Dear Dish-It, Who Do I Date?
Dear Dish-It, is here to whisper "ttyl after I've thought about this some more".
Dear Dish-It,
A really good friend of mine is bisexual and she's goin' out with a lot of girls and one guy. She asked me if I was bisexual and I don't know if I am or not. I think girls are cute and stuff and I think I might be but I don't know if I should let the world know, like the other girls at school did. What should I do?
sexysweety
Dear sexysweety,
Your current situation is not much different than any other teenage dating dilemma you are going to face. You wouldn't jump into a relationship with a boy if you weren't ready and the same goes for dating girls. If the only reason you are debating your sexuality is because of outside pressure (like your friend,) and not because your heart is telling you this is what's best for you, then you probably aren't ready to declare yourself to the world as a bisexual. Your sexuality is not something you have to decide right this second - give it time and you're sure to figure it all out. If you decide that right now, dating girls is not what you want, then that's cool. And if later on, you change your mind, that's entirely cool too.
Dear Dish-It,
I am bisexual and am dating a really nice guy that knows I'm bisexual. But now I found a girl that I like a lot who is also bisexual. The problem is that I want to ask this girl out but I don't want to hurt my boyfriend. So, I'm not sure if I should just leave things the way they are or break up with my boyfriend and go out with the girl. I'm just really confused about who I should be with. I need some help!
Angel
Dear Angel,
When you are in an exclusive relationship with someone, you can not play around with the other person's heart. It's just cruel. If you are interested in another person, girl or boy, you have to set your current guy free before making a move on another person. It sounds to me like you are wanting to try things out with this girl but still want to have your BF to go back to if things don't work out. That's not how life works. You have to make a choice and make it now. You may regret letting your current BF go or you may regret letting the opportunity pass by to get with this girl but that's just part of growing up. Don't make a habit of putting your feelings ahead of everyone else's or things will get a lot more complicated than if you had just made a choice in the first place. Good Luck!
Everybody's different in their own ways. If they want to be gay or bisexual, let them be them and you be you.
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