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All About Gay Parents

All About Gay Parents - Reviewed by Kidzworld on Dec 27, 2006
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First comes love, then comes marriage, and then comes the baby in the baby carriage. So the story goes for men and women, but what about two women or two men who want to have a baby?

First comes love, then comes marriage, and then comes the baby in the baby carriage - or so the saying goes. But we all know that families are lot more complicated than that. Kidzworld takes a look at the issues facing gay parents.

Gay Parents - Where do Babies Come From?

We've got a few questions from members about the technicalities of how gay parents have children. Adoption is one way that gay couples can have children but many gay parents have biological children too. First, the obvious problem - if nature requires sperm to fertilize an egg for a woman to become pregnant, then how do two people of the same gender have a baby? The quick answer is: with outside help. The issue can be a little simpler for lesbian couples. They can turn to a sperm bank where someone unknown to them has donated sperm, or perhaps ask a close male friend. These clinics are run by a professional medical staff and are also used to help heterosexual (straight) couples dealing with infertility.
For gay male couples, adoption and surrogacy are the main two options. Surrogacy is when a woman carries a baby in her uterus for another couple (gay or straight). She could use her own egg or the egg of another woman, depending on the individual circumstances. Whatever the case, a legal agreement would be drawn up before hand giving custody to the gay parents.

Gay Parents - Love and the Law

The law varies in regards to gay parents depending on the country you live in and the individual state. Adoption by same-sex couples is completely legal in Guam, Andorra, Belgium, Canada, England and Wales, Iceland, the Netherlands, Sweden, South Africa, and Spain. Some countries and some US states won't let same-sex couples adopt, but many will. In the US, Florida is the only state that completely prohibits adoption by same-sex couples but Mississippi, Oklahoma, Colorado and Utah all make adoption by same-sex couples impossible by only allowing married couples to adopt - and gay marriage is illegal in those states. The American Psychological Association supports adoption by same-sex couples as do many academic bodies, who say that there is strong data that children raised by gay couples are no different than those who are raised by straight couples.

Kidz Submit by:

Nickname: SummerCutie341
Age: 16

1 I don't think that being gay is right. When I get married, IT WILL BE TO A MAN!

Kidz Submit by:

Nickname: BMA
Age:12

1 I really don't agree with SummerCutie341 but she has a right to her opinions. Some people grew up thinking that if you're not heterosexual then it's a sin. But I personally think it's OK and it is a person's choice who he/she wants to be with. I'm personally planning on getting married to a man, though, so I do agree with SummerCutie341 on that one.

Kidz Submit by:

Nickname: joahnie
Age:13

1 Thanks for writing this from a good point of view. Everyone should be able to have kids, even if they are gay. I have two moms and they are my favorite people in the world. I wouldn't pick diffrent parents for a million dollars!

Kidz Submit by:

Nickname: kizzy333
Age: 13

1 I'm not gay but I really dislike homophobic peeps. If two peeps of the same sex are in love, what's the harm in it? My mum's friend is a lesbian and she hasn't changed. She's a really loving parent too. It's da bomb!

Kidz Submit by:

Nickname: darnpplz
Age: 16

1 I am a bit curious... so if gay parents have kids, how do the kids themselves feel? Wouldn't they need a dad too? What are your views on that?

Kidz Submit by:

Nickname: chata bird
Age: 14

1 I don't agree with cheergirl_dolphin. I don't care if they are gay or not. Let people be who they want to be.

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Gay Parents - Right or Wrong?

  • It's okay to have gay people raising kids.
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  • I don't know.

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PARTYHAT
PARTYHAT posted in Family Issues:
hey,  im so sorry about that, but one thing this reminds me of is my grandpa. he passed away when my dad was 12 years old and i never got to see him, he sounds soo nice. keep going  :thumbsup
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Littkekawaiiigirl
I have a friend, she was so nice and funny when my best friend and I met her on the first day of school. As months passed she started getting annoying. The way she texts, acts, and talks is starting to get annoying. Then she is becoming such a drama queen now. What should I do?
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Kirsteeeeen
Thank you for sharing something that has helped you cope with loss, and I'm sorry that you lost your friend and had to go through the grief and pain. I don't know what it is like, but I know there are a lot of people who do and would appreciate that you shared that way of coping. I hope that you are continuing to find more ways to deal with it, and don't forget those good memories you have with her. They'll always be yours to cherish.
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Kirsteeeeen
Hi Wonderfulcalico, I'm sorry to hear you're in such a bad situation. It must be tough, and it must be having a profound negative impact on you and those around you. It sounds like your mom has some things she needs to work out. But know that this behaviour from your parents is not okay. You shouldn't have to be subjected to this type of environment, which is toxic for your health physically and mentally. It also sounds like it is physically dangerous and it is making you live in fear, which is not okay. It is NOT your fault. If you feel that you are being abused, please get another trusted adult involved. Don't act on things that make you feel unsafe or confront your parents directly if you know they will act in a dangerous way. Your safety is number one. Try contacting another adult such as a teacher, a nurse, a doctor, a worship leader, social worker, child protective services, or call the police. Remember that 911 is also an option in any emergency, and that includes yourself being in danger from physical abuse. You can also call Your Life, Your Voice at 1-800-448-3000 , message them online, or even text them, or contact another local help line that you know. Please take care of yourself and stay safe. I know you may not want to do any of these things, and it's okay to feel that way, but also remember how important your safety is and make that a priority. 
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KayKayZ
KayKayZ posted in Friends:
Hmm, okay, well I'll try to give you the best advice that I can, Error. So you say you don't like your friend for a number of reasons: Liar, bad influence, uses swear words, too blunt, etc. I feel like some of these could be over-looked, such as the swearing and the 'bad influence' part. Really, all you have to do is just not copy her actions, and they won't be influential at all. If you disagree, it shouldn't be hard to just refuse to follow in her steps. However, lying isn't the best quality I would look for in a friend.  She doesn't seem like an enjoyable person to be around in general, which is why you are making this post, obviously. But I'm gonna ask you something here. Don't you think that, in a way, you're lying too? You're pretending to be her friend solely for purposes of monetary value because, I assume, your family cannot pay for or get you to gymnastic class themselves. If this is true, that's kind of bad, isn't it? It sounds like, to me, that your friendship isn't exactly a healthy relationship at all. But I'm gonna sympathize with you, since I know gymnastics must be important to you, and you wouldn't be doing this if you didn't have a good reason. So, what should you do about it? Well, personally I think there are a few things you could do. You could stop being her friend, therefore no longer having to deal with her; but in the process lose access to your gymnastics class and have to look for it in another way. On the flip side, you could continue to put up with her, which would probably not be in your best interests, but you'd still get to attend your class. Or, you could try talking to her about it. Ask her what she really thinks of your friendship, if she actually values you as her friend. Maybe you two can talk about problems that you're having with each other and work on fixing them. This option could have negative effects, since she might want to stop being your friend or things could become very awkward after that. But it's probably your best bet to be honest with her, as you'd hope she would be with you. How about if you tried being really nice to her? Kindness is contagious, and perhaps if you treat her well enough, she'll start doing the same to you. I feel like maybe if you complimented her, told her things that you really like about her, maybe even got her gifts or made her food once in a while, that she would come to appreciate you and all that you do for her. And in turn, she might start to respect you more herself, and become a good friend. That's about all I can say. If you're close enough with her mom, maybe you could even try asking her about her daughter and see if she can give you any advice. Hopefully that helped in some way, but if it didn't, maybe it at least made you think? I hope your problem gets resolved, Error, and you can be content with the outcome of it. :-)
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