go without any choice in life and trust me, i lost the love of my life and my two of the best friends in the world. The thing is, you have to move on, because they wouldent want you feeling sad over them right? they'd want you to be the happy person you were when you were with them! for starters, i'll be your friend so your not scared to make some new ones. To be honest, i went through the exact same thing as you did and it DOES hurt very bad. But once you find some people that are willing to make you feel better, you know you've chosen the right friends again
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    Irene_love
    Irene_love posted in Style:
    "1.am.3m0" wrote:Hey. Im also turning 15 soon. So dont worry you arent alone hahah. Start dressing for your shape and also find whats comfortable.  Because if you wear something that is uncomfortable you wont be happy and happiness is the best look :) Most of the time I wear jeans with a graphic tshirt or singlet and a cardigan or light jacket. Hoodies are great for winter. And I wear combat boots like doc martins and converse. Hope I helped somehow! :)
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