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Dear Dish-It, My Parents Made Us Break Up

What do you do when your parents are strict about dating?
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Dear Dish-It, is here to whisper "ttyl after I've thought about this some more".

Dear Dish-It,

Last year me and my BF had to break up cuz of letters my sister found that me and my BF wrote to each other. It's been a year now and I still can't stop thinking about him! We saw each other behind our parents' backs and then they found out and we lost their trust. Now I've got my 'rents trust back cuz he moved away. I talk bad about him around my Mom and Dad, but in my heart I love him. What can I do?
Babybluez


Dear Babybluez,

This is not lookin' good for you. You kinda handled the whole thing the wrong way, it seems. Well, here's what you gotta do: keep on crushin' on the ex, but try to move on at the same time. I have no idea what you two were writin' in those letters that your sis found but it musta been some big No-No for your 'rents to react so harshly. You've already lost their trust once, no need to up and do it again. Just keep your lingering feelings for this dude to yourself and move on. He's moved away, and it's probably for the best. Eventually you will get over him and one day you might even meet someone that your 'rents will approve of. But next time, axe the incriminating letter writing, k? Hang in there and good luck.


Dear Dish-It,

Well, to get to the point, I'm 12 and I'm going out with this 15 year-old guy. It feels like we're soulmates cuz we have A LOT in common. Well, I don't know how to tell my parents about it. I'm afraid they'll make us break up or something like that. What should I do?
Toxic_Dolphin69

Dear Toxic_Dolphin69,

That's a tough situation. If you think your parents will tell you to break up, then you probably know why they'll want you to do it too. Is it because they don't want you dating at 12? Is it because they'll object to the age difference? Before you tell your parents, think up some calm, rational responses to their potential concerns. If I were you, I'd also think up some compromises/solutions - like tell 'em, if they let you keep datin' him, you'll promise not to go out alone on dates with him, only group events. The solutions depend on your parents' issues, but you get the picture, right? The key here is to be calm and mature about this. No matter how rough this conversation may be, you gotta tell 'em. If they don't find out from you, but find out from the neighbor or some other random person, you'll not only lose your BF, you'll lose your parents' trust too.

So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .


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fireme

fireme wrote:

my dad told me if i get a bf he will break his leg since then i have been going out in ...
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masterwolf

masterwolf wrote:

whats going on here
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riahredd

riahredd wrote:

Beware!!! Because most of the dads dont like their daughters boyfriends. Lmao
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