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Dear Dish-It, My Best Friend Is Always Judging Me

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Dear Dish-It,

My best friend is always judging me and if I wear something that shows even a little bit of chest, she calls me a tramp. It really hurts my feelings. At school, we have a newsletter. I'm editor and I'm also the advice columnist and she sent a fake letter to me saying:


Dear Dr. Phillis,

shows way too much


Dish-It, that was word-for-word of the letter. I want to be her friend, but I don't want her to judge me. What should I do?
lil_tink


Dear lil_tink,

Do you really want to be friends - and best friends at that - with someone who calls you mean names? I'm sure you've heard the saying, "With friends like these, who needs enemies?" You should really take that to heart! Friends don't put each other down like that cuz it's simply not cool. If she doesn't like your taste in clothes, she should let you know in a nice way, not call you nasty names. So tell your friend how upset you are. Ask her to stop judging your appearance and making cruel comments. If she's a good friend, she'll stop, but if she doesn't, then you're better off without her.


So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .


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brody213

brody213 wrote:

I have a friend who calls me mean names,but he's not my friend he's person I talk too. I don't want friends.
commented: Fri May 09, 2014

american_brit

american_brit wrote:

I was talking to my friend and we said "Best friends judge each other, so other people don't have to!" eh... there is some truth behind that(it was mostly an exaggeration), but TRUE best friends do in a way that doesn't hurt the other person.They'll let you know if they don't approve of something, but they'll do it NICELY. Dear-Dish is right. If your friend tells you things that seem hurtful, tell her -if she continues or doesn't care, then she isn't a true friend.
commented: Mon May 05, 2014

ettalm

ettalm wrote:

Like other people have said, if they are judging you are hurting you in any way, they aren't worthy of being your friend.
commented: Sat May 03, 2014

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