Dear Dish-It, My Best Friend Is Always Judging Me

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Dear Dish-It,
My best friend is always judging me and if I wear something that shows even a little bit of chest, she calls me a tramp. It really hurts my feelings. At school, we have a newsletter. I'm editor and I'm also the advice columnist and she sent a fake letter to me saying:

Dear Dr. Phillis,
My friend is a really big tramp and she shows way too much and I don't know how to tell her in a kind way. If she's going to be so trampy, then I don't want to be her friend. Dr. Phillis, what should I do?

Dish-It, that was word-for-word of the letter. I want to be her friend, but I don't want her to judge me. What should I do?
lil_tink

Dear lil_tink,
Do you really want to be friends - and best friends at that - with someone who calls you mean names? I'm sure you've heard the saying, "With friends like these, who needs enemies?" You should really take that to heart! Friends don't put each other down like that cuz it's simply not cool. If she doesn't like your taste in clothes, she should let you know in a nice way, not call you nasty names. So tell your friend how upset you are. Ask her to stop judging your appearance and making cruel comments. If she's a good friend, she'll stop, but if she doesn't, then you're better off without her.

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