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Dear Dish-it: How Do I Spice Up My Relationship?

Dear Dish-it,

I started going out with a girl a few weeks ago. I love her, but our relationship is getting a little boring. What can I do to make it more interesting?

BoredBF

Dear BoredBF,

If it’s only been a few weeks and your relationship is already boring, something isn’t right. Are you sure this is love and not just a physical crush? If you’re in love, you should be able to sit and talk for hours, or simply cuddle and watch a movie, and not feel bored. You should be enjoying every minute you spend together. Nonetheless, I don’t know the circumstances of your relationship or what you guys do when you’re together, so it’s time to spice things up.

Date Ideas                                                             

In the early stages of a relationship, there can be a lot of time spent watching TV, playing on your phones or computers, or playing video games - anything to avoid an awkward conversation. If this is the case, you need to do something exciting. Something that will get your adrenaline pumping and will become a memory that you can talk about later in your relationship. Try taking her indoor rock climbing or tubing or to the water slides. If you prefer something a little more low key, try cooking or baking something together. This will require teamwork, which is important in a relationship.

Dates for Less

If you don’t have any money, try volunteering for something together. Volunteering is good for the soul, and it will bring you closer together knowing that you have that charitable connection. Contact the youth center in your city and see what’s available for people your age. You could also have a picnic in the park, lie on a blanket under the stars and try to spot the constellations, teach each other something like a sport or a skill, or play board games.

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hugebear
hugebear posted in Family Issues:
You doesnt have to come out to your family until your ready and until they is ready too.  If you blurt it out it could be the shock.  You says that you think your Mums side of the family will be more supportive.  Has you got an Aunty or Uncle what you could discuss this with?  An adult member of your family what is most likely supportive  could probably give the best advises on how to tell your family and when and how and prepares you for how they will react. Good luck mate and takes your time :angel
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Mrawsomegamer
I think my mothers side of the family would be fine with it. It's my dad's side I'm most concerned about. My dad says some dreadfully terrible remarks about homosexual people. I think I'm not gunna tell him at all. Ever...  Either way. Thanks for the advice!
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Kirsteeeeen
If you don't think that you'll be in a safe situation (for example, your parents try to kick you out, or hurt you physically or emotionally) than you should definitely wait to tell them. I think you'll know when the time is right. We can't tell you how they'll react, but I bet you can sort of figure it out from how they feel and act about these topics.  Remember, you are not obligated to tell anybody at all. It's personal. Wait until you're for sure ready to tell them. And when you do, tell them the way in which it's easiest. Get your point across, offer resources, reassurance, and give them time. 
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Mrawsomegamer
Hey guys, so I do kinda have a personal issue, but I need to tell my family about it. Truth is, I'm not even sure how they'll even react. Very few of my friends know, only the ones I trust anyway... I'm gay. Or at least bisexual. I kinda had a thing for girls, but that was a long time ago. I think I'm fully gay. I have a very supportive boyfriend, who loves me with all his heart. But that's not what it's about; it's actually coming out to my family, whom I know some of them are quite homophobic. Homophobia runs in my family. Sorta...  It makes my stomach turn when I think about it. I sometimes look into the mirror, look at myself and think if my conscience suddenly made me decide I was gay, or if I was born with it. Science tells us that we are born that way, due to lack of man chemicals entering a boys brain when in development. I feel like I've chosen it (even though I know deep inside I haven't) to be gay, probably because of my family almost forcing me into getting a girlfriend and such. I come from a Catholic family, to make things even worse. I'm like the only practising person in my family, but somehow I feel that they'll use my Faith against me if I come out.  So, should I just wait until I'm older? How do I know when the time is right? How will they even react? How should I even say it?  Please help!
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Kirsteeeeen
Kirsteeeeen posted in Friends:
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