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Dear Dish-it: How Do I Get A Boyfriend?

Mar 17, 2013

Dear Dish-it,

I can't get a boyfriend! I want one but no one likes me. I don't know what to do about this. Please tell me how to get a boyfriend.

Forever Alone

Dear Forever Alone,

First of all, let me assure you that you won't be alone forever. Just the fact that you're open to finding a boyfriend means that, eventually, one will come along. But there's a difference between being open to love and being desperate for it. Have you ever heard people say that they can never find something until they stop looking? The same applies to relationships. Sometimes, when you look too hard, you come off as desperate, and that will repel potential boyfriends.

Make Friends

You say that nobody likes you. How do you know for sure? Maybe there's a guy at school who secretly has a crush on you. If you know for a fact that no one likes you, that means you've probably been asking them out and getting rejected. Try to appear more easygoing. Stop worrying so much about getting a boyfriend. Get to know guys, possibly even as friends, and then it could turn into more.

Worth The Wait

You shouldn't be so concerned with getting just any boyfriend. Relationships are based on mutual affection. One day you'll find someone that you truly have feelings for, and he'll have those feelings for you. It may not be soon, but trust me, when you do find him, it'll be worth the wait!

Try Something New

For now, focus on the other positive things in your life: your family, your friends, your favorite hobbies. Try participating in a new sport or community activity. It's a great way to meet new friends (and potentially a boyfriend), as well as expand your horizons. It will make your life feel more full and enriching. Sometimes the desperate need for a relationship really stems from the feeling that something is missing from your life. Something fun or challenging. Something to keep you busy. So give it a try. And while doing this, keep yourself open to a relationship, but don't tell yourself that you need a boyfriend. Remember, no girl needs a guy to make her happy.

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carolyna_03
carolyna_03 posted in Friends:
Dear dish it, plz help my friends treat me like a third wheel everyday I'm happy but then I'm ether getting left out pushed to the curb or something like that. I want to ditch them but I don't have anyone else to talk to or hang with, I was lonely at school because they weren't there help! Wat do I do
reply about 7 hours
Flamesword15
Flamesword15 posted in Friends:
Friends are hard to find, I will say that, but it's easy to make new friends:)<3
reply about 11 hours
Colorpaw
Colorpaw posted in Family Issues:
  "Colorpaw" wrote: God yes! My mom would kill me if she found me on this site! -.- It gets annoying sometimes. My dad is strict too, but maybe not as much. I have to keep sites where I have any kind of interaction with people I haven't met face to face a secret, and it gets hard sometimes because I'm on quite a few roleplay sites which obviously involve chatting/interacting with people. I trust everybody on those sites though, but try telling my mom that.     My parents have gotten a lot better since then, but they're still strict about the chat sites and all. My mom is still very strict, but not nearly as much as then. I guess it's because I've gotten older. I'll be 13 in a few days. c: ALSO. If any of you saw my other post, pretend you didn't xD For some reason I thought I'd posted the original forum post. xDD I guess that's what happens when you haven't been on a site in a couple of years, you start forgetting things.  
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tweenblogger
Thanks so much.  :love
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Shannyboo3
I know exactly how you feel.  I'm going through the same thing. The thing to know is none of it's your fault.  And you can visit your mom or your dad.  You can try to get your mind of it by hanging out with your friends at school.  I feel your pain.   And I feel bad that this kind of stuff happens in life.  But god will make everything better. :)
reply about 12 hours

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