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Dear Dish-It: I Want to Be Popular

Mar 12, 2012

Dear Dish-It,

I really want to be popular, but I’m not sure how! Can you help?

Em

Dear Em,

Believe it or not, being the most popular kid in school isn’t as perfect as it sounds! I think it’s important to remember an old saying that goes: “The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence.” Translation: we always want what we don’t have (like tons of friends and total popularity), but once we get it it’s often not as great as we thought.

Rather than struggling to be popular, you should make it a goal to have a few really amazing friends. Think about the kids in your class – who seems really cool? How about your next-door neighbor, or the new kid on your soccer team?

Another great way to meet and make great friends is to keep developing your strengths (in school, on the sports field and in anything else you do). You may even want to take up a new after-school activity, where you’ll be able to meet even more people. Then be yourself, and be outgoing. Say hi and chat with lots of kids. Ask them questions to show you’re really interested in getting to know them, like, “How was your weekend?” or “How did you do on that test?” Be nice, not nosy. 

Instead of focusing on fitting in, concentrate on connecting with others in a meaningful way. Friendship will follow … and REAL friendship can last a lifetime!

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moongemowl
moongemowl posted in Friends:
Okay, I've NEVER posted anything about my friends before, so bear with me. I've known that me and my BFF have the same crush since we met in 5th grade. But it always seems that my BFF is closer to him than I'll ever be. They went to 2 school dances together while I'm still in the friend zone with my crush. I pretend to not care but I really do care. I've never been in this situation before and don't know what to do about it. Should I tell my BFF how I feel or wait this whole thing out? Or even forget my crush being my crush and find a new crush? HELP!!!!!   :love :confused
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jordand08
Maybe that's the only line that needs to be said? You don't have to write down a whole paragraph explaining about how you feel. Sometimes, one word or one sentence can be enough. :p but I don't know. Maybe I have no clue what I'm talking about. :p
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jordand08
You'll have to remember, your parents love you, with that being said. If you feel like you can talk to them and they're reasonable, go ahead. But if you feel like waiting it's up to you. I think your family will support you, because they do love you. Maybe they'll be upset at first, but they'll come around, everyone does eventually. Is there anyone in your family that knows, like a cousin? Maybe you can ask for their opinion if you should tell your parents, and family. However, it's up to you. and remember, your parents care and love you.
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hugebear
hugebear posted in Family Issues:
You doesnt have to come out to your family until your ready and until they is ready too.  If you blurt it out it could be the shock.  You says that you think your Mums side of the family will be more supportive.  Has you got an Aunty or Uncle what you could discuss this with?  An adult member of your family what is most likely supportive  could probably give the best advises on how to tell your family and when and how and prepares you for how they will react. Good luck mate and takes your time :angel
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Mrawsomegamer
I think my mothers side of the family would be fine with it. It's my dad's side I'm most concerned about. My dad says some dreadfully terrible remarks about homosexual people. I think I'm not gunna tell him at all. Ever...  Either way. Thanks for the advice!
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