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Dear Dish-it: My Boyfriend Won't Talk to Me

Aug 16, 2013

Dear Dish-it,

School is about to start and my boyfriend hasn't talked to me all summer. When school starts, what do I do?

Ignored

Dear Ignored,

This is a hard question to answer because I don't know enough about your situation. If you've tried to contact your boyfriend and he still isn't talking to you - meaning that he's purposely ignoring you - then consider your last interaction. Is he mad at you? Did you guys get into an argument? Perhaps you owe him an apology for something. 

Are You Still Together?

The other possibility is that he doesn't think you guys are still going out. In this case, also consider your last interaction. Did he say anything to you that sounded like a break up? Key phrases like: "I think we were better as friends", or "I'm not happy in this relationship". Sometimes guys think they've made themselves clear, even though us girls don't have a clue what they were getting at. He could have been trying to break up, but was afraid of simply saying the words "break up." This may cause him to ignore you because he feels awkward talking to you so soon.

Talk to Him at School

With school starting, you're probably anticipating an uncomfortable first interaction. But it doesn't have to be. Be the bigger person and approach him. All you have to say is "hi" or simply smile or wave. Acknowledging him will show that there's no hard feelings and it will make him feel more comfortable talking to you when he's ready. And when you do get to talk, take him aside and ask him why he was avoiding you. But make sure you have this conversation in private. You may not get an honest answer if his or your friends are present.

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