Kw-logo-smaller

Dear Dish-It: My Boyfriend Has A Bad Reputation

Dear Dish-It,

I recently started going out with a boy from another school. He’s really nice and sweet to me, but I found out that he has a really bad reputation at his school. People call him a druggy and apparently he’s been in a lot of fights. He tells me the stories aren’t true, but I don’t know what to believe. Should I break up with him?

Hesitant

Dear Hesitant,

In a situation like this, you need to follow your gut instinct. Your intuition is more powerful than you think. If there’s something telling you that this guy is trouble, definitely listen to that voice. It’s better to get out before your relationship gets too serious.

Rumors or Truth?

If you’re hearing these stories from people who don’t know him personally or who can’t prove these accusations, then they could have been distorted along the way. It’s like a game of telephone: the more people who pass the story along, the more it changes. But if you’re getting firsthand information from people who know for a fact that this guy is no good, then you should probably end it.

Ask Yourself These Questions

You really need to decide where your moral stance is on this. Do you want to be in a relationship with someone who does drugs? With someone who picks fights? Do you want to risk that he might become violent with you? You deserve to be with someone who makes you feel safe, who makes you feel proud to introduce them to your friends and your parents, and especially someone who is honest with you. If the rumors about him are in fact true, then he’s been lying to you. Is that the kind of guy you want as your boyfriend?

Have Your Say

Do you have any advice for Hesitant? Leave your comment below!

 
125 Comments

latest videos

Polls-boyfriendturnoffs

What would be your biggest turnoff in a boyfriend?

  • He does drugs.
  • He picks his nose.
  • He gets jealous when I talk to other guys.
  • He lies to me.

related stories

Micro_deardishit-jealous-micro
Jealous asks: I don’t like my ex-boyfriend anymore, but when he started dating another girl I fel...
Micro_deardish-comparingbfs-micro
Confused asks: I have a new boyfriend who I like very much. But when I’m with him, I can’t help c...
Micro_deardishit-singledout-micro
Lover Girl asks: "I want a boyfriend because all my friends have one, but it’s the summer holiday...
Micro_boyfriend_micro
Hopeful2012 asks: “I’m turning 16 this year and I’ve never had a boyfriend, but all of my friends...

Dear Dish-It in the forums

brachio_hera
brachio_hera posted in Friends:
 :sad i get it. i've been teased because of how  i look, by KINDERGARTENERS :O :O :O :O
reply about 2 hours
Jolly-Rancher206
Jolly-Rancher206 posted in Style:
"Narwhals3" wrote:I only have 2 ear piercings on each ear but a daith looks really cute if the piercer puts in the heart shaped jewelry when they pierce it  Hm, I like the look of it, but it seems like a painful place to pierce. The cartilage is pretty hard. 
reply about 6 hours
Emilymuffin
Emilymuffin posted in Style:
     Hello! I would like some help with adding my own style   to my dance clothes/ being creative  with them.  I am really open to anything that won't get in the way of my dacning and goes with the style like ballet, jazz, contemparory , hip hop, tap , lyrical. Thanks! Emily PLEASE RESPOND ASAP
reply about 6 hours
Emilymuffin
Emilymuffin posted in Style:
Hi! I need help adding my own style to my strict uniforms like hairstyles, ect.  My colors for uniform are green, white , blue, and grey.  I wear a skirt, pants, shorts, sweater and rain jacket, and t-shirts. The accessories I can wear is this cross over tie, o  is allowed.ne pair of stud earings, one ring  only on one hand, hair accesiores I don't know if they are allowed .  Socks: white crew socks  Shoes: Solid black or solid white Other General Regulations  Hairstyles are to be simple. No dyed, or highlighted or “modern” hairstyles are allowed for either boys or girls. No fad, tails or spiked hair is allowed. No shaved heads. Boys’ hair must be cut above the ear and above the collar. No facial hair (such as mustaches, beards, or long side burns) is allowed. Bracelets , necklecases  are iffy on what I can  wear or not. No makeup and only clear nail polish. PLEASE RESPOND ASAP! Thanks! Emily
reply about 6 hours
Momo881
Momo881 posted in Friends:
I feel the same ws you peple call e fat so I think you shoud ignore these people and be nce tothem jus a littlte nice
reply about 20 hours

play online games