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Dear Dish-It Weighs in About the Dangers of Cutting & Self-Harm

August 22, 2017

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I get countless questions about self-harm.It is a topic that comes up a lot. Don’t self-harm because you could really hurt yourself one day, and take it too far. Regardless, problems that occur in your life are not your fault and you don’t have to take it out on yourself. Work with a professional to find coping skills to stop cutting because this behavior is not good for you. Today on Dear Dish-It’s “Let’s Talk About it Tuesday” we are going to be looking at questions from kids and teens who are self-harming, or are thinking about it. This is a very serious issue and if you know someone who is cutting you need to report it. 

Let’s Take a Look at This Week’s Questions:

Don't neglect your wellness. Don't neglect your wellness.

Question by Harming Horror

Back at the start of October, I started to cut myself. My mum found out very easily, and I thought it had all blown off, but I started to get depressed again in February or March. I went back to self-harm and my mum found out yet again in April. Now she says horrible things about me and we have never had a good relationship. She never trusts me and how is she supposed to start trusting me again if she doesn't little by little? I love her but she can be a bit nasty or unreasonable or sometimes even completely unsupportive. She doesn't understand anything about this and neither does her boyfriend. My dad doesn't know and he is back in prison AGAIN (although it was just something pathetic this time) but it's been 7 months and he hasn't contacted me at all. How do I get a better relationship with both my mum and my dad? (My dad is in prison for 5 and a half years but maybe some contact? He's a good dad. Apart from the letting down part. But he's good with kids.) ( also self-harming will NEVER happen again.)       

Insight/Advice:

I’m happy to hear you say that the cutting will stop, but you don’t know that for sure. Anything could happen to set you off. You really need to deal with this problem. Try talking to your mom again and let her know how serious it is. You can’t quit on your own, you need support and the proper help. You also need to address the issues that you have with your mom in the hope that they will improve. If you say your dad is a good guy try reaching out to him. Does he talk to your mom? Maybe he can try talking to her? Either way, someone has to take this matter seriously and get you the help that you deserve. 

You feel the pain is so deep no one could understand it.You feel the pain is so deep no one could understand it.

Question by Helpless

Okay, where do I start? There are so many things going on in my life that I don't even know where to begin. It all started 2 years ago. Two  boys started bullying me because I was Jewish. I got really upset and told my mom, who told the school. The two boys got in trouble. But next year, my first year of middle school, another boy started bullying me. He called me things like "fat" and "Stupid" and he told me to "just kill yourself already." I became depressed and I started to self harm. I also became anorexic and never ate. My mom found out again and told the school counselor. She called both me and the boy into her office and made him apologize. Afterwards, he kept giving me dirty looks in the halls. It was fine for about a year. Then a boy who lived across the street from me told me that he liked me. We started hanging out a lot and I actually started liking him, until he embarrassed me in front of all his friends. Then he did something really mean to my brother, who was his best friend at the time. That was the last straw for me, and I absolutely hate him now. I started doing bad things. I would steal money and buy useless junk with it. I stopped doing my homework. Instead of being a straight-A student, I started getting B's and C's and sometimes even D's. Then my biggest shock hit me. At the ripe old age of 12, I found out I was lesbian. It was... well, it was a surprise. I decided to just accept it and deal with it. I didn't tell anyone except my mom, who was also lesbian. Somehow, though, a girl at my school found out about it. Not only that, but everything else. She told the entire school about how I was "an emo lesbian failure who cut herself and stole money." My life was ruined. I am currently trying to deal with this. I can't take it any more and sometimes have suicidal thoughts. What do I do?

Insight/Advice:

Sounds like you are dealing with a lot. Firstly, do not self-harm or think of harming yourself. Suicide is never the solution, though at times we just want to escape what we are experiencing. Sometimes the pain is just too intense. Not everyone is going to accept you, but what matters is that you accept yourself. Love yourself enough to not let anyone make you want to leave. Stop acting out. You need to talk about your feelings not do “bad thing”, if you are an all A student that is something to be proud of and you shouldn’t let any person influence you to give it up. Focus on yourself and how you can get back to a good place. Pay less attention to others and they won’t affect you as much, in fact, don’t let them affect you. Words are hurtful and people can be cruel but you decide how you let them rub off on you. Be strong, you can get through this.

Find what works for you and stick to it.Find what works for you and stick to it.

Question by Violet423

Recently, every night, my legs get a REALLY bad itch. Whenever the itching starts, I immediately think, "I should go to the kitchen and get a knife and cut my legs. Then I'd replace the itch with pain. Pain, I can handle. Itching, not so much." I use lotion, but that doesn't really seem to help until about half an hour later. I've never actually cut my legs when given this thought, but it's my first thought constantly. I don't know if this is mental or physical but it's so constant. What should I do?

Insight/Advice:

I think it’s dangerous that you have the urge to self-harm. You need to figure out why this is occurring. What goes through your mind when this happens? Talk to your parents, there has got to be something else which they can do for your leg. If the urge to cut continues, I would go see a professional to help you work through this

Focus on self love and not self harm.Focus on self love and not self harm.

Question by bloodymess

I have been cutting my wrists for about five months and when I told my best friend about it, her reaction made me want to stop. So I have been clean for about two weeks now and starting to freak out. I want to be addicted to something else now like drugs but that would be stupid. so hears my question, how do I get rid of my addictions and keep myself from cutting again?

Insight/Advice:

I would suggest seeing an Addictions Counselor who can provide you with tools and the proper coping mechanism to help with this. I am glad to see you’ve stopped, but it won’t entirely stop until you stop for the right reasons. You can’t just stop for a friend, you have to stop for you. Do you want to stop? Some suggestions are finding something healthy to be addicted to like working out or writing in your journal. Though being addicted to anything isn't really healthy. You need to find alternative activities which will distract you from the urge.

Self care can be exercised in a number of ways.Self care can be exercised in a number of ways.

Afterthoughts

What is cutting? Cutting is a way some kids and teens attempt to survive pain, strong emotions, intense pressure, or difficult interpersonal problems. The person might be coping with feelings that appear to be too difficult to face such as bad situations they feel like can't change.

Some people cut as a result of feeling desperate for relief from negative feelings. It is possible that those who cut do not know any better ways to gain relief from their emotions, pains or pressure. Some people cut to release powerful feelings of angst, depression, rejection, desperation, longing, emptiness or loneliness.

Don't harm yourself, learn to love yourself.Don't harm yourself, learn to love yourself.

Cutting is a very serious and dangerous matter. If you’re not careful it can kill you. Who is to say that you don’t have a really bad day and take it too far? It is like playing with fire. You need to look into alternative forms of coping. You need to see your doctor as soon as possible so that you can get the help that you need. It is not normal to self-harm ourselves, so if we are we need to find out why and how to stop it.

Never let your emotions drive you to this impulse. I know that it provides a sense of relief, but it is the wrong way to achieve this feeling. No matter what you think, it is not your fault so never take things out on yourself. Never inflict self-harm. When you are feeling like you want to cut, talk to someone, seek help, go for a walk, call a friend, do whatever you can to not self-harm. Make agreements with friends that you will not self-harm, and keep away objects and items that you can self-harm with.

Nothing is worth physically hurting yourself over. There are other ways to get through, and once you find those skills may you never self-harm again.

Helplines & Resources: 

  • TeenMentalHealth.org
  • KidsHealth - A safe, private place for kids & teens who need honest, accurate information and advice about health, emotions, and life.
  • Teen Line - A helpline for kids and teens to work through their personal issues and mental health as needed.  1-800-TLC-TEEN or 1-800-852-8336 (Toll Free US & Canada).
  • Mind Infoline – Information on self-harm and a helpline to call in the UK at 0300 123 3393 or text 86463.
  • Kids Help Phone – A helpline for kids and teens in Canada to call for help with any issue, including cutting and self-injury. Call 1-800-668-6868. (Kids Help Phone)
  • Kids Helpline – A helpline for kids and young adults in Australia to get help with issues including cutting and self-harm. Call 1800 55 1800. (Kids Helpline)

On a housekeeping note, I continue to get questions about body changes, periods and female hygiene. As I am not a medical professional, you need to see your doctor on these matters. Questions submitted of this nature will be ignored. My sincere apologies. 

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