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Dear Dish-It: My Crush Doesn’t Know I Exist!

Dear Dish-It,

I’ve had a crush on this guy for over two years now. We’ve had five classes together and this year I sit right in front of him in English. He’s asked to borrow paper from me before and by the way he smiled at me, I thought for sure he liked me back! My friend got sick of hearing me talk about him all the time, so she went over to him in the caf and ask him what he thought of me, and he said “who’s that?” He didn’t know who I was!! I was so humiliated. What should I do?

Invisible

Dear Invisible

Just because your crush doesn’t know you by name doesn’t mean he’s unaware of your existence. The simple fact that he borrowed paper from you shows you that he knows who you are. But he probably just knows you by face, or maybe just by your first name. If your friend referred to you using your last name as well, that might have thrown him off.

The Imagination Plays Tricks

Also keep in mind that us girls have a way of letting our imaginations get the better of us, especially when we have a big crush. We start to see little signs - like a smile - as a bigger deal than it actually is. When he smiled at you, that was probably his way of being polite. I’m sure you smile at boys you don’t have crushes on all the time.

Make Him Notice You

If you really want your crush to like you back, don’t sit on the sidelines hoping that he’ll notice you. Gather your courage and make an effort to get to know him. Don’t act silly or talk about yourself constantly. Just try to act smooth. Guys like girls who are calm, positive (so smile), and who show an interest in their interests. So when the opportunity arises, ask him something about himself. 

Everything Happens For A Reason

Keep this in mind: if your crush still doesn’t feel the same way after you get to know him, he isn’t the guy for you. Everything in life happens for a reason, and if this guy doesn’t fall for your charm, that means there’s probably a better guy waiting just around the corner.

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carolyna_03
carolyna_03 posted in Friends:
Dear dish it, plz help my friends treat me like a third wheel everyday I'm happy but then I'm ether getting left out pushed to the curb or something like that. I want to ditch them but I don't have anyone else to talk to or hang with, I was lonely at school because they weren't there help! Wat do I do
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Flamesword15
Flamesword15 posted in Friends:
Friends are hard to find, I will say that, but it's easy to make new friends:)<3
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Colorpaw
Colorpaw posted in Family Issues:
  "Colorpaw" wrote: God yes! My mom would kill me if she found me on this site! -.- It gets annoying sometimes. My dad is strict too, but maybe not as much. I have to keep sites where I have any kind of interaction with people I haven't met face to face a secret, and it gets hard sometimes because I'm on quite a few roleplay sites which obviously involve chatting/interacting with people. I trust everybody on those sites though, but try telling my mom that.     My parents have gotten a lot better since then, but they're still strict about the chat sites and all. My mom is still very strict, but not nearly as much as then. I guess it's because I've gotten older. I'll be 13 in a few days. c: ALSO. If any of you saw my other post, pretend you didn't xD For some reason I thought I'd posted the original forum post. xDD I guess that's what happens when you haven't been on a site in a couple of years, you start forgetting things.  
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tweenblogger
Thanks so much.  :love
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Shannyboo3
I know exactly how you feel.  I'm going through the same thing. The thing to know is none of it's your fault.  And you can visit your mom or your dad.  You can try to get your mind of it by hanging out with your friends at school.  I feel your pain.   And I feel bad that this kind of stuff happens in life.  But god will make everything better. :)
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