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Dear Dish-It, My BFF's Ex Likes Me!

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Dear Dish-It,

I always thought my best friend's BF was cute. A couple of days after they broke up, I found out my best friend's X-BF had a crush on a new girl - ME!!! Although I thought he was cute, I didn't really want him as a BF. All of a sudden my friend won't talk to me anymore. Then I found out that someone had told her that I had asked her X-BF to break-up with her so we could go out. I tried to talk to her but she won't listen to what I have to say! I told her X-BF to tell her the truth but he won't! Now all of my friends won't talk to me because they know that I knew my friend really liked her BF and none of them listen when I say that I didn't ask him 2 break up with her!!! What should I do?
SexyAngel2002


Dear SexyAngel2002,

What a crappy position to be in! I feel for ya, girlfriend. In this type of situation it's hard to know what to do. Sometimes, the more you protest and tell 'em you never asked the BF to break-up with your BFF, the more guilty you look. There is an old saying by an English dude named Shakespeare - "The Lady Doth Protest Too Much" which basically means the more you say you didn't do something, the more it looks like you did. So, the best solution here is to take the high road, stay silent and stay strong.


You're BFF isn't a very good friend or else she would realize that no boy is worth losing friends over. And if she really trusted ya, she'd believe ya. Heck, if she values your friendship she should at least hear you out. Still, try not to get too angry at her. She's been hurt and she's just upset. If ya give her time to deal with all the rumors and the pain of being dumped, she might come around. As for the cute X-BF, good for you for not going for him. The fact that he would do that to your friend - and the fact that he wouldn't bother to tell her the truth about all the lies in this situation - makes him Grade A scum.


Dear Dish-It,

I like this guy in my class, but he doesn't really like me. Well anyway, when he said he was starting to like me, my best friend had to butt-in. She started to make stuff up about me, like I don't shave my legs and stuff. Now he thinks I am totally weird and he is going after my friend. What should I do?
nickipopo


Dear nickipopo,

Here's what you should do: get a new best friend and a new crush. These two losers are not worthy of your time. The fact is, the guy didn't like ya in the beginning - you said it yourself, then he started liking you, but let this girl's dumb gossip change his mind. He's lame. And as for this girl... she's not your "best friend", she's more like your worst enemy. Even if she was crushing on this guy too, there is a cool way to handle liking the same guy as your BFF and an uncool way. This girl took the uncool way. You don't need peeps like that in your life. The best way to handle this is to move-on and hang with your other friends, or make new friends and find a new guy to crush on. Don't even let it bother you (I know it will, but try not to let it bother you.) You deserve better!


So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .


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    arusharocks99

    arusharocks99 wrote:

    God.. Im losing my bff cuz of this! :'(
    commented: Wed Jul 16, 2014

    JennyD

    JennyD wrote:

    don't do it
    commented: Tue Aug 13, 2013

    RobotGirl123

    RobotGirl123 wrote:

    XD Sausages or toast, Im crying XD
    commented: Tue Aug 13, 2013

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