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Dear Dish-It, I Want To Date My BFF

Does My BFF Like Me?

Dear Dish-It,

Me and my BFF (who is a boy) have been told that we should go out so many times by other kids at school, but I don't know if he likes me in that way. I would love to go out with him, but I don't want to wreck our friendship. We've been round to each other’s houses loads, gone into town together, but does he like-like me???

DesperateCrush


Dear DesperateCrush,


Only one person can tell you if he “like-likes” you beyond friendship, and that’s your BFF himself. However, BEFORE you go ahead and tell him how you really feel, I have a bit of advice for you.


The first thing is, you need to sit down and have a long, hard think about the possible outcome of telling your best friend you like him or asking him if he likes you. And that is the possible end of your close friendship. If he doesn’t feel the deeper feelings you feel toward him, he may get scared and distance himself from you.


Of course, the opposite could be true, too. You could have the conversation with him and get a positive answer back. Which would be great, except it’s really not 100% guaranteed, is it?


What about casually bringing up the fact that other kids at school have been commenting on your close friendship and saying the two of you should be boyfriend and girlfriend? You could bring it up with him as a casual conversation with no strings attached and ask him how he feels about the rumours. The trick is not to let on how you feel until he tells you how he feels about it first. Maybe you could get a better understanding of his feelings about the situation this way?


Of course, he could be equally scared that you don’t like him back as more than a friend and keep his feelings bottled up. My best advice to you is to keep your radar on and try your best to feel out the situation without directly telling him your true feelings until you know his. You may be able to tell if he likes you or not by his body language, words and actions.


So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to Dish-It here. Send all of your questions to deardish@kidzworld.com But 'member, if ya hang out in Chat with other Kidzworld members who know ya by your 'username', ya might wanna use a secret nickname when ya write in. That way no one'll ever know it's you. And, just in case ya don't know, Dish-It gets a lotta letters everyday, and she can't answer 'em all. So keep checkin' the column cuz she's prob'ly answerin' somethin' very similar to your question while you're out doin' somethin' else. K? And Thanks! Ya keep her outta trouble. Oh! And if ya've got words of wisdom you wanna share,We'll dish 'em up, too.


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    whatdaheck

    whatdaheck wrote:

    just remain the desp crush forever man! die alone girl...die
    commented: Sun May 19, 2013

    -ZeroHero-

    -ZeroHero- wrote:

    Okay,so I was trying to comment ''I Love you'' in japanese and the filter warned me .-.
    commented: Sun May 19, 2013

    miss blanks

    miss blanks wrote:

    Umhh mii bestfriend already dated like 50000 times but that wnt happen again ohh god!! ...
    commented: Sat Jan 19, 2013

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