Dear Dish-It, I'm Lying About My Age

Advice for Teens

Dear Dish-It,

I'm new here and I've only just signed up. I was suicidal a long time ago but I met a girl through my cousin and she changed my life. She made me happy and we were going out for ages until her Mom told her that I was too old for her and that we couldn't go out. I'm 16 and she is 14 and we are going out again. I love her to bits but it didn't start off great because we don't see much of each other. Now we've sorted this problem out and we are going strong again! But now I have become a bit paranoid about her going off with other people - cuz I'm not with her all the time. I don't know how she feels about me, but I love her loads and would never do something like cheat on her. I get paranoid about her doing it to me, though. Any ideas on what I should do?
Benton2002

Dear Benton2002,

Here's what you should do - stop being so paranoid. It sounds like this girl is a great thing - and I would say (from what you've told me) she likes you as much as you like her. No one invests that much time into someone, working out the problems and dealing with the 'rents issues, if they don't really like a person. But buggin' her about going out without ya, or stressin' over the possibility that she might cheat may just make ya break up. That's the last thing ya want right? So relax, enjoy your relationship and quit worrying about stuff that hasn't happened.

Dear Dish-It,

I have a boyfriend and he's 14. He thinks I'm 13 - but I'm really 12! Is that ok?
shellybelly25

Dear shellybelly25,

Hey girl - I think you already know that, no, it is NOT ok to lie. Well, you can tell your Aunt Hilda she doesn't look fat in that orange, plaid moo-moo or tell your Grandma that you really loved that ugly puke-green sweater she knitted you for your B-Day - but other than stuff like that, it really isn't cool to lie. Why exactly are you lying, anyway? If this guy is gonna dump you cuz your 12 instead of 13 - he ain't worth your time anyway. If I were you, I would tell him your real age ASAP. Let's say you stay with this guy for a long time and he somehow finds out about your real age on his own... how uncool and untrustworthy are you gonna look? Just tell him the truth - there is nuttin' wrong with being 12 girlfriend.

Dear Dish-It,

I have a friend who likes this girl and he wants me to introduce them. The thing is, I like her too and have been trying to express myself but have failed - badly! Do I go ahead and introduce them and risk losing her or not introduce them and risk losing a friend?
JV

Dear JV,

You come clean - to both of 'em. First off, tell your bud how you feel about this girl. Explain to him that you've also liked this girl for a long time and that he's gonna have to intro himself, cuz it'd be too hard for you. Also, 'fess up to the lil' hottie. If you're vocal cords get all choked-up when she's around, then send her a note, an email, whatever! Just giddy-up before your friend sweeps her off her feet. If she's not interested in you, at least you'll know for sure. The constantly wondering feels worse than knowing for sure. Trust me. Plus, even if she doesn't go for ya, it doesn't mean she'll definitely go for your buddy. Good luck!

So, ya got a burnin' question? Need some love direction? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex, how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to Dish-It here. Send all of your questions to deardish@kidzworld.com. But remember, if ya hang out in Chat with other Kidzworld members who know ya by your "username," ya might wanna use a secret nickname when ya write in. That way no one will ever know it's you. And, just in case ya don't know, Dish-It gets a lotta letters every day, and she can't answer 'em all. So keep checkin' the column cuz she's prob'ly answerin' somethin' very similar to your question while you're out doin' somethin' else. K? And thanks! Ya keep her outta trouble! Oh! And if ya got words of wisdom you wanna share, we'll dish 'em up, too.

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