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Dear Dish-it: My Boyfriend and I Don't Talk

Jul 12, 2013

Dear Dish-it,

I've been going out with a boy from my class for a few weeks now. He's fun and talkative when we're in a group, but when we're alone, he barely talks. All we do is watch movies or kissIt's so awkward! Please help me!

Desperate for Convo

Dear Desperate for Convo,

New relationships are often awkward. It usually takes a while for both partners to feel comfortable enough to open up. Some people talk non-stop to avoid awkward silences, while others don't know how to fill them. It sounds like your relationship is the latter.

Talk About Him

All it takes is the right question to get the ball rolling. Most guys like to talk about themselves (who doesn't?!), so ask him about his life, his friendships, his family, the sports he plays or enjoys, the TV shows he watches, or even the food he eats at home! Even shy guys can talk your ear off if you give them the right topic. 

Reminisce

If that doesn't work, bring up a situation from your past when you were both present: a funny moment in class, something you did with your group of friends, the troublemaker's latest attention-grab at school, your teacher's funny habits or the projects you're working on in class.

Play A Game

If he's still tongue-tied, suggest an activity that would require him to use his words. Put the movie aside and bust out a board game like Clue or Monopoly or, best of all, Cranium. That way you'll have to play charades, sing some humdingers as well as read and answer questions. 

Be Honest

Still not working? If you've tried everything and he's still not responding, it's time to be honest. Come clean. Tell him that you want to get to know him better, but you're having a hard time. Tell him that for your relationship to grow, you need to communicate. After all, open communication is the cornerstone of a relationship. If he has a problem with that, maybe it's time to find someone new.

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"Delancey" wrote:I'm sorry to hear this , but I think you should talk with your teachers. It's really annoying, and I guess you shouldn't care for whatever they say. You're pretty, you're beautiful in your own way. Um, I guess you should talk with teachers/adults about it and I know it'll be tough for you, but ignore what they say and just be you!  
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I'm sorry to hear this , but I think you should talk with your teachers. It's really annoying, and I guess you shouldn't care for whatever they say. You're pretty, you're beautiful in your own way. Um, I guess you should talk with teachers/adults about it and I know it'll be tough for you, but ignore what they say and just be you!
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throughout school I have always been picked on weither it be because of my interests or just my personality. In middle school I was called ####### everyday by all the guys in my grade. One of my teachers even bullied me and my mom never believed me because my teacher was so nice to her... I ended up crying on the 3rd day of my freshman year because the kids in my class were so mean to me... I'm gonna be a sophomore in highschool this year and I really don't want to go back to school because I'm afraid that it will be a repeat of freshman year... I need advice on how to make the best of the rest of school if I have to deal with the people that bully me...
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Like my sisters says Give him a hard time and if he cant handle it then he's NOT worth it..... your welcome.
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