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Dear Dish-It: My First Kiss

Dear Dish-it,

Me and my boyfriend have been dating for a while and he wants to kiss me, but I’ve never kissed anyone before and he has. I'm scared that if I kiss him he won’t think I'm good at it. I’m really nervous and I don’t know what to do! Any advice?

Pandabear

Dear Pandabear,

Your first kiss is such a special and exciting moment! It can also be pretty nervewracking – it’s totally normal to feel slightly scared at the thought of doing something you’ve never tried before! While I think you’ll find that, once you do it, it will just come naturally, there are some tips and hints that may help you get over your first-kiss fears!

Wait Till You’re Ready

First thing’s first: kissing, like anything else, shouldn’t be something you feel like you HAVE to do. It shouldn’t be something that someone else forces you to do, either. Make sure you’re good and ready – otherwise, you probably won’t enjoy your first kiss much at all. Until you’re totally certain, don’t feel obligated or pressured to have your first kiss!

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Kissing Kit

If you feel like the big moment might be close at hand, you’ll probably be much calmer about it if you have some gum and maybe some [kwlink 7776 ]lip gloss[/kwlink] or chapstick closeby. Stick these items in your purse or pocket before you see your boyfriend and pull them out if you need to!

Just Breathe

When you get nervous, you might forget to do something as basic as breathing. But holding your breathe can make you feel even more jittery. Try taking a deep breathe in and a deep breathe out to calm yourself down before the big moment arrives. And don’t hold your breathe the whole time that you’re kissing, either!

HAVE YOUR SAY: What do you think Pandabear should do? Got any good advice? Do you remember your first kiss? Leave your comment below!

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