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Dear Dish-It, I Have No Self-Esteem

Dear Dish-It,

I have no self-esteem. I don't dance at dances. I can't talk to guys, even if they're not cute. I won't wear shirts that say Hottie or nothin' like that!
JustinLvr02


Dear JustinLvr02,

You need to take it easy on yourself. First, start giving yourself credit for things. If someone gives you a compliment - listen to it, don't blow it off. And start complimenting yourself. Tell yourself, "I look great today" or "I really aced that exam. Good for me!" Also, concentrate on the sports, hobbies or activities you are good at and enjoy. All of that should help build your self-esteem. The fact that you can't talk to guys - even if they aren't cute - just means you're shy. It's not a horrible thing, some guys even think it's cute. Take your time, eventually it'll become easier to talk to 'em. And as for not wearing shirts that say "Hottie" on 'em... that's just good fashion sense, girl! If you're really concerned with your style, why not swing by Style Street for some tips on what's hot this year? Sounds like you're just a little unsure of who you are right now, but that's something that everyone goes through. Just remember, believing in yourself helps others to believe in you too.


So, ya got a burnin' question? Need some love direction? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex, how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to Dish-It here. Send all of your questions to deardish@kidzworld.com. But remember, if ya hang out in Chat with other Kidzworld members who know ya by your "username," ya might wanna use a secret nickname when ya write in. That way no one will ever know it's you. And, just in case ya don't know, Dish-It gets a lotta letters every day, and she can't answer 'em all. So keep checkin' the column cuz she's prob'ly answerin' somethin' very similar to your question while you're out doin' somethin' else. K? And thanks! Ya keep her outta trouble! Oh! And if ya got words of wisdom you wanna share, we'll dish 'em up, too.


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-Gwen9--
-Gwen9-- posted in Friends:
"jordand08" wrote:Thank you.You're welcome. :)
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donteatcarrots
talk to the person you're closest too. yes, you said you don't get close with people, but there's probably one person who you speak to more often than others- talk to that person.
reply about 2 hours
donteatcarrots
donteatcarrots posted in Friends:
Don't worry too much- it's only your first relationship- but I'd sit down with him at one point, and discuss what makes you uncomfortable, eg; if you know what I mean...
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donteatcarrots
donteatcarrots posted in Friends:
Probably sound a little stereotypical, but the majority of boys don't really act like that... Ask him :p
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kittenkid
First: WHATEVER YOU DO, DON'T KILL YOUSELF! When you get past this you'll be glad. Well, this is just my opinion, but I think you should first find someone, anyone, even if you don't trust them, if there're your parents talk to them about it. I bet a bunch of people have already told you this but there're right. Before you walk up to them, write down what you're going to say and then think of a few questions they might ask and write down the answers to them. Remember to tell them that it might take you a minute to think of an answer. Before you answer, think of the exact words you will say  before you say anything, and think in your mind about it. Think about wether it is a lie or not before you say it. If it gets out of you mouth before you realize it is a lie, don't be afraid to say so and just say the truth. Also, just try to find something you like to do that will take your mind off everything. If you really can't think of anything, try just practicing saying your feelings to yourself, or a pillow or something.  Hope this helps!
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