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Dear Dish-It, I'm a Nice, Funny Loser


Dear Dish-It, is here to whisper "ttyl after I've thought about this some more".


Dear Dish-It,

Ok, here's the deal, I am in the 8th grade and have only had one BF in my life, but it seems that none of the guys like-like me. I don't know if I'm ugly or what! I mean, they seem to go for all of the other girls in my class, but never me! What's the deal? Adults all tell me I'm pretty and don't know why I don't have a BF. But, why don't all the boys think so?
Just Curious


Dear Just Curious,

Ever hear of the term late-bloomer? It has several meanings but in your case, I think it applies to the fact that you aren't dating as early as your friends. It's not the end of the world. Chances are you are pretty and you are a great person - and guys might honestly dig you and you just don't know it. Lots of great girls don't have boyfriends and there could be a ton of reasons why. Some girls are so cool they end up being "one of the guys" which means you stop being looked at in a romantic light and become more of a "sister." It sucks but in a way it's a compliment cuz guys can really relate to you. Hang in there and things will probably change. Also, think of all the bad things you're missing by being single - like the fights, the drama and the trauma of breaking up. Enjoy your singleness.


Dear Dish-It,

I'm a 12 year-old girl and I feel really left out because my two best friends in the whole world both have BFs and I DON'T! I really want one but everytime I try to ask somebody out, they say NO! There's this one guy I like and I'm willing to ask him out, but I'm afraid that everybody will find out and make fun of me because, well, I'm kind of a loser. But I'm a nice funny loser, which I guess is a plus! :) Can you give me some advice?
blue_booger


Dear blue_booger,

You sound like a lot of fun - I can tell just from your nick and your email! Seriously. Girls who are fun and can make jokes are the coolest chicks around - ask any guy! Unfortunately, it may just take time for guys to realize it. Time and maturity. See, in the beginning, a lot of young guys are attracted to the pretty, shy, stuck-up girls cuz they're "mysterious" but eventually most of 'em realize that personality is more important than the right "look" or "mystery." (Girls can be in the habit of doing this too, they go for jerks instead of nice guys cuz they think it's cooler or something.) Hang in there! Right now your fun, goofy friendliness may have you fallin' into that "buddy" category I described above. Also, keep in mind all the cool things about being single I mentioned above as well. And remember, you're 12 - there is a ton of time to date in your future.


Dear Dish-It,

I can't make any friends. I don't know why I can't make friends? Can U help me?
FrogTigg


Dear Frogtigg,

Making friends is not as easy as it looks. Sometimes, it may seem like you are the only one in the world with no friends, but there probably isn't a person out there who feels friendless at some point. Have you made an effort to talk to people and invite them to do things? It's hard putting yourself out there - especially hard if you're shy - but it's a necessary evil. Next time you are chatting with someone in the lunch room, or on the school bus, ask them if the wanna catch that new Freddie Prinze Jr. flick. Also, join some activities or committees at school. It's a way to socialize and hang out with peeps - get to know 'em - without too much pressure. And if you do join something - don't just sit in the corner and keep to yourself. Talk to people, participate. It's the only way for people to get to know who you really are. Good luck!


So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .


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    vwala_12
    vwala_12 posted in Friends:
    I guess I mean I have been in a lot of drama since the school year started I also recommend if the bullying gets worst tell someone and don’t just walk away it will be worst if you do and if there gonna beat you up just run and tell a teacher or tell your parent so always keep alert!
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    SnowAngel15
    SnowAngel15 posted in Friends:
    Monday-Friday, I have to deal with this girl, now none of you know me, so you can't really say I don't do this, but I'll just say it anyway, I don't like being mean, and I HATE talking bad about people I rarely ever do it, but this is just something I can't even fathom. Two of my best friends just got hurt because of her. You'd think that being in an ONLINE SCHOOL this would never happen but it did and it did not go well. I'm a straight A student, I'm a sophomore and I take both 10th grade and 11th grade courses, I'm also doing Advanced Honors and next year I hope to be able to do college courses AND high school courses, anyway. This girl joined our school last year she acts cool like she does all this stuff and every guy falls for it but I've thrown little tests here and there and she's even admitted to me that most of the things she claims to do are lies. She always bullies my friends and I get involved but then my other classmates try to say "You're being mean to her leave her alone!" I of course don't care if she's mean to me but my friends are off limits. So then she starts asking me for help with her school because  I help other students in my free time she was refusing to listen and didn't do well on the quiz and she tells me "I THOUGHT you were supposed to help!?" So she kept asking me for help now I love my teachers and respect them she asked one of them to come into the room because she refused to listen to me, and I was polite and nice like usual and she said "You sure do like your teachers." I called her on it and she was shocked I did. Then I was helping two of my best friends. They are friends with her but I don't get involved, now this girl let's call her Maggie likes the guy let's call him John. John liked her and told me to tell Maggie and I did they were about to get together when this girl the bully begged him to date her instead. He said yes, now this bully has a new boyfriend every other week, and he started being mean to Maggie after he started dating the bully. She just dumped him when he tried to come back into Maggie's life I started snapping him out and being very crude towards him. Is what I did right?
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    vwala_12
    vwala_12 posted in Family Issues:
    They mean what does there family think about them
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    vwala_12
    vwala_12 posted in Family Issues:
    I think you come out great even though I don’t have any you do you and people will love your personali
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    NightSpoon
    Okay lots of fandoms out there going up to these forum posts above but, tell your family plenty of nice things out there with the fandom you're in. If they don't like it, its their lost. Their opinion is their lost woopdedoo. But if they're all disgusted and trying to force you to """""live like a normal being"""""(Realize everyone's different and I doubt this would happen), dont mind to them. You be you. Whatever makes you happy and joyful about something.
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