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Dear Dish-it: How Do I Get A Boyfriend?

Mar 17, 2013

Dear Dish-it,

I can't get a boyfriend! I want one but no one likes me. I don't know what to do about this. Please tell me how to get a boyfriend.

Forever Alone

Dear Forever Alone,

First of all, let me assure you that you won't be alone forever. Just the fact that you're open to finding a boyfriend means that, eventually, one will come along. But there's a difference between being open to love and being desperate for it. Have you ever heard people say that they can never find something until they stop looking? The same applies to relationships. Sometimes, when you look too hard, you come off as desperate, and that will repel potential boyfriends.

Make Friends

You say that nobody likes you. How do you know for sure? Maybe there's a guy at school who secretly has a crush on you. If you know for a fact that no one likes you, that means you've probably been asking them out and getting rejected. Try to appear more easygoing. Stop worrying so much about getting a boyfriend. Get to know guys, possibly even as friends, and then it could turn into more.

Worth The Wait

You shouldn't be so concerned with getting just any boyfriend. Relationships are based on mutual affection. One day you'll find someone that you truly have feelings for, and he'll have those feelings for you. It may not be soon, but trust me, when you do find him, it'll be worth the wait!

Try Something New

For now, focus on the other positive things in your life: your family, your friends, your favorite hobbies. Try participating in a new sport or community activity. It's a great way to meet new friends (and potentially a boyfriend), as well as expand your horizons. It will make your life feel more full and enriching. Sometimes the desperate need for a relationship really stems from the feeling that something is missing from your life. Something fun or challenging. Something to keep you busy. So give it a try. And while doing this, keep yourself open to a relationship, but don't tell yourself that you need a boyfriend. Remember, no girl needs a guy to make her happy.

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classicrockgirl71
My answer is both.
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LPSfriends
LPSfriends posted in Friends:
i feel you i had bffttotbafe what this means i had a bff that turned out to be a frenemy  Misty will be purple i will be blue anyway  1 day i said Hey misty I LOVE YOUR MLP OUTFIT! she yea thanks you look......... like something.... i sadly was silent holding my tears : sorta cracked voice : so um want to do something like... I dunno make a friend group? UGH fine! thats when i found my true bff jean a new girl came her name was briana she was so nice! :briana: hi (shes talking to me )im emma  She said WHAT A PRETTY NAME! i said thanks! we were friends for two months  [s:p/zxg] misty said hey im misty THE CATCH WAS MISTY PROMISED ME SHE WILL ONLY BE FRIENDS WITH ME!  LIKE WHO DOES THAT!? anyway misty was her bff i asked her were still friends right she said yea yea yea i was like ok..... she was talking to ANOTHER friend she called me a jerk this is me =( =( =( :sad [s:sm3/1jw3] [s:sm3/1jw3] [s:sm3/1jw0] [s:sm3/1jw0] anyway i got lots more friends and said STOP USING ME AND BEING A BULLY IT HURTS! She fell to the ground and got  a sticky note and put in on her diary cover i was being super perky and said BYE! the next day i said me JERK NOOO U JERK!
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Flamesword15
Flamesword15 posted in Friends:
Touche... I feel alone as well... I hate myself... People bully me for the stupidest of reasons, and it never ends! It's the reason I came on here in the first place. To have people that I can consider friends with a straight face (I have a few of those in real life but I'm not exactly a social butterfly. Well, I hate myself even more when I have to lie about not having friends, saying I have heaps of them, when that would be 35... I'm sorry if I offended anyone, but hey, I just assume I offend everyone I talk to... which is why I don't talk much...
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classicrockgirl71
Ask your dad why he won't let you go. If it's cost then offer to pay for it yourself if he won't pay and you don't want your friend to pay. If you don't have enough money right now ask your dad if you can pay him back over time by doing extra chores or something. Also calmly explain that you really like the band and really would like to see them live. Is your friend's mom or dad going with you? That might affect his decision if he's worried about your safety.
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brachio_hera
brachio_hera posted in Friends:
yeah. me too :| 
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