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Dear Dish-It, Do I Play Them All?


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Dear Dish-It,

Well, the problem is about three cute boys at my school. Everbody likes them. So one day I kissed one of them while his ex-wannnabe-wifey was around. She sat up there and said, "Why'd you do that? I still got feelings for him." I told her the truth - he was only using her. Now I like him but I know for sure he don't think that about me. Or does he? Well, his boys are so fine, I'm starting to love them too. Should I play them all?
doozy


Dear doozy,

Are you serious? Do you really need me to tell ya whether playing three guys is cool or not? Come on, girlfriend, rent a clue! No you shouldn't play them all. And you shouldn't have dissed that ex the way you did. Maybe the dude was using her, or whatever, but who are you to rub salt in someone's wound? So not cool. You don't think the guy likes you, huh? Well, I wouldn't like ya either if you were bein' cruel to my ex and tellin' them I'm a user. Girlfriend, no disrepect, but you gotta work on being nicer to people before you get involved with any guy.


Dear Dish-It,

Alright. I met this girl at a concert and I got the hint that she liked me. I asked her out and we have gone on two dates. I'm a shy guy and she is my first "date." I want to "go out" with her, but there is a problem with school. We both take heavy classes and she lives 25 minutes away. We go to different schools. I can drive and it is summer, but how can I carry a serious relationship past summer into the school year and keep things going? This is really tearing me up inside because I really like this girl. I would appreciate any advice. I can drive and I do, but time is really crunched.
quadplayerjs


Dear quadplayerjs,

This isn't as tough as it seems. You're thinking this out too much. If I were you I would go for it. It sounds like she's a really, really great chick - and those can be few and far between. Since your summer isn't very busy, and you can drive out and see her, I would keep seeing her. You really never know what'll happen by the time school starts up again and I don't believe there is any point stopping a good thing now because of what might or could happen in the fall. Just enjoy this girl and your relationship with her. Everything else will work itself out one way or another. Remember, "Carpe Diem" (it means "Seize the Day" in Latin.)


So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .


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