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Dear Dish-It: My First Kiss

Dear Dish-it,

Me and my boyfriend have been dating for a while and he wants to kiss me, but I’ve never kissed anyone before and he has. I'm scared that if I kiss him he won’t think I'm good at it. I’m really nervous and I don’t know what to do! Any advice?

Pandabear

Dear Pandabear,

Your first kiss is such a special and exciting moment! It can also be pretty nervewracking – it’s totally normal to feel slightly scared at the thought of doing something you’ve never tried before! While I think you’ll find that, once you do it, it will just come naturally, there are some tips and hints that may help you get over your first-kiss fears!

Wait Till You’re Ready

First thing’s first: kissing, like anything else, shouldn’t be something you feel like you HAVE to do. It shouldn’t be something that someone else forces you to do, either. Make sure you’re good and ready – otherwise, you probably won’t enjoy your first kiss much at all. Until you’re totally certain, don’t feel obligated or pressured to have your first kiss!

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Kissing Kit

If you feel like the big moment might be close at hand, you’ll probably be much calmer about it if you have some gum and maybe some [kwlink 7776 ]lip gloss[/kwlink] or chapstick closeby. Stick these items in your purse or pocket before you see your boyfriend and pull them out if you need to!

Just Breathe

When you get nervous, you might forget to do something as basic as breathing. But holding your breathe can make you feel even more jittery. Try taking a deep breathe in and a deep breathe out to calm yourself down before the big moment arrives. And don’t hold your breathe the whole time that you’re kissing, either!

HAVE YOUR SAY: What do you think Pandabear should do? Got any good advice? Do you remember your first kiss? Leave your comment below!

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donteatcarrots
talk to the person you're closest too. yes, you said you don't get close with people, but there's probably one person who you speak to more often than others- talk to that person.
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Don't worry too much- it's only your first relationship- but I'd sit down with him at one point, and discuss what makes you uncomfortable, eg; if you know what I mean...
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donteatcarrots posted in Friends:
Probably sound a little stereotypical, but the majority of boys don't really act like that... Ask him :p
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kittenkid
First: WHATEVER YOU DO, DON'T KILL YOUSELF! When you get past this you'll be glad. Well, this is just my opinion, but I think you should first find someone, anyone, even if you don't trust them, if there're your parents talk to them about it. I bet a bunch of people have already told you this but there're right. Before you walk up to them, write down what you're going to say and then think of a few questions they might ask and write down the answers to them. Remember to tell them that it might take you a minute to think of an answer. Before you answer, think of the exact words you will say  before you say anything, and think in your mind about it. Think about wether it is a lie or not before you say it. If it gets out of you mouth before you realize it is a lie, don't be afraid to say so and just say the truth. Also, just try to find something you like to do that will take your mind off everything. If you really can't think of anything, try just practicing saying your feelings to yourself, or a pillow or something.  Hope this helps!
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