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Dear Dish-It: I Have A Crush On My Neighbor!

Apr 01, 2013

Dear Dish-It,

I have a crush on my neighbor, and I have ever since he moved in. Sometimes we walk to school together. I want to tell him the truth, but he's a year older than me and I'm afraid he'll think I'm weird and avoid me. What should I do?

Girl Next Door

Dear Girl Next Door,

There's always a risk when you reveal your true feelings. Best case scenario, he'll tell you that he feels the same. Worst case scenario, he'll do exactly what you fear: think you're weird and avoid you. Think about how you'd react if a male friend of yours that you're not attracted to told you that he had feelings for you. Would that put a strain on your friendship? Would you avoid him? If the answer is yes, maybe it's best to keep your feelings to yourself for now, at least until you pick up on some mutual signals from your crush.

Signals

Does your crush smile when you're around? Tease you? Act playful? Does he seem nervous around you? All those things could be signs that he feels the same way. But if he ever says things like "you're like a sister to me" or ditches you for a pretty girl, I'd say your feelings are one-sided.

Hang Out

Why don't you ask him to hang out? That will allow you to spend time with him beyond just walking to school, and give you more opportunities to read his feelings. And you never know, maybe you'll hang out and realize that you don't like him after all. Asking him to hang out is your best way to get to know him better. If you don't click, then no worries. You won't have said anything that will make him look at you differently, for better or for worse. And you can go back to just being walking to school buddies.

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bffeaea
bffeaea posted in Friends:
I don't know you and I'm not exactly sure how you act, but being friendly is definitely the way to go. Don't change yourself for ANYBODY. Especially someone who you don't need to impress. Speaking of impressing, don't try, do. If you are telling a story and that happens to impress them than that's great! But don't go out of your way to try to make yourself look awesome because I'm sure you already are. Be yourself. But the most important thug now you can do is not try to make a million friends. Because personally I would rather have one AWESOME friend than a million ok friends. I hope this helped. :)
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HoneyHamstern
HoneyHamstern posted in Friends:
Be yourself and most important of all, be kind. You will get great friends by doing so. Being popular doesn't always mean being nice; sometimes people tend to be rude and bossy to be "popular" and that isn't good. But if you participate or even start a group at school, at the library or somewhere important in the community (community service like the Rotary Club is a good way to start for kids and teens) can be a great way to meet friends and share your happiness.
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esthery27
"f3rr3tgal" wrote:dear dish-it,        I absolutely love my family but... my dad has these headaches  where if they are really bad i can not say anything right he will get really mad. i don't know what to do i really hate being yelled at by my  dad and i love him soo much !!!! what do i do?  [s:sm3/1jvp]                                                       thanks,                                                            f3rr3tgal Tell him that you love him and you understand he's suffering but you really don't like it when he yells at you. You can write a note or a card to him. I'm sure he'll understand. And of course if needed see a doctor so that he'll know what to do to deal with those headaches.
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esthery27
esthery27 posted in Friends:
You won't want to be, it's exhausting. Just be happy the way you are and don't care about what others think or say about you.
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GiddyUpGecko
GiddyUpGecko posted in Friends:
What if you just aren't populr, and you want to be???  :(
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