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Dear Dish-it: How Do I Spice Up My Relationship?

Dear Dish-it,

I started going out with a girl a few weeks ago. I love her, but our relationship is getting a little boring. What can I do to make it more interesting?

BoredBF

Dear BoredBF,

If it’s only been a few weeks and your relationship is already boring, something isn’t right. Are you sure this is love and not just a physical crush? If you’re in love, you should be able to sit and talk for hours, or simply cuddle and watch a movie, and not feel bored. You should be enjoying every minute you spend together. Nonetheless, I don’t know the circumstances of your relationship or what you guys do when you’re together, so it’s time to spice things up.

Date Ideas                                                             

In the early stages of a relationship, there can be a lot of time spent watching TV, playing on your phones or computers, or playing video games - anything to avoid an awkward conversation. If this is the case, you need to do something exciting. Something that will get your adrenaline pumping and will become a memory that you can talk about later in your relationship. Try taking her indoor rock climbing or tubing or to the water slides. If you prefer something a little more low key, try cooking or baking something together. This will require teamwork, which is important in a relationship.

Dates for Less

If you don’t have any money, try volunteering for something together. Volunteering is good for the soul, and it will bring you closer together knowing that you have that charitable connection. Contact the youth center in your city and see what’s available for people your age. You could also have a picnic in the park, lie on a blanket under the stars and try to spot the constellations, teach each other something like a sport or a skill, or play board games.

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Dear Dish-It In The Forums

rainbowpoptart
Goodness... I see where your mother is coming from: if you eat too much, no matter how healthy the food is, and don't work off the calories, you're going to gain weight. But she's being very obsessive and dramatic about it. There is nothing wrong with eating pizza or a cookie every now and then, and there's nothing wrong with relaxing from time to time either. As long as you aren't constantly eating junk and not burning the calories, then you do not have a problem. Eating unhealthy things every now and then does not make you fat. EATING every now and then does not make you fat. Try explaining this to her, calmly and patiently. Tell her that you don't want to be forced to do all of this exercising - being forced to exercise makes it a lot less interesting. Do not take "This is for your own good" for an answer; if you do not want to do it, it is NOT for your good. (This, of course, would be a different story if you were actually fat.) ALSO tell her that exercising too much and not satiating your cravings is JUST AS UNHEALTHY AS BEING FAT IS. If you were to not eat healthful meals and not snack every now and then, no matter how healthy or unhealthy the food is, plus exercise so frequently, you would not be healthy.  Eating is good for you, even if the food isn't. Eating too little and eating too much is not healthy. Exercise is good for you. Not exercising enough and exercising too much is not good for you. If you talking to her doesn't help, try telling another adult how you feel, and maybe they can help get it through to her. Regardless of what happens, take care of yourself. Moderate how much you eat, but don't limit yourself to less than you feel you need. Exercise, but don't do something you don't want to; working out should be fun. Good luck with everything. I'm really sorry that she makes you feel so badly about this.
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jake495
jake495 posted in Family Issues:
Make sure she knows its your body not hers In a respectful way of course
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ThePaleWalker636
I'm perfectly happy with myself. I'm around 5'6" and somewhere between 140-150 pounds, and I don't feel fat. But my mom is constantly telling me that I am, or, at least, that I'm going to be. She forces me to go to exercise classes because I don't like many sports, tries making me go on diets, but I don't want to. She tells me that if I continue the way I am, having an extra cookie once in a while and only eating cereal for breakfast, that I'll end up fat, and she makes sure to emphasize how horrible that is for a person to live with. She rolls her eyes and sighs whenever she sees me getting a snack, and just in general makes me feel awful for eating the things I like and for relaxing. I've told her that I don't want to do these things and that she makes me feel bad when she says things like that, but she swears it's for my own good and that I should never want to be fat, that it ruins people's lives. How should I deal with this?
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drowning
drowning posted in Friends:
"NS12" wrote: I meet this guy at a festival and we have been talking for the whole week and my mum has noticed I keep texting someone and I know I need to tell her but I don t know how I am going to tell her, I doubt she ll get angry or anything but he lives about 4/5 hours away from me. I know I need to tell her as I don t like keeping secrets from her. I know this was a bit ago, but I truly hope that you were able to be open with your mother. If you feel as if they won't get mad at you, then chances are that your guardian will not. Honesty is the best policy, and if you feel guilt keeping a secret, then it is one you probably shouldn't be keeping.
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drowning
I agree with @rainbowpoptart. You really shouldn't worry about relationships that much given your age. I promise, they're better things to worry about than boys and more secure romances occur later on in life anyways. But, given the situation, you shouldn't worry about either. The boy is unfaithful and so is your friend. If your best friend really valued your friendship, she would not have put it in a position that could end it. Don't waste your time on those who will not put you first just as you do for them; better people will come into your life and they are the ones who you should really worry about.
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