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Dear Dish-It, I'm Lying About My Age

Dear Dish-It,

I'm new here and I've only just signed up. I was suicidal a long time ago but I met a girl through my cousin and she changed my life. She made me happy and we were going out for ages until her Mom told her that I was too old for her and that we couldn't go out. I'm 16 and she is 14 and we are going out again. I love her to bits but it didn't start off great because we don't see much of each other. Now we've sorted this problem out and we are going strong again! But now I have become a bit paranoid about her going off with other people - cuz I'm not with her all the time. I don't know how she feels about me, but I love her loads and would never do something like cheat on her. I get paranoid about her doing it to me, though. Any ideas on what I should do?
Benton2002


Dear Benton2002,

Here's what you should do - stop being so paranoid. It sounds like this girl is a great thing - and I would say (from what you've told me) she likes you as much as you like her. No one invests that much time into someone, working out the problems and dealing with the 'rents issues, if they don't really like a person. But buggin' her about going out without ya, or stressin' over the possibility that she might cheat may just make ya break up. That's the last thing ya want right? So relax, enjoy your relationship and quit worrying about stuff that hasn't happened.


Dear Dish-It,

I have a boyfriend and he's 14. He thinks I'm 13 - but I'm really 12! Is that ok?
shellybelly25


Dear shellybelly25,

Hey girl - I think you already know that, no, it is NOT ok to lie. Well, you can tell your Aunt Hilda she doesn't look fat in that orange, plaid moo-moo or tell your Grandma that you really loved that ugly puke-green sweater she knitted you for your B-Day - but other than stuff like that, it really isn't cool to lie. Why exactly are you lying, anyway? If this guy is gonna dump you cuz your 12 instead of 13 - he ain't worth your time anyway. If I were you, I would tell him your real age ASAP. Let's say you stay with this guy for a long time and he somehow finds out about your real age on his own... how uncool and untrustworthy are you gonna look? Just tell him the truth - there is nuttin' wrong with being 12 girlfriend.


Dear Dish-It,

I have a friend who likes this girl and he wants me to introduce them. The thing is, I like her too and have been trying to express myself but have failed - badly! Do I go ahead and introduce them and risk losing her or not introduce them and risk losing a friend?
JV


Dear JV,

You come clean - to both of 'em. First off, tell your bud how you feel about this girl. Explain to him that you've also liked this girl for a long time and that he's gonna have to intro himself, cuz it'd be too hard for you. Also, 'fess up to the lil' hottie. If you're vocal cords get all choked-up when she's around, then send her a note, an email, whatever! Just giddy-up before your friend sweeps her off her feet. If she's not interested in you, at least you'll know for sure. The constantly wondering feels worse than knowing for sure. Trust me. Plus, even if she doesn't go for ya, it doesn't mean she'll definitely go for your buddy. Good luck!


So, ya got a burnin' question? Need some love direction? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex, how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to Dish-It here. Send all of your questions to deardish@kidzworld.com. But remember, if ya hang out in Chat with other Kidzworld members who know ya by your "username," ya might wanna use a secret nickname when ya write in. That way no one will ever know it's you. And, just in case ya don't know, Dish-It gets a lotta letters every day, and she can't answer 'em all. So keep checkin' the column cuz she's prob'ly answerin' somethin' very similar to your question while you're out doin' somethin' else. K? And thanks! Ya keep her outta trouble! Oh! And if ya got words of wisdom you wanna share, we'll dish 'em up, too.


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    Abbergrl
    Haha, thank you. I don't want to date, it's just that these stupid crushes :/
    reply about 4 hours
    SimplyAda
    I can relate very much.  :e  It happens a lot. But here's one thing, try not to date. At my middle school, everyone literally dates everybody and relationships never last. Part of the reason is that most of us aren't in that mature phase yet (mostly boys). As the days go by, we're growing. But, it's completely normal to have a crush on a boy. :) :thumbsup
    reply about 4 hours
    SmartSunnyShadow
    Sorry for the late reply, but I'd love to help. If they don't want to talk to you, or don't like your jokes, don't talk to them. They probably don't like you, so you shouldn't try to make it better. You should hang out with your other friends. They'll make you feel better about yourself. If you don't have any friends in your class...that's the problem.  That's exactly what happened to me last year. But I started hanging out with the guys more, and they were really nice and had a lot in common with me. Maybe the guys will be nice to you and accept you. I hope I helped you. :)   
    reply about 11 hours
    SmartSunnyShadow
    Aw, that's sad. I know this is a late review, but I would love to help you make new friends. There are kids that do nasty things at every single school, trust me, you'll never find a perfect school, and if people are reporting this form of bullying, teachers are probably supervising children more, so don't worry about that. :) Now making new friends, ahh, that's very difficult. I can be shy myself, but it honestly depends. What I usually do is observe different groups of people, and see how they interact with each other. If the person seems nice, wait until the time is appropriate and greet them. A friendly "Hi, I'm new, could you maybe show me around, or help me with this, or tell me about this school?" That will start off a conversation. :)  As well, I tend to make jokes, or go to my funny side. I usually make way more friends that way. You could try to make slight jokes, and gradually make them less implied and more clear as you joke around.  If there are any other new kids, or shy kids, definitely talk to them. If there are any kids that look lonely, or sad, maybe take some time to approach them. If they look like the want to be left alone, leave them alone. If you're not sure, it's best if you see someone else interact with them first.  If you're bisexual, that doesn't really matter, and don't bring that fact up in a conversation. That's kind of personal, and when you get a little closer, you can say that. It's not really important, and necessary for people to know that. And it's personal too. So don't bring that up unless you really want to.  I hope i helped you! Sorry for the late advice. >_< 
    reply about 11 hours
    SmartSunnyShadow
    Several people are having the same problem as you. Whether they're the same gender or not, many people crush on some of their closest friends. So don't feel alone, remember that. I know this is some late advice, but I hope so far things are going good. Many people are feeling the urge of confessing like you. Yes, I think you should confess to her clearly, but when the time is right. She may not like you, but if you really really like her, you should absolutely confess to her. But be aware that confessing to one of your friends can ruin your friendship. You have to be cautious, confess when the time is right. 5 months may be long for you, but honestly, that's a short-term crush. Don't rush your confession, and don't give up unless you think you should. Getting over someone can be incredibly hard too, but you're either going to get over her, or confess to her. When the time is right, confess. When the time never seems to come, I'm sorry, but unfortunately, I think it's best if you get over her, because you have to be 100% sure before you confess to someone. You're risking your friendship to, so think if it's really worth it.  I hope I helped you. :) 
    reply about 11 hours