Dear Dish-it: My Boyfriend Won't Talk to Me

Aug 16, 2013

Dear Dish-it,

School is about to start and my boyfriend hasn't talked to me all summer. When school starts, what do I do?


Dear Ignored,

This is a hard question to answer because I don't know enough about your situation. If you've tried to contact your boyfriend and he still isn't talking to you - meaning that he's purposely ignoring you - then consider your last interaction. Is he mad at you? Did you guys get into an argument? Perhaps you owe him an apology for something. 

Are You Still Together?

The other possibility is that he doesn't think you guys are still going out. In this case, also consider your last interaction. Did he say anything to you that sounded like a break up? Key phrases like: "I think we were better as friends", or "I'm not happy in this relationship". Sometimes guys think they've made themselves clear, even though us girls don't have a clue what they were getting at. He could have been trying to break up, but was afraid of simply saying the words "break up." This may cause him to ignore you because he feels awkward talking to you so soon.

Talk to Him at School

With school starting, you're probably anticipating an uncomfortable first interaction. But it doesn't have to be. Be the bigger person and approach him. All you have to say is "hi" or simply smile or wave. Acknowledging him will show that there's no hard feelings and it will make him feel more comfortable talking to you when he's ready. And when you do get to talk, take him aside and ask him why he was avoiding you. But make sure you have this conversation in private. You may not get an honest answer if his or your friends are present.

Have Your Say

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EndlessDream posted in Friends:
Hmmm....Then she mustn't be necessarily "using" you, if she is not getting something in return ( As far as we know of). However, It does sound like she is being extremely unfair. That just might be how she is. Not exactly loyal to anyone. Well, try to talk to her about it and tell her how you feel. And, if it doesn't work out, then she might not be a great friend to hang around with, and maybe you will find someone else who enjoys your company. I hope this helps, and good luck :)
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XxIHateMathxX posted in Friends:
No not really. Like I said, one minute she's all smiley and then she doesn't even look at me. Most of the time I see her with Daniela and Andrea. Today she was asking me if I was going to hang out with her, Daniela, Andrea and Luisa during recess. When I told her that I was 'going to have to think' she was like, "Whatever." and ran off to catch up with the Threesome. Thanks. :)
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EndlessDream posted in Friends:
Is she asking you to do things for her? Like help with homework, carry her books and so on?
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XxIHateMathxX posted in Friends:
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