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Dear Dish-It: I Want to Be Popular

Mar 12, 2012

Dear Dish-It,

I really want to be popular, but I’m not sure how! Can you help?

Em

Dear Em,

Believe it or not, being the most popular kid in school isn’t as perfect as it sounds! I think it’s important to remember an old saying that goes: “The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence.” Translation: we always want what we don’t have (like tons of friends and total popularity), but once we get it it’s often not as great as we thought.

Rather than struggling to be popular, you should make it a goal to have a few really amazing friends. Think about the kids in your class – who seems really cool? How about your next-door neighbor, or the new kid on your soccer team?

Another great way to meet and make great friends is to keep developing your strengths (in school, on the sports field and in anything else you do). You may even want to take up a new after-school activity, where you’ll be able to meet even more people. Then be yourself, and be outgoing. Say hi and chat with lots of kids. Ask them questions to show you’re really interested in getting to know them, like, “How was your weekend?” or “How did you do on that test?” Be nice, not nosy. 

Instead of focusing on fitting in, concentrate on connecting with others in a meaningful way. Friendship will follow … and REAL friendship can last a lifetime!

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