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Dear Dish-it: How Do I Get A Boyfriend?

Mar 17, 2013

Dear Dish-it,

I can't get a boyfriend! I want one but no one likes me. I don't know what to do about this. Please tell me how to get a boyfriend.

Forever Alone

Dear Forever Alone,

First of all, let me assure you that you won't be alone forever. Just the fact that you're open to finding a boyfriend means that, eventually, one will come along. But there's a difference between being open to love and being desperate for it. Have you ever heard people say that they can never find something until they stop looking? The same applies to relationships. Sometimes, when you look too hard, you come off as desperate, and that will repel potential boyfriends.

Make Friends

You say that nobody likes you. How do you know for sure? Maybe there's a guy at school who secretly has a crush on you. If you know for a fact that no one likes you, that means you've probably been asking them out and getting rejected. Try to appear more easygoing. Stop worrying so much about getting a boyfriend. Get to know guys, possibly even as friends, and then it could turn into more.

Worth The Wait

You shouldn't be so concerned with getting just any boyfriend. Relationships are based on mutual affection. One day you'll find someone that you truly have feelings for, and he'll have those feelings for you. It may not be soon, but trust me, when you do find him, it'll be worth the wait!

Try Something New

For now, focus on the other positive things in your life: your family, your friends, your favorite hobbies. Try participating in a new sport or community activity. It's a great way to meet new friends (and potentially a boyfriend), as well as expand your horizons. It will make your life feel more full and enriching. Sometimes the desperate need for a relationship really stems from the feeling that something is missing from your life. Something fun or challenging. Something to keep you busy. So give it a try. And while doing this, keep yourself open to a relationship, but don't tell yourself that you need a boyfriend. Remember, no girl needs a guy to make her happy.

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AlphaT
AlphaT posted in Style:
Wear bigger clothes. Heck, I wear a 2-3 X
reply about 5 hours
DisneyanimeLover
"ThunderSpirit" wrote:Wow. We have more in common than I thought.I had the same problem [except she was a little less mean] and this is the advice I was given. Don't exactly go up to her and say, "I don't wanna be friends," because although she is mean, she still might be hurt. Just don't really make it official, but slowly drift apart from her. Try to meet new people, maybe there's someone great you just haven't met yet. And maybe she's having problems of her own, not like that's an excuse. But in the end, if she does apologize to you, she might be a friend worth keeping, but those insults were pretty serious, not something best friends would do, and you probably wouldn't forgive her. I get that. Thanks for the good advice! I don`t see her often so drifting away is the smartest idea. Although I see her at family parties and stuff cause she is a family friend. I`ll try and drift away from her. If she gets better at being kind I`ll be her friend again most likely. Thanks! 
reply about 8 hours
ThunderSpirit
ThunderSpirit posted in Friends:
Wow. We have more in common than I thought. I had the same problem [except she was a little less mean] and this is the advice I was given. Don't exactly go up to her and say, "I don't wanna be friends," because although she is mean, she still might be hurt. Just don't really make it official, but slowly drift apart from her. Try to meet new people, maybe there's someone great you just haven't met yet. And maybe she's having problems of her own, not like that's an excuse. But in the end, if she does apologize to you, she might be a friend worth keeping, but those insults were pretty serious, not something best friends would do, and you probably wouldn't forgive her. I get that.
reply about 8 hours
DisneyanimeLover
I have this friend who has been my friend for 6 years. And she is so RUDE. She says mean things about me and MY MOTHER. Seriously she says really awful things about my mom like this: "Her IQ is high? Oh she must have took the IDIOT test." And tells me "Eww you wear Disney Princess shirts? Eww you are so messed up!" She always acts better than me whether we are alone or with people. She tries to make people hate me and she tries to act mature and she alway tells me "You should respect your mom and do what she tells you" She is awful. I wanna tell her she is mean and I dont wanna be friends. But I can`t! Its hard to do that when you know someone for 7 years. HELP!
reply about 8 hours
Kirsteeeeen
Kirsteeeeen posted in Style:
As the previous person said, look online. There are very cute clothes available in bigger sizes! Also when you go shopping take a look in popular stores as well as less popular that might look as if they're for older people. Often they follow very similar trends but have bigger sizes!
reply about 12 hours

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