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Dear Dish-it: My Boyfriend Won't Talk to Me

Aug 16, 2013

Dear Dish-it,

School is about to start and my boyfriend hasn't talked to me all summer. When school starts, what do I do?

Ignored

Dear Ignored,

This is a hard question to answer because I don't know enough about your situation. If you've tried to contact your boyfriend and he still isn't talking to you - meaning that he's purposely ignoring you - then consider your last interaction. Is he mad at you? Did you guys get into an argument? Perhaps you owe him an apology for something. 

Are You Still Together?

The other possibility is that he doesn't think you guys are still going out. In this case, also consider your last interaction. Did he say anything to you that sounded like a break up? Key phrases like: "I think we were better as friends", or "I'm not happy in this relationship". Sometimes guys think they've made themselves clear, even though us girls don't have a clue what they were getting at. He could have been trying to break up, but was afraid of simply saying the words "break up." This may cause him to ignore you because he feels awkward talking to you so soon.

Talk to Him at School

With school starting, you're probably anticipating an uncomfortable first interaction. But it doesn't have to be. Be the bigger person and approach him. All you have to say is "hi" or simply smile or wave. Acknowledging him will show that there's no hard feelings and it will make him feel more comfortable talking to you when he's ready. And when you do get to talk, take him aside and ask him why he was avoiding you. But make sure you have this conversation in private. You may not get an honest answer if his or your friends are present.

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donteatcarrots
donteatcarrots posted in Friends:
This is a really weird situation... Maybe she's feeling sorry for you?
reply about 7 hours
AnneS12
AnneS12 posted in Family Issues:
Well That is your choice who you want to stay with.Nobody can force you about it.When your parents see a family<a data-cke-saved-href=" lawyer, then he will ask you whom do you want to stay with and jury will decide.So dont worry .
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worldqweencc
worldqweencc posted in Friends:
I'm not quiet sure what's a real friend and what's a fake one anymore. I know when there's a friend who's only a school friend rather than an 'outside' friend as well, but at the same time it makes me so confused. Here's my story: There's a girl named Xian. We had a unique way of becoming friends ... but it clicked. For the whole year I've been trying to keep in contact with her ... but she's not very willing to try and put in any effort to stay in contact with me. Her personality is beyond sweet, and her skills at art are even better. If she was to have an award, it would be a giant trophy with her face plastered on it and big bold letters listing 'Nicest Girl In The World!' ... Its just ... she lied to me.  I was all about this friendship. I was ... i'll admit ... sort of a lost puppy following around her owner.  So, I got her this T-Shirt she really wanted for her birthday, and not long her birthday was mine, April First. I was expecting at least a letter, or maybe even something cheap. It didn't really matter to me.  But on my birthday she didn't even come to school. Nor when she got back did she ever say sorry, or give me any be-lated gift of any sort.  That should have been my first clue. Even my mother started catching on. My second clue was she even told me she was oblivious and wasn't good at keeping in contact. I thought she was joking. How could a friendship so sweet be tossed out just like that? My third one was near the end of school, one of her friends in elementary was bragging about the plushies she got from Xian. Apparently she had four from her.  Xian had originally told me it was AGAINST her religion to give out gifts to other people. I knew she wasn't lying about her religion in general, because I met her mom on a field trip and she was quiet ... different. But I didn't understand why Xian had gotten so many small plushies for her, and yet not a single small stamp for me? My last clue was the last day of school. She didn't even try to say good-bye or even hang out with me for that matter. I know what you're thinking. "Girl, you've gotta be kidding me if you can't see that she has no intention of being your friend!" But this girl was the nicest to me. She stood next to me during harsh times, and comforted me when I was down. She told me I was important.  And you don't get many friends to do those special things to you. It was rare to have a friend make me feel so tall and worthy.  ... So ... I can't understand ... why'd she do all that .... and suddenly ... just ... walk away ...
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catsandpizza
catsandpizza posted in Style:
American Apparel croptop, Juicy Couture velvet sweatpants and Uggs
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Heyyyyy_
Heyyyyy_ posted in Friends:
"donteatcarrots" wrote:I dunno, looks like something more than being friends is going on here. It's probably best to ask her face-to-face though, before jumping to conclusions. ^^^
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