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Dear Dish-It, Do I Tell Him I Like Him?

Advice for teens on dating, crushes, boyfriends, girlfriends and other teenage issues.

Advice on Crushes and Dating

Dear Dish-It

Dear Dish-It,

Heya! I've been writimg U lots of messages and questions but U don't answer ... anyway, here's the prob... hear me out. There's this guy at my school and I see him often. I think I'm really fallin' for him. I really like him but I don't know if he likes me back. I am shy so I don't try to talk to him but I always look at him. I've seen him looking at me sometimes but I still don't know if he really does like me or not... Plz help me out here.
wicked_girl833

Dear wicked_girl833,

Sorry about not gettin' back to ya, but girlfriend, you would not believe my mail! I get a ton of questions each day and, unfortunately, can't repsond to everyone all the time. A lot of the questions are similar too so, even though I don't respond to yours specifically, you should be able to take the advice I give others and apply it to your Q.

Now, as for your problem... there is no magic solution. I can't give you a special trick to find out if he likes you or a codeword or something... the fact is, you need to buck-up and show the dude some love. If you don't give him some sign you're interested, he may think you don't know he's alive. Most guys, crushing or not, aren't going to open themselves up for what seems like definite rejection. Smile at him next time you catch him lookin' your way. Say hi in the hallway. If he likes you, it'll move the process along. If he doesn't, there's still no harm in being friendly.

Dear Dish-It,

I like this kid named Jordan a lot. I've never had strong feelings for anyone and now I do! I am going to the movies with him on Friday. I hope he doesn't stand me up and I hope he doesn't think I am fat and ugly. What should I do - tell him I like him or just go to the movies and kiss? Love ya, c-ya, thanks!
Jordans_Girl

Dear Jordans_Girl,

I'll tell ya what you should do - you should RELAX! This Jordan dude obviously likes you or he wouldn't have asked you out to begin with. First dates are always nerve-racking but you'll be able to handle it. The key is to not overthink it. I don't think you should profess your undying love to him, or make-out like crazy with him. Just watch the darn movie so you have something to talk about on the way home. Also, holding hands and a subtle kiss goodnight are good ways to let him know you're interested.

Dear Dish-It,

My best friend's boyfriend wants to date me. He doesn't know we're friends, although he has seen me with her. He broke up with her for me. I like him but I don't want to hurt my friend's feelings. What should I do??? PLEASE ANSWER THIS LETTER REALLY SOON!
kuttie14

Dear Dish-It,

How many times do I have to tell you peeps? You don't date your friends' exes. Why? Because you'll lose a friend (in this case a BEST friend) and the guys who date friends are usually pond scum. You say this dude "doesn't know we're friends" - doubt it! He saw you together and you weren't yelling at each other, or beating each other up - he knows. You need to think about how much your best friend means to you, and how you would feel if someone did this to you. Then, go with whatever you can live with... but I wouldn't date my BFF's ex.

So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .