Dear Dish-It, It Really Hurt My Friend

Dear Dish-It, is here to whisper "ttyl after I've thought about this some more".

Dear Dish-It,

My best friend is in love with a guy, but she is very shy and doesn't know how to talk to him. We planned to have a party at my house so she could get all hyper and show him who she really was, but there was one BIG problem. One of our friends started flirting with him, touching, feeling, massaging... you get the picture. She knew our plan and knew exactly what we were going to do, but she couldn't keep her hands off of him! It was gross. Even I didn't like it. It really hurt my friend. What should I do? And what should my friend do to get him to notice her? How should she talk to him? What should she say?
Princess Buffy

Dear Princess Buffy,

With friends like that, who needs enemies? This girl who you call "one of our friends" is obviously not your friend. If I were you, I would tell her that. Even if this "friend" liked the same guy as your best friend, it's not cool to just make a play for him like that, especially since she knew about your plan. She should have told your BFF that she was interested too, instead of flirting with him in front of her. You should tell her all of this and then stop hanging out with her.

As for your burned best friend, tell her not to stress about things so much and just hang out with him and let him know she's interested. Maybe you guys could throw another party, but next time don't invite the "friend."

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