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Dear Dish-It, I Haven't Hit Puberty Yet

Dear Dish-It, is thinkin' about this some more, so TTYL.


Dear Dish-It,

I am 14 and have hardly any breasts, no figure or a sexy, girly body - and I have freckles. My friends used to look like me but now that they have hit puberty, they are just spurting and they have flat tummies, etc. I am not obese - I just have some baby fat on my tummy. Help!
Coolgurl

Dear Coolgurl,

I know this is going to sound lame, but you really just have to be patient. It's tough when you and your friends are suddenly growing at different rates, especially when you're the late bloomer of the group. Did you know that the average American woman doesn't have fully developed breasts until she is at least 17, if not a bit older? The fact is that you are going to look different than your friends for the rest of your life - but that's not a bad thing. The great thing about women is that they come in all different shapes and sizes, each one beautiful in her own way. You're still quite young and it may take your body a bit longer than everyone else's to fill out but that's ok. Although you may not be entirely happy with your looks right now, it's important to embrace the body you've got and not compare yourself to others. Hang in there and I'm positive you'll catch up to the rest of the girls in no time!

So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex, how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to Dish-It here. But 'member, if ya hang out in Chat with other Kidzworld members who know ya by your 'username', ya might wanna use a secret nickname when ya write in. That way no one'll ever know it's you. And, just in case ya don't know, Dish-It gets a lotta letters everyday, and she can't answer 'em all. So keep checkin' the column cuz she's prob'ly answerin' somethin' very similar to your question while you're out doin' somethin' else. K? And Thanks! Ya keep her outta trouble. Oh! And if ya've got words of wisdom you wanna share,.

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Xero
Xero posted in Friends:
Is there someone you can tell? Like a parent or some other adult? What do you expect us to do? 
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aditicoolsome posted in Style:
fully tomboy
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ValenciaRose
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What's the difference between emo and goth? :confused I wouldn't know I'm awful when it comes to stereotypes although mean girls and the DUFF have been very educational.  My style is meeeeee :love the style that always changes. But I have always been an outcast, so I'd rather just be a loner or something. 
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Baby260
Baby260 posted in Friends:
Sixteen and Twenty-one? Ah nah. This isn't okay at all. I think your parents or you should tell her parents. This is the only way.
reply about 1 hour
PotterDrinksWater
While engagement isn't illegal for juveniles, marriage is as you can already tell. Judging by your feelings, I don't think the relationship will last long enough for him to be able to wait. I heard some courts will allow it, depending on location. Knowing whether her engagement is okay is a tricky thing. She seems pretty confident in the relationship. As for your own feelings, how well do you know him? Do you have any knowledge about him outside their love life? Do her parents know anything about him? If you don't now the answers, don't be afraid to ask them to her or her parents. I'm also a 16-year-old girl and I don't feel comfortable with it. Many young adults have a hard time understanding the transition from  teen to adult, but if he's put his problems on her, that's a bad sign. I don't think 5 months is long enough in my opinion and I think this could lead to making bad habits in a relationship. I appreciate that you're trying to help your friend be safe. Hopefully some of her closest people will help her with you. They don't necessarily have to steer her against him, but they should help guide her into deciding what's best ad how to carry on from that.
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