"rainbowpoptart" wrote:16. :P "Boysrock50" wrote: 18 in April :(
That's not fair, man. You can't leave yet, you're one of the cool users. Could you maybe, like, grow younger instead of older? Because that'd be great. I'll brew up an anti-aging potion :D
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Do you prefer to shop online or not? :|
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you can be fairly certain of your orientation at about any age around thirteen, or younger, too, maybe, but i do think that you'd need a more extensive understanding of sexuality before you're actually sure? your own sexuality and of sexuality in general. i mean, there is this misconception about sga orientations being s*x-central, which isn't true, since a young kid can have crushes on the same gender without even knowing about s*x at all in the first place.
still, this is the difference between having an idea of your orientation and being certain of it (even if you may not be certain for many years after adolescence, too. it's not obligatory to figure it out before 20 or something). and it's really never too young for anybody to realize and acknowledge their attraction towards the same gender, it's just a matter of, will that attraction last for long enough after that for you to come out as the respective orientation? it's not just that you, as a girl, may be attracted to girls and boys now and later may just be attracted to boys--it could go totally the other way and find that you actually are only attracted to girls, but that only depends on your specific case and i don't know the details. it's fine to experiment with these labels i guess, but it's fair to say that many people will stop taking you seriously once you come out twice, thrice or more times as different things, because you hadn't thought it through properly.
not to say that a single move like this that you do at thirteen will prove to be fatal or anything, though, if you live in a community that wouldn't put you at actual danger upon coming out, that is. you don't have to even choose a label if in the end you're not really sure, there shouldn't be pressure to do so. just go with something general and you'll get the point across.
also keep in mind that 'coming out' isn't just a one time thing, and it's actually a continuous thing. sexuality won't come up in every discussion and you won't just go around yelling 'i'm gay!' around the whole city or something, you'll need to tell a lot of new people about it if you choose to and it will keep coming up. you can be out at school, but not at home. you can be out with friends, but not with the whole class. etc. coming out isn't even such an important aspect in the first place if you ask me and it's a bonus pressure if you will. coming out will eventually come naturally when you get a same-gender partner and all, anyway, if you don't want to hide it forever or anything.
good luck with that choice (in case i'm not too late with this reply, in which case good luck to whoever might be reading this for their own issue).
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