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Dear Dish-It, Do I Tell Him I Like Him?

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Dear Dish-It


Dear Dish-It,

Heya! I've been writimg U lots of messages and questions but U don't answer ... anyway, here's the prob... hear me out. There's this guy at my school and I see him often. I think I'm really fallin' for him. I really like him but I don't know if he likes me back. I am shy so I don't try to talk to him but I always look at him. I've seen him looking at me sometimes but I still don't know if he really does like me or not... Plz help me out here.
wicked_girl833


Dear wicked_girl833,

Sorry about not gettin' back to ya, but girlfriend, you would not believe my mail! I get a ton of questions each day and, unfortunately, can't repsond to everyone all the time. A lot of the questions are similar too so, even though I don't respond to yours specifically, you should be able to take the advice I give others and apply it to your Q.


Now, as for your problem... there is no magic solution. I can't give you a special trick to find out if he likes you or a codeword or something... the fact is, you need to buck-up and show the dude some love. If you don't give him some sign you're interested, he may think you don't know he's alive. Most guys, crushing or not, aren't going to open themselves up for what seems like definite rejection. Smile at him next time you catch him lookin' your way. Say hi in the hallway. If he likes you, it'll move the process along. If he doesn't, there's still no harm in being friendly.


Dear Dish-It,

I like this kid named Jordan a lot. I've never had strong feelings for anyone and now I do! I am going to the movies with him on Friday. I hope he doesn't stand me up and I hope he doesn't think I am fat and ugly. What should I do - tell him I like him or just go to the movies and kiss? Love ya, c-ya, thanks!
Jordans_Girl


Dear Jordans_Girl,

I'll tell ya what you should do - you should RELAX! This Jordan dude obviously likes you or he wouldn't have asked you out to begin with. First dates are always nerve-racking but you'll be able to handle it. The key is to not overthink it. I don't think you should profess your undying love to him, or make-out like crazy with him. Just watch the darn movie so you have something to talk about on the way home. Also, holding hands and a subtle kiss goodnight are good ways to let him know you're interested.


Dear Dish-It,

My best friend's boyfriend wants to date me. He doesn't know we're friends, although he has seen me with her. He broke up with her for me. I like him but I don't want to hurt my friend's feelings. What should I do??? PLEASE ANSWER THIS LETTER REALLY SOON!
kuttie14


Dear Dish-It,

How many times do I have to tell you peeps? You don't date your friends' exes. Why? Because you'll lose a friend (in this case a BEST friend) and the guys who date friends are usually pond scum. You say this dude "doesn't know we're friends" - doubt it! He saw you together and you weren't yelling at each other, or beating each other up - he knows. You need to think about how much your best friend means to you, and how you would feel if someone did this to you. Then, go with whatever you can live with... but I wouldn't date my BFF's ex.


So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .


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    SkittlesQueen130
    i told this one boy that i liked him and he liked me to and now me and him r going out
    commented: Tue Jan 28, 2014

    XxCryXx

    XxCryXx wrote:

    I told my crush I liked him but he didn't like me back that way, but we are still good ...
    commented: Tue Jan 28, 2014

    Crystaliana

    Crystaliana wrote:

    I really can't tell him........i am not able to anything after seeing him.................
    commented: Wed Dec 04, 2013

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    SelenaGomezFanGirl
    ...im not too sure what the brown stuff is,but since you said you have not done it,you should trust yourself.And talk about it to your mom!I'm sure she will give you the best of advices and stuff because she would have probably experienced it before.So,don't be afraid,and approach her when she's vacant!Good Luck!
    reply about 20 hours
    SelenaGomezFanGirl
    no you shouldn't!I bet, the friends that are pressuring you are girls only because they are jealous of your girl,because of her personality and style,and probably, most likely that they wanna be your girlfriend as well! ~~comment me back if you like!:)                                                          
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    OptimisticJollygirl
    You are perfect the way you are.
    reply 1 day
    InternetOwl
    InternetOwl posted in Friends:
    I'm not sure whether you have actual depression or not (Ask your doctor if you feel you do, they'll be able to help. ^^), but I'm really sorry you feel depressed. I've been there too, and it really does feel like no one cares.   I know you said it's awkward, but try talking to your dad about it. You said he's the only one who seems to listen, so I'm sure he will listen and try to understand. If you start feeling really depressed every day, try doing things to make you feel happier. I don't know what you like to do, but you should do things like relaxing, reading, talking to people and spending more time outside. Smiling more often can help relieve stress and make you happier as well. c: Try meeting new people too. It seems as though your current friends are bringing you down, so you can try to talk to them if you like or find more friends who'll listen and care about you (however, try to keep your old friends as well. They are your friends after all, and it's hard being lonely). You've got friends on here too. But please don't think about doing anything harmful to yourself. You might not be thinking like that now, but being depressed can lead people to this and it's really not the answer.  Good luck! ^u^  
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    FloraTheWolf
    FloraTheWolf posted in Friends:
    And you can add me as a friend if you want :D
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