Kw-logo-smaller

Dear Dish-It, I'm Lying About My Age

Dear Dish-It,

I'm new here and I've only just signed up. I was suicidal a long time ago but I met a girl through my cousin and she changed my life. She made me happy and we were going out for ages until her Mom told her that I was too old for her and that we couldn't go out. I'm 16 and she is 14 and we are going out again. I love her to bits but it didn't start off great because we don't see much of each other. Now we've sorted this problem out and we are going strong again! But now I have become a bit paranoid about her going off with other people - cuz I'm not with her all the time. I don't know how she feels about me, but I love her loads and would never do something like cheat on her. I get paranoid about her doing it to me, though. Any ideas on what I should do?
Benton2002


Dear Benton2002,

Here's what you should do - stop being so paranoid. It sounds like this girl is a great thing - and I would say (from what you've told me) she likes you as much as you like her. No one invests that much time into someone, working out the problems and dealing with the 'rents issues, if they don't really like a person. But buggin' her about going out without ya, or stressin' over the possibility that she might cheat may just make ya break up. That's the last thing ya want right? So relax, enjoy your relationship and quit worrying about stuff that hasn't happened.


Dear Dish-It,

I have a boyfriend and he's 14. He thinks I'm 13 - but I'm really 12! Is that ok?
shellybelly25


Dear shellybelly25,

Hey girl - I think you already know that, no, it is NOT ok to lie. Well, you can tell your Aunt Hilda she doesn't look fat in that orange, plaid moo-moo or tell your Grandma that you really loved that ugly puke-green sweater she knitted you for your B-Day - but other than stuff like that, it really isn't cool to lie. Why exactly are you lying, anyway? If this guy is gonna dump you cuz your 12 instead of 13 - he ain't worth your time anyway. If I were you, I would tell him your real age ASAP. Let's say you stay with this guy for a long time and he somehow finds out about your real age on his own... how uncool and untrustworthy are you gonna look? Just tell him the truth - there is nuttin' wrong with being 12 girlfriend.


Dear Dish-It,

I have a friend who likes this girl and he wants me to introduce them. The thing is, I like her too and have been trying to express myself but have failed - badly! Do I go ahead and introduce them and risk losing her or not introduce them and risk losing a friend?
JV


Dear JV,

You come clean - to both of 'em. First off, tell your bud how you feel about this girl. Explain to him that you've also liked this girl for a long time and that he's gonna have to intro himself, cuz it'd be too hard for you. Also, 'fess up to the lil' hottie. If you're vocal cords get all choked-up when she's around, then send her a note, an email, whatever! Just giddy-up before your friend sweeps her off her feet. If she's not interested in you, at least you'll know for sure. The constantly wondering feels worse than knowing for sure. Trust me. Plus, even if she doesn't go for ya, it doesn't mean she'll definitely go for your buddy. Good luck!


So, ya got a burnin' question? Need some love direction? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex, how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to Dish-It here. Send all of your questions to deardish@kidzworld.com. But remember, if ya hang out in Chat with other Kidzworld members who know ya by your "username," ya might wanna use a secret nickname when ya write in. That way no one will ever know it's you. And, just in case ya don't know, Dish-It gets a lotta letters every day, and she can't answer 'em all. So keep checkin' the column cuz she's prob'ly answerin' somethin' very similar to your question while you're out doin' somethin' else. K? And thanks! Ya keep her outta trouble! Oh! And if ya got words of wisdom you wanna share, we'll dish 'em up, too.


Related Stories

  • Dear Dish-It: Dating - My New BF Wants to Do It
  • Dear Dish-It: Dating - I Want My Sister's Man
  • 28 Comments

    latest videos

    F1026160338828

    Would U Lie About Your Age?

    • Yeah, if I thought the guy would think I am too young.
    • I've lied about it, but only to get into restricted movies.
    • I've lied so often, I forget my real age!
    • I wouldn't lie about my age - it's kinda dumb.

    related stories

    I have some problems at school. All of the girls in the "popular" group pick on me. It's been goi...

    Dear Dish-It in the forums

    astucieuse331
    astucieuse331 posted in Friends:
    I've always felt the same way. My one best friend gossiped behind my back, used me, all that girl stuff. She took me for advantage and we had a bunch of fights because of her finding a new friend and completely acting as if I didn't exist, and I told her to give me at least some attention every once in a while if she can't even continue to talk to me daily. And.. I lost her. Well, she lost me. We both lost each other. But then I realized.. it's the people that you least expect to be nice to you you'll find kindness in. Why? Based on personal experience, and I'll tell you the story: For my gym class, me and my peers were supposed to make a group for a dance. This was when my best friend had found a new friend already, and the time at which we had a few fights because of that. Of course, I relied on my best friend to count me in her dance group. At lunchtime, I sat together with my best friend, and we ate our lunches in silence. All of a sudden, I brought up the dance groups and asked her straightforwardly: "Can I join your group?" No reply. "Kelly, can I join your group?" No reply. "I mean, since our class is uneven, I found it fair that there'd be a group of five, you know?" None at all. Kelly ignored me straight off the bat, leaving me speechless. My mind raced with thoughts, and I thought, maybe it's not worth having Kelly as a friend. A few days later, we were playing Dodgeball for gym. I was on Kelly's team, and overheard her talking with her new friends about who to pick for the dance group. One of her friends mentioned me, and Kelly said: "Oh no, we shouldn't pick her because _____ (I don't know what she said then)." I was shocked, but was anticipating it, so when the time came to choose groups, I saw my friend, Luke, ask two girls, Cher and Bridgette, to join their group. Surprisingly, Cher and Bridgette actually accepted him, and so I thought, "Wow, if they accepted Luke, they might accept me aswell!" and so built up the courage to ask them if I could join. Even though Cher and Bridgette were mean to me sometimes, I knew that I had to risk it and see what'd happen. Afterall, rejection is just another opportunity to find a better group. Little did I know, it'd be the best choice of my life. They were so happy, and even thanked me for joining them! I was speechless once more; I never knew that the peers that I thought I would never be friends with would actually be my friends!  So yeah, that's what I learnt, and I never regretted learning that fact. Ever since then, though, I've learnt not to trust people as much as I used to anymore. I learnt that independency is what works for me, what I was meant for in terms of socializing or working. But, other things may work for you. If you still want a friend, you can be independent and wait for the right person. However, if you still want a real friend, you can wait, but still mingle (hang out) with other people! I I'm not going to make fun of you because I know how you've felt, just as I stated in my past problem before. But you can move on from those friends, they're not worth your time and certainly don't deserve you as a friend. Trust me, if it's meant to be, you'll definitely find a true friend. But if it's not, you may become like me, finding happiness in my own way. I want to remind you though-- you don't need someone to stay happy, or keep you company. This may sound silly, but you can even have your own invisible friends! I've had one, but that's very rarely for me. It's not silly though if you see the general idea; usually these friends are made from different dimensions of your personality or just because of will. There's a lot more fish in the sea, though, so I'm sure you'll find a true friend that's meant for you  :) Take care, and I hope you'll find a true friend soon!
    reply about 2 hours
    ts01
    ts01 posted in Friends:
    im so sorry you girls feel that way.true friends are there, its just easier to find users because they are more plentiful. dont give up, you will find real friends eventually
    reply about 3 hours
    lolflowergirl
    lolflowergirl posted in Friends:
    i feel alone too
    reply about 5 hours
    kayme123
    kayme123 posted in Friends:
    i know the feeling. but i got taken off a website instead of my friends. i can assure you they probably feel the same and are missing you, BUT its not worth dwelling over it. friends come and go without any choice in life and trust me, i lost the love of my life and my two of the best friends in the world. The thing is, you have to move on, because they wouldent want you feeling sad over them right? they'd want you to be the happy person you were when you were with them! for starters, i'll be your friend so your not scared to make some new ones. To be honest, i went through the exact same thing as you did and it DOES hurt very bad. But once you find some people that are willing to make you feel better, you know you've chosen the right friends again
    reply about 14 hours
    Irene_love
    Irene_love posted in Style:
    "1.am.3m0" wrote:Hey. Im also turning 15 soon. So dont worry you arent alone hahah. Start dressing for your shape and also find whats comfortable.  Because if you wear something that is uncomfortable you wont be happy and happiness is the best look :) Most of the time I wear jeans with a graphic tshirt or singlet and a cardigan or light jacket. Hoodies are great for winter. And I wear combat boots like doc martins and converse. Hope I helped somehow! :)
    reply about 15 hours

    play online games