Dear Dish-It: My Crush Doesn’t Know I Exist!

Dear Dish-It,

I’ve had a crush on this guy for over two years now. We’ve had five classes together and this year I sit right in front of him in English. He’s asked to borrow paper from me before and by the way he smiled at me, I thought for sure he liked me back! My friend got sick of hearing me talk about him all the time, so she went over to him in the caf and ask him what he thought of me, and he said “who’s that?” He didn’t know who I was!! I was so humiliated. What should I do?


Dear Invisible

Just because your crush doesn’t know you by name doesn’t mean he’s unaware of your existence. The simple fact that he borrowed paper from you shows you that he knows who you are. But he probably just knows you by face, or maybe just by your first name. If your friend referred to you using your last name as well, that might have thrown him off.

The Imagination Plays Tricks

Also keep in mind that us girls have a way of letting our imaginations get the better of us, especially when we have a big crush. We start to see little signs - like a smile - as a bigger deal than it actually is. When he smiled at you, that was probably his way of being polite. I’m sure you smile at boys you don’t have crushes on all the time.

Make Him Notice You

If you really want your crush to like you back, don’t sit on the sidelines hoping that he’ll notice you. Gather your courage and make an effort to get to know him. Don’t act silly or talk about yourself constantly. Just try to act smooth. Guys like girls who are calm, positive (so smile), and who show an interest in their interests. So when the opportunity arises, ask him something about himself. 

Everything Happens For A Reason

Keep this in mind: if your crush still doesn’t feel the same way after you get to know him, he isn’t the guy for you. Everything in life happens for a reason, and if this guy doesn’t fall for your charm, that means there’s probably a better guy waiting just around the corner.

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