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Dear Dish-It, My BFF Always Likes the Guys I Like

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Advice About BFFs

Dear Dish-It,

I have this really great best friend. Every time I tell her I like someone, she says she likes him too. This has happened many times and I always step back so she could have the guy and so I could be a good friend. What I wanna know is, am I being a good friend?
LATiN_GURL


Dear LATiN_GURL,

You're not just being a good friend... you're being a total pushover. Why else would you step back and let your best friend have him... er, all of them? She's walking all over you and stealing all of your crushes and potential boyfriends because you're letting her! You need to speak up for yourself and let her know you're not happy with what's going down. Chances are, she already realizes what she's doing is wrong, but is doing it anyway cuz you seem like you're fine with it.


As for your BFF, she isn't a great best friend if she's moving in on every guy you like. I know lots of best friends who have similar tastes in guys, so liking the same guy could happen once or twice. But if it happens more often than you change your socks, then you need to start questioning your friendship.


So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .


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    MonasYou

    MonasYou wrote:

    It's true I have a BFF at school that hada crush on mine
    commented: Sun Dec 29, 2013

    Liyah_Mahone

    Liyah_Mahone wrote:

    That happened to once but in the end he liked neither of us but me and him are like rea...
    commented: Tue Jul 23, 2013

    snuggle puppy

    snuggle puppy wrote:

    How do you ask dear dish it stuff?
    commented: Thu Mar 28, 2013

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