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Top 5 Confidence Boosters

Having confidence is the difference between feeling unstoppable and wishing no one will notice you. If you're tired of the latter and hoping to feel empowered and unstoppable at least some of the time, check out our top 5 confidence boosters that will instantly help you feel better about being in the spotlight (and may even encourage you to seek it out!)

#5 Find a role model

We are talking about a real person in your life -- not a supermodel, celebrity or pop star, but someone you know and admire. Someone who walks and talks with confidence, and whom you’re also comfortable with. It could be a friend, teacher, sibling, babysitter, aunt… as long as it’s someone you admire, respect, trust and already have a relationship with. You don’t have to recruit her to be your mentor or therapist. Simply ask her to keep you company shopping for back-to-school clothes, listen to you practice your debate speech, give you makeup advice or help you pick out some outfits from your closet.

#4 Find your Style

Steer clear of following any trend blindly and instead give any styles your own personal twist. Conforming and fitting in will just make you feel like everyone else. Fitting in but also having something that makes you unique will make you feel special. The best way we know how to do this is with a little makeover! Grab your BFF, older sibling, mom, or other confidence role model and schedule a head-to-toe image consulting. See what works about your look and what can use some updating, go through magazines or catalogs to see what styles catch your eye, and talk about what you love about yourself and what you'd like to change.

#3 Follow your Dreams

If you have a passion, an interest, a talent, or something that makes you tick, hold on tightly to it. Don’t give up because others say it’s unreasonable, unreachable or impractical. If you have a dream, find a way to nurture even a small part of it and make it a reality. Chip at it little by little each day, one brick at a time. Think it’s impossible? Well, as the White Queen in Alice in Wonderland said: “sometimes, I've believed as many as six impossible things before breakfast."

#2 Take Pride in your Looks

First off, practice good posture. Back straight, shoulders back, chin up and face the world head-on. Walking tall and straight makes you look – and feel – more confident. Having trouble remembering to stand straight? Try this: Every time you walk through a doorway, pull your shoulders back and look straight ahead. Make it a habit by practicing this a few times and you’ll have great posture within the week! Bonus points if you practice looking people in the eye when you speak -- not in a creepy, non-blinking, staring kind of way -- but in an "I am listening and I hear you" kind of way.

Next, clean up your act! Wash your hair as often as necessary for your hair type. There is no excuse for going to school (or anywhere) with greasy hair! Got frizzies? Tame your hair with leave-in conditioner, get the split ends of your hair trimmed often, even if you’re growing out your hair, and keep your hair (and fingernails, since we’re on the subject…) out of your mouth. Wear deodorant every day. Shower at least every other day. Wash your face morning and night and never skip brushing your teeth. Feeling good about how you look on the outside will make you more confident on the inside.

While you’re at it, take pride in your belongings and your surroundings, too. On your way out of your bedroom every morning, pull up the covers, straighten your bed, and always put your clothes away as you take them off. Ditch the habit of shoving papers into your backpack and throwing wrappers into your purse and take an extra few seconds to put things away properly. Taking care of yourself and your things shows you respect yourself, and when you look in the mirror, you’ll see and feel the difference!

#1 Love Yourself

“Focus on things you like about yourself,” suggests Glenn Wolff, a Social Worker and Family Therapist in Stamford, Connecticut. “Focus on your strengths and what you do well: a good violin player, lacrosse player, writing poetry…” whatever makes you unique, different or out of the ordinary makes you special. To remind you of that special quality you are proud of, find or create a symbol for it. It could be keeping a photo of someone who inspires you, a memento from a day that you were really proud of yourself, or a souvenir from a time you were at your happiest and most confident on hand to look at when you need it. Or it could be a secret symbol you draw or create with your hands when you need to find your inner power, self-love and confidence. One girl we spoke with secretly touches her thumbs and pointer fingers  together in the shape of a heart when something negative happens at school. “It reminds me that I love myself no matter what anyone else says or does, and that always keeps me going.”

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"classicalmusicisepic" wrote:my friends offline are having some relationship problems atm and there are just some things i want to mention on here, because i think they're relevant; some warning signs, etc and how to approach them.these not only apply to romantic relationships, but also friendships etc.physical harm - this might be an obvious one. but i just want to share some ways to approach the situation. this includes unwanted touching, hitting, kicking, etc. if your partner is doing this to you, you must report it to a trusted adult, teacher, counselor, close friend, or family member. this is one of the most serious abusive relationships- there are many resources online such as childline, etc, and hotlines you can call if you need to speak to someone about it. they may be able to help you get out of the relationship, and give you a shoulder to cry on.pressure into unwanted intimacy - this is also one of the big ones- your partner should never make you feel uncomfortable or otherwise. if they wish to stay with you, they will wait until you're ready to move onto that stage; if you even ever will be. if you feel pressured, or pushed into doing something you feel you'll regret, sit down and talk about it with your partner. you have a say in your relationship, too.control over your friends - if you feel like your partner has control over your friends- something is wrong. if they want you to dedicate every second of your life to them, with no other people, it's not right. your relationship not only affects the two people in it, (or more if it's polyamourous), but everyone around is affected by your relationship, too. again- you have a say in how your relationship is going, too!  criticizing you and your choices - relationships are about liking each other- if your partner is putting you down or demeaning you, it's a warning sign to get out of it. are they mocking you? or putting down your appearance, clothes, etc? Definite red flag; talk about it with him/her/them. other signs, include:-being doted and adored one day, and the next being pushed away and ignored,-you're afraid of your partner-they obsess over and call/text you constantly-you may find you've lost your confidence-many ups and downs in the relationship, constant roller coaster-you aren't yourself. you change and adapt for them, drop hobbies if they're not into them, etc.-something tells you you cant trust themagain, there are many resources out there if you need to talk. never be afraid to speak about it to someone- a family member, a teacher, a close friend, the police, a guidance counselor, etc.  I bolded that one part. The whole thread is great. And that one is a sign. But remember people with mental illness may also show signs like this to. If they have a good they they may spoil you and love you, and then the next day they're having a bad one. So they might push you away. They also may suddenly dote on you one day also to make up for a bad day. I'm not making an excuse, it's still a ver bad thing to do. I'm just putting it out there.
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